Young, Black, Male & Normal? ... Too much to ask for (Atlanta: credit, hotel)

[BlueLuce]

I know you've all heard it before... NYers move down to Atlanta and cry about how different it is. Now don't get me wrong, I'm all for different, but within the range of normal is required. Let me explain...

I am a young, educated, black female that moved to Atlanta 2 years ago. At first, it was great. My friends, similar to my description, would go out to all the local places, enjoyed the local music, and have a pretty good time. After a year or so, the newness became monotonous and, quite frankly, disappointing. Every "new" place was a replica of the previous place - same music, same atmosphere, sometimes even the same people.

Now that my friends and I are aging into a new age bracket, from 18-25 to 26+, we are looking for new places, new people and new experiences. The problem is that the "grown & sexy" seems to only apply to 35+ in Atlanta. And, they are dominated by women, very competitive half dressed women.

SO, my question finally... Where are all the normal, young, black males in Atlanta? Do they stay in their houses, afraid to mingle with others? Do they only hang out in coffee shops duiring the day, worried about staying out when it gets dark out? Where are they???

P.S.
My non-exhaustive very basic definition of "normal:"
Independent, Employed, Posesses Goals, Maintains decent credit, College Educated (Yes, Associates degrees qualify), Family oriented, No children (I know, a tough thing to ask for)

P.P.S
Just asking, not complaining...

[Atlantasfinest]

Check out the new W in Midtown on Friday Nights...great place to meet the type of single men you are looking for. Ludacris' new restaurant Straits has a great scene, Halo Lounge is always one of my favorites, Fox Sports Grill in Atlantic Station, Shout, Strip, Twist restaurants maybe try the Velvet Room (Friday & Sunday), The Mark, Verve, Castleberry Hill, Utopia (Saturdays), Hawks & Falcons games, Greek Fraternity events are always good. Morehouse Homecoming & Clark Atlanta University homecoming are good places to meet people, alot of events during those weekends in the fall. Festivals and art events are good, The National Black Arts Fetival is going on so maybe you can meet some good men there? There are tons of places to go, you just have to get out there .

[LoufromNewYork]

Blue....that was me, well until I got married.

I have to say that if you do the things you love doing, you'll meet a lot of people or meet people that know people and find a connection that way.

A lot of the single guys I know are really into the work, and figure that they'll be able to give the woman they find t heir best when they have a lot of their professional ambitions addressed or at least lined up.

Meetup.com is for professional meetings, but if you work in particular field or have a specific kind of hobby, you'll probably find a bunch of people (read: men) that share that with you and you can take it from there. I might be coming from left field, but it makes things better when you have something already in common with a person as opposed to having to start from scratch.

[BlueLuce]

Or just stay home and post on the internet to let out all your frustration. Then go out have a couple let loose and go back to work Monday morning. LOL. Just a hypothesizing thats all...

[calipoppy]

Maybe you and your friends shouldn't restrict yourselves to only Black men...just saying.

[waronxmas]

I think LouFromNYC hit it on the head. Most men in that 22 to 30 age bracket that you would be interested in are generally really focused on moving up professionally. One piece of advice I can give is don't be afraid to ask your friends, or their friends, to hook up with guys they know. Also, like calipoppy was saying, don't restrict yourself to black men. If that's the kind of man you want to be with then that's cool, but there are a lot of guys from different backgrounds out there that are single in this city. No one is saying you should go out and marry them and stuff, but I'm sure you've noticed that interracial dating isn't really that big of a taboo in Atlanta.


As for destinations:

The W hotel bars are really great. Every time I've been to the one in Midtown I've had a great time and there was always a nice mix of grown (not old) people and not a single young broke kid in sight. LOL. Sambucca is also nice and has great music. Churchill grounds is also a nice little jazz spot.

There are plenty of others out there, but I can't really tell you off the top of my head since I'm married and not that cool anymore

[waronxmas]

BTW, I wish people would stop using the term "Grown and Sexy". I just want to punch my radio every time I hear something described that way. LOL

[AcidSnake]

Heh.

[AcidSnake]

Originally Posted by waronxmas

BTW, I wish people would stop using the term "Grown and Sexy". I just want to punch my radio every time I hear something described that way. LOL

Don't worry. "Cougar" is the new buzz word these days.

[waronxmas]

Originally Posted by AcidSnake

Don't worry. "Cougar" is the new buzz word these days.

LOL! I hate that one too! Every time I hear that term I think of a mid-50s woman wearing an animal print shirt (or body stocking), prowling some bar for a young guy. That's definitely grown, but NOT sexy