T etiquette

[Whatsnext75]

Well I guess women are lucky to be in your presence if they want a seat on the T. Most seem to have the mindset of, I got here first. Or even, ok I've arrived, someone get up so I can sit down.

[bjimmy24]

Originally Posted by bohemka

I do take the T often, though not as often as I have other systems in other cities. I've ridden more trains, trams and buses than most people, and If I can give you whippersnappers one word of advice, it's to not allow yourself to become institutionalized. You're not a T rider, you're you, on the T.



Bizarre. When my mother taught me, when in the presence of women, to open doors, offer to let them go first, offer them a seat, walk on the road-side of the curb, etc., she failed to mention it was because women are inferior. That never crossed my mind. Don't try to pass off your absence of manners as some enlightened view on equality.

But I agree it's not about expectations. Not at all. It's a very simple, kind gesture. Kind gestures aren't expected, but they are appreciated. I'd wager your friends don't expect to be offered a seat, but, after a long day at the office, on their way home, would they appreciate being offered a seat by someone like you? I'd imagine so.

I offer people my seat all the time, and 90% of the time I get a smile and a "no thank you" in return. Hell of a lot better than sitting there thinking, "Well, we're all equal and I got here first."

Look, I rarely sit down ever. I hate getting boxed in and I like standing. I walk/run about 10 miles a day.

I just don't subscribe to your outdated gender ideas.

Bizarre.

[bohemka]

Offering a woman a seat is an outdated gender idea? Chivalry is indeed dead.

[Whatsnext75]

Well in a liberal area like boston I'm sure there are plenty of women who'd be offended if you gave them your seat just because they're female. But they'd probably still take the seat.