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Old 07-14-2010, 08:14 AM
 
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Hi,

I have recently joined this forum to find some informative answers.

I'm over 3 months pregnant and currently residing in Maryland, but I'm looking to move to the west coast preferably somewhere in California within the next 1 month.
Being a single mother I wanted to know the safest and affordable areas to live and find a job. If I move I'll have a buffer zone of few months where I'll be able to support myself while I find a suitable job ( I'm a recent graduate in psychology and hope to find a job in the medical/health field- but I'm open to other fields if an opportunity arises- I'm also an amateur photographer ).

Even though I would like affordable housing I would still like to live in a metro city, my budget for rental would be around $1000/month plus living expenses.

If possible I would also like to know the availability of social services to help single mothers along with maybe facilities for child care once I get back to work.

Any information or advice would be appreciated. I'm extremely determined to make this move and seek a stable independent environment for my child.

Thanks for the help.
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Old 07-14-2010, 08:48 AM
 
Location: Bella Vista, Ark
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Hi,

I have recently joined this forum to find some informative answers.

I'm over 3 months pregnant and currently residing in Maryland, but I'm looking to move to the west coast preferably somewhere in California within the next 1 month.
Being a single mother I wanted to know the safest and affordable areas to live and find a job. If I move I'll have a buffer zone of few months where I'll be able to support myself while I find a suitable job ( I'm a recent graduate in psychology and hope to find a job in the medical/health field- but I'm open to other fields if an opportunity arises- I'm also an amateur photographer ).

Even though I would like affordable housing I would still like to live in a metro city, my budget for rental would be around $1000/month plus living expenses.

If possible I would also like to know the availability of social services to help single mothers along with maybe facilities for child care once I get back to work.

Any information or advice would be appreciated. I'm extremely determined to make this move and seek a stable independent environment for my child.

Thanks for the help.
If you are determined to make this move, nothing anyone can say will change your mind..No you can not find many places for $1000 a month, what are you going to do about medical and maternity costs? You won't be elegible for any type of help in California..or shouldn't be? There are few jobs, regardless of your field and certainly you won't have any maternity leave. as for child care, again, if you get a job in your field your income will probably be too high to get much in the way of government assistance and child care is out of sight.

I know you don't want to hear this, but for your baby's sake stay where you are until you are really on your feet and land the job before you even think of moving....

Nita
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Old 07-14-2010, 08:51 AM
 
Location: GLAMA
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If possible I would also like to know the availability of social services to help single mothers along with maybe facilities for child care once I get back to work.
Social services as in taxpayer supported? If so, have you heard about the fiscal woes in this state?

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Any information or advice would be appreciated. I'm extremely determined to make this move and seek a stable independent environment for my child.
Moving to an economically depressed state to start a new life with a new child isn't exactly the definition of a stable environment. Have you considered one of the better off states?
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Old 07-14-2010, 08:52 AM
 
Location: Bella Vista, Ark
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Hi,

I have recently joined this forum to find some informative answers.

I'm over 3 months pregnant and currently residing in Maryland, but I'm looking to move to the west coast preferably somewhere in California within the next 1 month.
Being a single mother I wanted to know the safest and affordable areas to live and find a job. If I move I'll have a buffer zone of few months where I'll be able to support myself while I find a suitable job ( I'm a recent graduate in psychology and hope to find a job in the medical/health field- but I'm open to other fields if an opportunity arises- I'm also an amateur photographer ).

Even though I would like affordable housing I would still like to live in a metro city, my budget for rental would be around $1000/month plus living expenses.

If possible I would also like to know the availability of social services to help single mothers along with maybe facilities for child care once I get back to work.

Any information or advice would be appreciated. I'm extremely determined to make this move and seek a stable independent environment for my child.

