Chloe Dog, have you looked into the Long Beach area? I live in a cute, upscale neighborhood there that is very gay and dog friendly. It's famous for it's dog beach and is probably one of the largest gay/lesbian communities in Southern CA besides West Hollywood/Silverlake. There are a lot of duplexes or back houses here so it's not the typical big apartment complex lifestyle. The rent is higher than inland but reasonable; about 1000-1300 for a 1 bedroom and 1300-2000 for a two bedroom. There are a lot of restaurants and boutique stores, all within walking distance. I believe the website for the city is
Belmont Shore Business Association I've lived in several areas of the LA/OC area and this is my favorite.