Do you find Bostonians to be friendly-or cold people? (New Bedford: transplants, how much)

[willdufauve]

Originally Posted by Ciao9999

New Englanders and Bostonians are cold.

Only outsiders can see it though. The people that are from here think it's normal.

[puffle]

I'm orginally from California and am on my second go round living in Ma. I can only speak from my personal experience which is people are much friendlier and genuine here than all my years living in "laid back" So. Ca. The kids here have been much warmer and welcoming of my newcomer teen than they ever were while living in many different places in Ca. That's a pretty good barometer for me.

[willdufauve]

Originally Posted by puffle

That's a pretty good barometer for me.

I'm glad it's working out good for you and your kids.

One thing to understand about Bostonians and New Englanders is a lot of people like to cultivate that crusty, aloof, taciturn self-image and don't want to give it up for mere niceness. Niceness is for the midwest.

[bwatkin5]

"Cold and aloof is not unfriendly..."

Yeah it is. It's called rude and stuck up. Perhaps the phrase "Get over yourself" comes into play. Not one person in this city is so busy that they can't take 3 freakin' seconds and say hi. And it doesn't matter if you are single or not, you are not that hot. Nobody wants you that bad.

Also, most of the women I've seen here are the rudest people I've seen anywhere in the country. I can't believe how self-absorbed and ignorant so many of the women here can be. My fiancee tried going to the bathroom and on her trip back from it, some lady intentionally walked down the steps to block her and then yelled at her about how important she was and saying "do you know who I am?". Also, they tend to be absolutely gross in public bathrooms. Almost every bathroom my fiancee has gone in has had pee and other substances all over the toilets or stalls. How does a women miss the toilet? Last time I heard, women sat when they used the bathroom.

[LeavingMA]

Originally Posted by bwatkin5

"Cold and aloof is not unfriendly..."

Yeah it is. It's called rude and stuck up. Perhaps the phrase "Get over yourself" comes into play. Not one person in this city is so busy that they can't take 3 freakin' seconds and say hi. And it doesn't matter if you are single or not, you are not that hot. Nobody wants you that bad.

Also, most of the women I've seen here are the rudest people I've seen anywhere in the country. I can't believe how self-absorbed and ignorant so many of the women here can be. My fiancee tried going to the bathroom and on her trip back from it, some lady intentionally walked down the steps to block her and then yelled at her about how important she was and saying "do you know who I am?". Also, they tend to be absolutely gross in public bathrooms. Almost every bathroom my fiancee has gone in has had pee and other substances all over the toilets or stalls. How does a women miss the toilet? Last time I heard, women sat when they used the bathroom.

Lol. Thanks for the laugh because it reminded me of quite a few experiences in Boston. My brother, friend, and I once started talking to a group of girls, just to ask a few questions, not to ask them out or hit on them, and a couple of the girls said, "we have boyfriends". I think I said, "thats nice". I almost then said, "I feel bad for him". I know other friends that just go out and say things to women in Boston (in the bars) just to see how ticked off they get and how fast the women becomes snobby. It is just a game because some of them are brutal. I usually just respond with, "nice sense of humor, you really should relax", which just gets them more upset.

In no other city have I or people I know get insulted just talking to a woman. I have met some nice women in Boston, but you'll soon figure out they are usually from outside of the metro Boston area.

[Periphrasis]

Originally Posted by LeavingMA

Lol. Thanks for the laugh because it reminded me of quite a few experiences in Boston. My brother, friend, and I once started talking to a group of girls, just to ask a few questions, not to ask them out or hit on them, and a couple of the girls said, "we have boyfriends". I think I said, "thats nice". I almost then said, "I feel bad for him". I know other friends that just go out and say things to women in Boston (in the bars) just to see how ticked off they get and how fast the women becomes snobby. It is just a game because some of them are brutal. I usually just respond with, "nice sense of humor, you really should relax", which just gets them more upset.

In no other city have I or people I know get insulted just talking to a woman. I have met some nice women in Boston, but you'll soon figure out they are usually from outside of the metro Boston area.

This happens in most cities, in my experience. Oftentimes, it's a matter of feeling safe. I live in New York right now, and I keep my guard up around guys. It's a matter of protecting myself, because you never know what kind of people you're dealing with. It's probably because whenever we walk down the sidewalk in these cities, there are always guys calling out to us, telling us to "give them a smile" and whatever.

[Chianti]

Funny thing about Boston women: compared to Southern women they are flat-out UUUUGGGGLLLLLYYYY. And they know it. Most Boston women have a flat-out DISLIKE for Southern women, even though most of them have never known a Southern girl. Thought that was always funny.

Yeah, the Boston girl crudeness was never attractive to me.

[LeavingMA]

Originally Posted by Chianti

Funny thing about Boston women: compared to Southern women they are flat-out UUUUGGGGLLLLLYYYY. And they know it. Most Boston women have a flat-out DISLIKE for Southern women, even though most of them have never known a Southern girl. Thought that was always funny.

Yeah, the Boston girl crudeness was never attractive to me.

I can agree with that. It seems like Boston girls have an inferiority complex or something sometimes. I don't think northern girls really know how to flirt either...at least not like southern women. For some reason Boston women just seem a lot more serious.

I've traveled down to the southeast a lot and also to Texas and the women there were always nice. And girls in Texas and many parts of the southeast are very attractive. A 10 in Boston would be about a 7 or 8 down there, and I've never gotten a snobby response. Most seem to like the company and meeting new people. Some may want nothing to do with you, but they wouldn't be mean about it. Want to see attractive women go to an SEC tailgate or something similar.

It is strange in Boston, because I could see an attractive women being really defensive, but some of these women that are somewhat "mean" are not that attractive. Not to be shallow but a bunch of friends and I have a saying that you can't be "ugly and a b****" otherwise no one will want to be around you. Attractive girls can get away with being b***** most of the time. And I never go to bars to hit on girls or pick them up, so it is really different in the northeast than other parts of the country.

[bluesky69477]

I would say we can be a lil bit unfriendly. But it really is a way of life. Are you coming from a friendly area now?
I moved to Texas last year and hate how people will just sit and talk forever when really no one cares.
I miss the rudeness, sarcasm and all the rest Boston has to offer!

[Ciao9999]

Originally Posted by Chianti

Funny thing about Boston women: compared to Southern women they are flat-out UUUUGGGGLLLLLYYYY. And they know it. Most Boston women have a flat-out DISLIKE for Southern women, even though most of them have never known a Southern girl. Thought that was always funny.

Yeah, the Boston girl crudeness was never attractive to me.

I agree with you about Boston women, they aren't very attractive. Although I don't agree about Southern women, they are too plastic and fake looking.