Thanks for the help.
If you are determined to make this move, nothing anyone can say will change your mind..No you can not find many places for $1000 a month. There are some areas where $1000 will get you a decent 1 bedroom. It depends in how large a city and what the location is. What are you going to do about medical and maternity costs? You won't be eligible for any type of help in California..or shouldn't be? There are few jobs, regardless of your field and certainly you won't have any maternity leave. as for child care, again, if you get a job in your field your income will probably be too high to get much in the way of government assistance and child care is out of sight.

I am assuming you have a bacholers degree only. If so, you realize there isn't a lot of jobs available in your field with only a BS. Most carreers in Psyc require a masters to do much. I realize this isn't always the case, but in today's market it is.

You say, you have a buffer to help you for a few months, I hope that buffer is at least $5,000 to $10,000 and if you are lucky enough to get this job you are looking for, you will be over 1/2 way through your pregnancy. I know you don't want to hear this, but for your baby's sake stay where you are until you are really on your feet and land the job before you even think of moving....

Nita
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Old 07-14-2010, 08:55 AM
 
Location: SW MO
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If you're determineed to make the move, Sacramento may be an option. For CA it's affordable and being the capitol city there are a lot of state departments there for potential employment, despite the lousy fiscal climate. If you have a masters in psych, so much the better.

Although it shouldn't matter, looking for a job while pregnant and potentially going on maternity leave shortly is not a plus!

Aside from that, making a move with nothing lined up is risky, particularly now. The competition for available positions is fierce.
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Old 07-14-2010, 10:45 AM
 
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Thank you so much for the response. I do realize the mammoth task I'm trying to undertake, for the same reason I wanted to test the waters. Even though moving from where I am is something I have to do, but where I move is still flexible.

I would truly appreciate any guidance as to which cities would be better suited. For the few months which I can support myself, I will have about 10,000 USD min. And yes, I have just completed my undergraduate in psychology.

I probably sound naive but I'm aware of the job market and the dicey situation I'm in but my options are limited and any advice would be truly appreciated.

Thanks again!!
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Old 07-14-2010, 01:56 PM
 
Location: California
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Dang, that's a tough spot. Moving somewhere new knowing that you will need social services isn't a good thing right now. If there are any alternatives that don't involve being all alone in a strange place with a kid and relying on social services just to get by you should pursue them. Otherwise you might end up stuck in a downward spiral you can't ever get out of. I'm talking family, father, adoption, etc. If there is ever a time to call upon your own support network this is it. A BA is Psyc doensn't mean much and you will be looking at entry level work like everyone else.
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Old 07-14-2010, 05:39 PM
 
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Hi Ceece,
Thanks so much for the response.

I don't intend to rely on any social services but just wanted to know if the cities or state was receptive just incase. The father of the child will also be helping with the finances. I wanted to know more about the housing situation, safety.. while I still want to remain close to a big city.

If anybody had suggestions of cities outside of California that would be helpful too.
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Old 07-14-2010, 06:27 PM
 
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OKC

Before you laugh...

I have to relocate for work, and I almost went there... Some days, as I see what the California legislature is pondering, I wish I had. Oklahoma city did not get hit by the housing troubles because they had no to a minimal housing bubble in the first place. I was very impressed with the city and people. You could live quite well there, for less than in most of California, say in Norman and maybe Edmond. If things go poorly, as they likely will in the next decade in California, I will likely move to the Midwest. I will entertain other cities then, but I was very impressed with OKC. Dallas was also quite nice. Both regions have done very well economically, and additionally social services, especially for children, are quite good.

Please note, I do not write the above with any sort of joy. I was born and grew up in Northern and Central California. I love it. I smell it. I breath it... But in order to provide the best I can for my children, I may have to eventually leave. Unless the state as a whole becomes more business friendly, I really don't see the eventual decline changing. If I were in your shoes, that would be the biggest cause for me to pick a different state. Besides, truly... You can work less time, make more money elsewhere, and then spend more time vacationing here...
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Old 07-14-2010, 07:02 PM
 
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Don't take this wrong single mom - but you are crazy to move here. You perhaps don't realize just how expensive it is. $1000 a month won't get you anything you would want to live in. Seriously, re-consider.
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