Anyone who grew up in Plumas County (nor cal)? (San Diego: to live, to move)

[Bella85]

Hi, I am 22 years old, my husband and I have a 8 month old son and just found out we are expecting our second child. My husband grew up in Quincy, CA and loves it there. But he moved to San Diego 5 years ago to find work and to try something new. He wants to go back, but I am not sure if I want to live there. I love it there and think it is beautiful, but I am concerned about raising kids in such a small town. I would like to know if any one has grown up or raised kids there and what they thought of it. My husband is biased, and he had a rough childhood with many family problems so he and his siblings are not real good examples of how kids will do in a small town.

Any input is helpfull. Thank you very much.

[Get out of my way]

I don't think I'd want to move there if I were you. I'd be afraid that if your husband goes back, he'll run into the same problems with his family or friends or whoever that caused him to have a rough childhood.

[missy1999]

Brittney; I agree with "Get out of my way".

[akm4]

Quincy is gorgeous. I know many, many stable, loving families who have either returned or remained in Plumas County. Work has led us to Nashville now, but my husband and I are both very grateful to have grown up there. Our kids were 5 and 8 when we left.

As for the other question, are any of us repeating our father's childhood problems? I don't think Brittney was blaming the town, per se, but I'm not sure I understand the concern. Sure, small towns pose unique challenges just like an urban area would. They also offer experiences and rewards which are hard to find anywhere else.

You can always try it for a year and see what happens. I bet you'll love it. FRC adds a lot to the community. Because of the student population, Quincy is probably even more accepting of new residents than other towns in the area.

Keep us posted! Good luck.

[kettlepot]

Get Out of My Way wasn't blaming small towns or Quincy in particular, he was just expressing a concern that the elements that made your husband's childhood difficult may still be there in the area and ready to draw him back in to all of the drama (friends, family, etc). By connection that would draw in you and your children. Now, this may not necessarily happen, but it is definitely something to thoroughly talk through, and make sure the problem people are well out of the way, and can not negatively influence your family, nor suck the energy and peace out of your marriage. And given that your husband is probably in his 20s that means those problem people haven't had much time to die off, or move away.

The other essential question is the ability to find work in these mountain towns. It can be very difficult to support a family up there.