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Old 09-25-2015, 07:56 AM
 
Location: Cleveland and Columbus OH
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Sounds like it's the job or your boyfriend. I know if my gf wanted to move to a place thousands of miles away forcing me to give up a job that is quite specific to where I had been living and needing to find something else Ina city I'd never been to/lived in that is pretty much nothing like where I was, I'd pass. Living off on income is definitely not ideal, but I guess that would depend on what that income was and where you wanna live here.

But I guess I should also say, If it were me with the job offer, I'd also move and ditch the significant other. Plenty of young singles in Boston.
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Old 09-25-2015, 08:42 AM
 
Location: Mass
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Yes, there is a strong, underground surf culture from Maine to RI. Lots of cross-disciplines.

Yes, the water is freaking cold for a SoCal native and NE natives. He might wear hus winter suit all year round.

Combined with the cooler weather and water temps is the less laid back attitude and the long, snowy winters.

But, no reason why you can't split the time between both locales as you try this new job out.
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Old 09-25-2015, 09:51 AM
 
Location: Baja Virginia
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Yes, there is a strong, underground surf culture from Maine to RI. Lots of cross-disciplines.
Not sure how many full-time jobs it supports, though. I guess there might be one or two surf shops down by Point Judith?
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Old 09-25-2015, 09:55 AM
 
Location: Cleveland and Columbus OH
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There may be a small tiny group of enthusiastic surfers somewhere in New England, but it's too small to even really mention, especially to someone who works in the industry in Southern California. Just not even comparable.
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Old 09-25-2015, 09:56 AM
 
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I am trying to decide if I should even consider a new position in Boston. I currently live in Orange County have a job that I like ok, but it is not a long term play. I see more longevity in the position in Boston, but it would be a huge change and a lateral move. My boyfriend works in the surf industry and is not at all excited to move to East Coast with the congestion and the weather. They have asked me to come out to interview, but I don't even know if I want to entertain the idea. Any advise would be great. I imagine that the cost of living would be comparable, but the lifestyle change would be huge.

My boyfriend would have to quit his job for the short term and try to find something in Boston. Do you think its unreasonable to live off one income? How much of an income increase should I expect?

The company just moved to downtown and it seems like a great company, but is that worth the other risks?

I grew up near L.A. and I also love living here (Cambridge). Yes the lifestyle is a lot different, but that could be a good (or bad) thing for you. If you don't embrace density/walkability, diversity, history, the 4 seasons, etc. then you probably will not like it here.

Also it is bad enough to give up a career opportunity for someone who is your spouse, let alone someone who is just your boyfriend or girlfriend. No matter which decision that you make one person will have to compromise, and that person will almost certainly make the other person pay in subtle (and not so subtle) ways for the remainder of your relationship. I agree with the above poster who said that it's the job or the boyfriend.

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Old 09-25-2015, 10:40 AM
 
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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Not sure how many full-time jobs it supports, though. I guess there might be one or two surf shops down by Point Judith?

There are at least a dozen in New England, but yeah, small comparatively .
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Old 09-25-2015, 02:00 PM
 
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I am trying to decide if I should even consider a new position in Boston. I currently live in Orange County have a job that I like ok, but it is not a long term play. I see more longevity in the position in Boston, but it would be a huge change and a lateral move. My boyfriend works in the surf industry and is not at all excited to move to East Coast with the congestion and the weather. They have asked me to come out to interview, but I don't even know if I want to entertain the idea. Any advise would be great. I imagine that the cost of living would be comparable, but the lifestyle change would be huge.

My boyfriend would have to quit his job for the short term and try to find something in Boston. Do you think its unreasonable to live off one income? How much of an income increase should I expect?

The company just moved to downtown and it seems like a great company, but is that worth the other risks?
I grew up in the Boston area, went out to Los Angeles for about 5 years after college and then moved back here a few years ago. The biggest changes will be the weather and landscape, imo. Cost of living is going to be a push as both areas are on the expensive side. The LA area is a lot bigger and a lot more spread out than here. Boston has a pretty extensive transit system that a lot of people have no issues using. In LA the attitude towards mass transit is a lot different. I found road traffic to be worse in LA than it is here. I am not saying things run smoothly here, but the highways (freeways) do not get as bad as they do in SoCal.

Has your BF ever been to Massachusetts? It might be worth coming here for a few days with him so he can get an idea of the area.

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Old 09-25-2015, 02:06 PM
 
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Has your BF ever been to Massachusetts? It might be worth coming here for a few days with him so he can get an idea of the area.
Yea, we went to visit my family over New Years last year. He liked the historic part of the city and the runs along the Charles, but hated the cold. And he said everyone seemed so angry, ha. It would be a huge sell on my part to get him to relocate. That being said, we are super outdoorsy and I know he would love traveling around NE at least in the warmer months . I think a lot of the other posts are accurate, boyfriend or job...as unfortunate as that is.

I am in my mid thirties so I do want to settle down at some point and this would either be a stretch for him or a start over for me. Maybe I could convince him on a short time??

The other thing is that I was recently promoted in my current job and the new job would be a step backward from my new title.... Lots of things to weigh out.

I appreciate all the comments! Thank you!! I am going to be going out to interview in about a week.

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Old 09-25-2015, 02:21 PM
 
Location: Mass
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No, there ARE opportunities --even in Boston-- and you don't have to be blonde haired, blue eyed surfer dude.

http://chinosurfboards.com

The surf culture is there even if you're not aware of it. IF the BF wanted to, there are opportunities. Of course hot as many as SoCal, but for crying out loud, we're surrounded by ocean! It'd be different if OP was moving to Kansas.

Just depends on the relationship.
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Old 09-25-2015, 03:31 PM
 
Location: Cleveland and Columbus OH
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No, there ARE opportunities --even in Boston-- and you don't have to be blonde haired, blue eyed surfer dude.

http://chinosurfboards.com

The surf culture is there even if you're not aware of it. IF the BF wanted to, there are opportunities. Of course hot as many as SoCal, but for crying out loud, we're surrounded by ocean! It'd be different if OP was moving to Kansas.

Just depends on the relationship.
Come on, let's not mislead the people here.

Just did a job search for "surfing" on indeed.com. Boston yielded five results, Los Angeles? Over 100. It's ok , Boston is a fine city in many ways but surfing is simply not one of them. I would never move here banking on finding a job even somewhat related to surfing.
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