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Old 11-15-2014, 06:58 AM
 
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We moved from India a year ago to johns creek, my son is attending 9 th grade in johns creek high, he is having trouble adjusting and making friends.. Wondering if we should move him to alpharetta high or Milton high... Any suggestions would be helpful.. We are looking at Milton, Cambridge , alpharetta high...he really wants to change and we want to support that.thank you
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Old 11-15-2014, 07:06 AM
 
Location: MMU->ABE->ATL->ASH
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Honestly Moving will not help, There is not alot of difference in the make-up of those different high school.

Has he Join'ed any clubs? Sports? Band?

Those are good ways of making friends.

9th grade is a blending year with all the middle school moving to one High School, the 1st weeks of schools is the time when the school does activities to merger the student bodies.

But he has to work at it. Sometimes He will need to put himself out there to find friends.

But if he goes to school, then goes home, and does homework, and is not into the social structure of school, not one will notice him,
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Old 11-15-2014, 07:37 AM
 
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We moved from India a year ago to johns creek, my son is attending 9 th grade in johns creek high, he is having trouble adjusting and making friends.. Wondering if we should move him to alpharetta high or Milton high... Any suggestions would be helpful.. We are looking at Milton, Cambridge , alpharetta high...he really wants to change and we want to support that.thank you
You would have to physically move, as Fulton will most likely not allow a transfer to the schools you listed.

The schools in N. Fulton are all very similar. I would think trying to get involved may be the better solution. Has he joined any clubs, teams etc?
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Old 11-15-2014, 08:51 AM
 
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If the kid wants to move, then I imagine that the social issues might be more than just not having friends. Moving isn't a bad idea in of itself, but it probably won't solve the problem by itself either. Try to get him plugged into social groups or activities that aren't related to school. He's lucky... its the 21st century and it is entirely possible to maintain friendships with people not in your immediate geographic vicinity.
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Old 11-15-2014, 09:18 AM
 
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High school is going to suck for him no matter where he is because high school sucks. He is a confused, insecure adolescent in a building with other confused, insecure adolescents.

Things will get better.
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Old 12-11-2014, 12:13 PM
 
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try Chattahoochee
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Old 12-11-2014, 12:47 PM
 
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We moved from India a year ago to johns creek, my son is attending 9 th grade in johns creek high, he is having trouble adjusting and making friends.. Wondering if we should move him to alpharetta high or Milton high... Any suggestions would be helpful.. We are looking at Milton, Cambridge , alpharetta high...he really wants to change and we want to support that.thank you
Why is he having trouble adjusting/making friends?
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Old 12-11-2014, 12:56 PM
 
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Just a FYI the OP has not been back to City-Data since she posted Month Ago.
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Old 12-11-2014, 01:01 PM
 
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As has been said, 9th grade is really hard....especially for boys (girls usually go through the same stuff in 7th and 8th grade).

It's natural to want to move, just like when you have a tough day at work, you want to quit. So I agree that moving will not change anything. As a child, I did move a lot, and it was pretty much the same deal at every school.

Unless there is a very serious problem like racism, excessive bullying, etc. I wouldn't move because a 14 year old is having a difficult time. You'll find yourself moving around every year.

Does Johns Creek High have a lot of Indian students? If you just moved from India, my guess is your family still has very Indian culture...and that may be holding him back from blending in. I would suggest either finding at least one friend that can relate to his culture, or exploring something he likes that others can also relate to. That can be anything....playing video games, building model rockets, heck I don't know, whatever he likes.

Parents often neglect the social needs of teenage boys because they seem strange. Whatever he likes to do, no matter how odd it seems to you, let him do it. And if he doesn't seem to like anything, don't push him, let him sort it out. I'm sure he does SOMETHING (he doesn't just stare at the wall all day). Whatever it is, other boys his age do it too and he can form a connection with it.

Some kids are just awkward and don't blend in well. And that's fine, I think all he really needs is one or two good friends to hang out with and blend in with. Also, you can help by becoming friendly with nearby families that have kids his age. Then they'll be kind of forced together...doesn't guarantee friendship, but it should at least get him some courteous interaction.
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Old 12-11-2014, 01:27 PM
 
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John's Creek High is something like 20% Asian.

Alpharetta High is about 15% Asian

Milton is only 6%.

That's why I was asking why he was having trouble - there are plenty of other Asian kids there, but not sure what the problem is. In any case - the OP never came back so who knows what the issue is.
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