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Old 04-19-2018, 12:57 AM
 
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They're rude in: Chicago, Houston, Denver, Seattle, SF, Tampa, New Orleans, Phoenix, and Nashville. They're friendly in: Boise, Portland, Philly, Pittsburgh, Minneapolis and Salt Lake City.
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Old 04-19-2018, 07:44 AM
 
Location: Bella Vista, Ark
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People here do some crazy things, why is this?

Why do people who live in one of the most scenic and temperate places seem not so nice. Of course there are rotten people anywhere you go, but here it seems this is the underlying culture. ********* before you screw me is the golden rule.
I don't really find them rude, they are just becoming more like New Yorkers, busy, fast moving and living somewhat in their own world. They have never been like those in the south, slow moving, slow talking and going overboard to be friendly.
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Old 04-19-2018, 08:10 AM
 
Location: Grosse Ile Michigan
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We also moved away and have a standard of comparison (plus I travel for work quite a bit). We found So.Cal people to be generally friendly when you engage them on a one on one basis. However they get caught up in the rush rush rush lifestyle and the hypercompetitivism and forget who they are, so in a store, parking lot of driving they are suddenly Ashhats. But get the same people engaged directly, break them out of their autpopilot rush and hypercometitive states and they are actually pretty nice. There are exceptions of course.
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Old 04-19-2018, 09:46 AM
 
Location: California
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My theory is that people in extremely huge metro-plex type areas have the benefit/burden of perceived anonymity, so you're not "accountable to the community" for your actions, unless criminal. Rudeness is not criminal. In smaller communities, there's a very good chance that going around being rude to people will eventually come back to bite you in one way or another. In a NY or LA, chances are you'll never again see or encounter the 8 people you verbally abused yesterday. Now, you may get shot by the guy you flipped the bird to on the 405, but that's not too likely.
This is an excellent point. Your personal reputation doesn't matter much in large cities, except when interacting with friends/family, therefore you tend to become socially lazy and are less likely to want to contribute to the well being of others since you won't be penalized if you do not do so.

In small towns, the lack of anonymity means that you carry around a reputation, and if you tarnish that reputation, people lose trust in you, and you will end up being left out in the cold, socially speaking. Nobody wants to feel excluded, so most people in small towns try hard to help eachother out and not be self-centered a-holes.

This is yet another reason why I love small towns/rural areas, and will never live in a city.
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Old 04-19-2018, 01:36 PM
 
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This is an excellent point. Your personal reputation doesn't matter much in large cities, except when interacting with friends/family, therefore you tend to become socially lazy and are less likely to want to contribute to the well being of others since you won't be penalized if you do not do so.

In small towns, the lack of anonymity means that you carry around a reputation, and if you tarnish that reputation, people lose trust in you, and you will end up being left out in the cold, socially speaking. Nobody wants to feel excluded, so most people in small towns try hard to help eachother out and not be self-centered a-holes.

This is yet another reason why I love small towns/rural areas, and will never live in a city.
Yep, when I grew up in OC people were like that especially in the neighborhoods (roughly anywhere within 1 sq mi) I grew up in. Not anymore. So many people do not even know their neighbor. They just see the garage door roll up, a car leave and later a car comes and the garage door rolls up and that is it.
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Old 04-19-2018, 09:24 PM
 
Location: Los Angeles
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You will never get to meet everyone in California so stop trying to figure out why the people you have met are not nice. There are bad apples in every group.

The people I grew up with in SoCal have left the state. Many people are stressed to the max due to YES the traffic. Too many people in California today. Just go with it~
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Old 04-19-2018, 10:20 PM
 
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People in California are pretty rude on average. The “niceness” that is sometimes displayed is superficial, which is why visitors think people in CA are nice.
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Old 04-22-2018, 12:50 PM
 
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I used to live on the east coast and people there are sometimes more rude than Southern California. That said, So Cal drivers are certainly more rude than New Jersey. They won't move over when you are trying to merge on the highway, they tailgate, they don't always signal lane changes and worst of all they will pack furniture and mattresses on any vehicle they can find and won't secure it properly. This is dangerous. You see furniture littered on California highways. Finally, no one waits when you are pulling out of your parking space.
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Old 04-22-2018, 05:42 PM
 
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Honestly, I think people in Southern California are friendlier on average than most of the USA, especially in LA if you compare it to other "big cities." IMO people in LA are, on average, more friendly and less judgmental than most people who live in similar cities. Sure people in Southern California are less friendly and more materialistic than small town south, but you have to compare apples to apples. Compare LA to DC, Philly, NYC, Chicago, Dallas, Atlanta, Seattle, etc. IMO people in LA are more friendly and less judgmental than all of those cities. The southern cities are ridiculously materialistic and judgmental IMO, and the northern cities are just kind of cold.

You obviously never lived in a small town. The have and have nots are even more divided there. Small town people are even more judgemental and closed minded. Lots of small towns in the US are dying out because most of the kids are leaving. Don’t fool yourself, small town people can be just as rude.
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Old 04-24-2018, 05:22 PM
 
Location: Silicon Valley, CA
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They're rude in: Chicago, Houston, Denver, Seattle, SF, Tampa, New Orleans, Phoenix, and Nashville. They're friendly in: Boise, Portland, Philly, Pittsburgh, Minneapolis and Salt Lake City.
Well, in Minneapolis, that "Minnesota Nice" can be a bit superficial; they'll be polite and taciturn to you in public, and not confrontational, but there can be some passive-aggression behind that.
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