This is not why I moved here from New York (San Diego: apartment, transfer)

[luciusFlorio]

I am a 28 year old white single male who recently moved here from the east coast. I live in Beverly Hills now (right on the border with LA) and I work in Hancock Park. Being someone who actually gived a damn about the environment, I take the bus to work every day and don't even own a car. Ok, here's my gripe. I grew up in Brooklyn, New York, a place that I have very unfond (is that word?) memories of. I hated the nastiness , the rudeness and mean spiritedness of people there. I also hated the congestion and noise. I relocated for a brief period of time to south jersey where things were somewhat better. However the close proximity to my family was actually counter productive for me (I grew up in an abusive dysfunctional home) and i also never dealt well with cold winters. When a friend who had recently moved to CA. offered me a room in his apartment for a nominal price I gladly accepted, thinking that life in california with abundant sunshine, beautiful and friendly people would do wonders for my depression-prone self. But things didnt exactly work out that way. My depression hasn't gone anywhere and it is only intensified when I come into contact -on a daily basis- with rude and unfriendly people. I am shocked at the amount of meanness and rudeness I see in this city; this is not the California I always thought of . Call me naive, call me stupid but this has been a major letdown. My entire life I've been looking for a wholesome friendly environment but it seems to elude me everywhere I go. Is that too much to ask?

Now, an attempt at a solution. are there any towns outside LA (not too far from Hancock Park though) where I can find a friendlier environment and nominal rent?
Your help would be greatly appreciated, folks.

[18Montclair]

Im sorry to read about your depression.

There are going to be mean people everywhere-even in places that appear to be a veritable paradise.

[Charles]

Originally Posted by luciusFlorio

thinking that life in california with abundant sunshine, beautiful and friendly people


I am shocked at the amount of meanness and rudeness I see in this city;

this is not the California I always thought of .

So tell me...Is Los Angeles all what it is lived up to be?

What is it with all the rude people in LA?

So Cal people = rude & inconsiderate

Why Are So Many Californians Mean, Rude, and Snobby??

[7 Wishes]

I have an opinion about LA from the times I have visited.

Take Manhattan, squash it flat so everything spreads out, move the mountains closer and make them bigger, add palm trees, rip out most of the subway, and you have L.A.

L.A. metro is somewhat close to the size of NY metro, I can't imagine that to be quiet or stress-free, though when the smog clears the views and having such huge mountains nearby is quite nice.

[luciusFlorio]

How are the towns in south bay (manhattan beach, redondo beach etc.) are people friendlier there?

[Stacy From Cali]

Originally Posted by luciusFlorio

How are the towns in south bay (manhattan beach, redondo beach etc.) are people friendlier there?

Yes..beach culture is much more laid back...but its still LA.

[uptown_urbanist]

The San Gabriel Valley is great, although could be a bit of a commute from Hancock Park (doable, though - take the gold line downtown then transfer, probably). Pasadena is a fun city and has a totally different feel from the west side of LA.

[DeanMoore]

you want friendly, you will have to give up pretty much any big city. its too far to commute, but head north past Frazier park, you will find friendly California as long as you steer clear of the S.F. bay area.

[City Boy]

Originally Posted by DeanMoore

you will find friendly California as long as you steer clear of the S.F. bay area.

Whats that supposed to mean?

[bhcompy]

Move to the beach, and I don't mean LA county beaches. Try Orange County and San Diego County. Commute will suck, but you may be more happy. Try Seal Beach for starters, as it's the closest