Child Visitation - HELP (Birmingham, Montgomery: mattress, felony, attorney)

[myagrammie]

My kids father (never married) has been granted visitation within the past 18 months and has now moved out of the city and county. Refuses to give me new address but still demands weekend visitation. I must drop kids off at his relatives house. I can't get in touch with anyone at the court. I have no attorney (can't afford one). Will I be held in contempt if I refuse to deliver my kids to him not knowing where they will be? PS: He was out of their lives for 5 years, has a felony record and was physically abusive to me in the past.

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[allinaday]

What do the divorce papers say? Mine says they are not allowed to move without giving you notice and the change of address......

[jakabedy]

OP says they were never married, so no divorce papers.

[Back Again]

Well I do not know, but here is a thought; Your kids Father was granted visitation, NOT his relatives, so I would say if he wants to exercise his visitation rights, let him come and pick the kids up! Why should you have to deliver them??? If he moved too far away, that's his problem, not yours.

Does the papers you were given on his rights state you most deliver them to him???

Please keep us posted.

Good Luck!

[allinaday]

I thought if you lived together so long you were considered married, at least in Alabama. Butk, if there are no divorce papers, there should be something in the custody papers. I am surprised he was able to get visitation with a felony record. I take it he is paying some sort of support?
I would contact an attorney Moderator cut: comment
Good luck... If I ever thought my child was in danger, I would not send him to see his dad. They could put in jail, I would not care.

[harry chickpea]

I think that was a pro-bono site and the attorney is not the posting person (who shows that he lives in FL).

My thought was that the OP didn't want the ex showing up on the doorstep, but yeah, generally the second parent has to do the work to get visitation. I absolutely have to withhold any pre-judging, as I know nothing of the situation other than the original post. I've seen too many situations where folks out and out lie about their ex's (male AND female).

[kygal502]

Call an attorney they have to give you a free consult over the phone. I would think someone would have to know where your children are.

[Back Again]

Originally Posted by kygal502

Call an attorney they have to give you a free consult over the phone. I would think someone would have to know where your children are.

Why do that HAVE TO give you free consult over the phone???

[myagrammie]

Thanks for all the replies. Me and the kids father dated and I got pregnant. When he found out he left after he first beat me and held a gun pointed at my belly. The baby was born and he showed up at the hospital as if nothing had happened. A few months later I ran into him and we tried to reconcile which led to me getting pregnant again - with twins. Again he was in/out of the picture. He took off to parts unknown and no contact for almost 5 years. Then out of the blue he calls me wanting to know if he gives me a divorce (we were never married and never lived together longer than 3 months) would I let him see the kids? Huh? I had lived in an abused shelter for 24 months because this man stalked me, my mother, my sister, shot at me, stabbed at me, abused me in front of the kids and tried to kidnap them from a bathroom window. I am a single mother, make ok money to make ends meet but nothing to where I can afford an attorney. He took me to court for visitation and WON! And considering he has an open felony charge on the books - I have no idea how. The judge said the physical abuse was toward me and not the kids so the kids would not be harmed. Yet the youngest daughter has asthma and is not supposed to be around dogs and he has 2 inside dogs, one with worms that sleeps on the same mattress (not even a real bed) with the kids. He texted me and told me not to call and not to bring the kids yet when its his weekend, he demanded to see them even though he moved over a hundred miles away. He has supervised weekend visits which means he stays at his uncles house. Now I finally found out the visitation rights expired in 3/08! Yet he is still demanding visitation, says he will bring a sheriff to my house - which my landlord already warned me if he caused any trouble I would be kicked out. I am out of my mind with worry. Thanks for letting me vent.