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Old 07-24-2009, 12:31 PM
 
Location: Santa Cruz, CA
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People in SoCal are no more rude than any place else....IF you meet them with a smile.

If I haven't learned anything else in 60 years, I've learned how people react to you is usually a reflection of how you're reacting to them. If you go around with a pissed off, "don't bother me" scowl on your face, you can't expect most people to be nice.

Remember the Golden Rule? It works!
that is definitely true! in general.
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Old 07-24-2009, 12:52 PM
 
Location: Seattle
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Honestly, I think people in Southern California are friendlier on average than most of the USA, especially in LA if you compare it to other "big cities." IMO people in LA are, on average, more friendly and less judgmental than most people who live in similar cities. Sure people in Southern California are less friendly and more materialistic than small town south, but you have to compare apples to apples. Compare LA to DC, Philly, NYC, Chicago, Dallas, Atlanta, Seattle, etc. IMO people in LA are more friendly and less judgmental than all of those cities. The southern cities are ridiculously materialistic and judgmental IMO, and the northern cities are just kind of cold.
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Old 07-24-2009, 03:44 PM
 
Location: Bella Vista, Ark
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Some real soft people on this forum, you wouldn't last a day in NYC or Philly. There are rude people everywhere. Toughen up.
We have a guy that posts on the AR board all the time. All he can do is give examples of people being rude or bad service in AR. I guess some people see the bad first and others see the good first.

Nita
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Old 07-24-2009, 03:48 PM
 
Location: Bella Vista, Ark
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NYC, Philly, Boston, etc.
The northeast Bos-Wash (Boston to Washington corridor) = too many people not enough space = aggression, competition, etc. = "rude".
people need space and enough nature to keep them sane.
I think those on the east coast from Baltimore on up to Maine have lived a fast life (I don't mean a life of crime) I mean things move fast and they do not realize how they come across. The 7 years we lived in the DC area we noticed the further north you went, the ruder the people got. By the time you got to the Mass area they were not only rude but unfriendly. Actually Baltimore wasn't really bad, but it did seem to start about there. Of coruse we met lots of really nice people as well and worst we met were in NY City but they were the tourists from other countries.

DRshang, I don't know you have been or lived in the south, but I would disagree with your assessment 110%.

Nita
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Old 07-24-2009, 03:52 PM
 
Location: Orange County
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I have lived in Orange County for 51 years. I have to admit, as much as I love my home, I have noticed that there are a lot of unfriendly people here. For a 2-year period I was driving to Houston once a month and noticed that there was a major difference between people in Orange County and people elsewhere.

I also lived next door to a lady for two years who moved out here from some other state. She was so miserable because she couldn't make any friends. They went back to their home state.

My opinion? People from other places who have re-located here who see the T.V. shows about Southern California and they think that they have to act the way it is on T.V. To be cool, you also have to be indifferent to people.

The people who have lived here all their lives are usually very nice. And I have run into nice transplants. But even my husband, who lived in Houston all his life, is astounded by how many times he will say hello to someone he is passing, only to be ignored.
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Old 07-24-2009, 04:20 PM
 
Location: Texas
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I think those on the east coast from Baltimore on up to Maine have lived a fast life (I don't mean a life of crime) I mean things move fast and they do not realize how they come across. The 7 years we lived in the DC area we noticed the further north you went, the ruder the people got. By the time you got to the Mass area they were not only rude but unfriendly. Actually Baltimore wasn't really bad, but it did seem to start about there. Of coruse we met lots of really nice people as well and worst we met were in NY City but they were the tourists from other countries.

DRshang, I don't know you have been or lived in the south, but I would disagree with your assessment 110%.

Nita
I've never had any problems with people anywhere on the east coast. Yeah, they have that "yankee attitude," but so what? They're as nice and friendly as anywhere else if you just ignore it, smile and say, "Hi! How are you?"
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Old 07-24-2009, 04:41 PM
 
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So much bias and assumption.. I'm chuckling about the toughen up part..

However, it appears some long time residents understand what I'm saying. Indeed, I've noticed persons born and raised here seem normal people.
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Old 07-24-2009, 04:44 PM
 
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i have lived here my whole life, but i wouldnt say rude is the right word. i just find people here arent friendly and really dont expect to give anyone hospitality. i have gone to other places, and people invite you over right away for dinner, or to meet their families when you hardly know them. i think its just become the norm here to keep to yourself. its hard because i enjoy talking to people, but usually the other people look at me like i am a weirdo for talking to a stranger.
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Old 07-24-2009, 04:44 PM
 
Location: Apple Valley Calif
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People here do some crazy things, why is this?

Why do people who live in one of the most scenic and temperate places seem not so nice. Of course there are rotten people anywhere you go, but here it seems this is the underlying culture. ********* before you screw me is the golden rule.
I've lived here sixty years, and haven't noticed any rude people. Therefore I suggest, it must be you..! What are you doing to people to make them act this way towards you...?
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Old 07-24-2009, 04:57 PM
 
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IMO people in LA are more friendly and less judgmental than all of those cities. The southern cities are ridiculously materialistic and judgmental IMO
I agree. And I'm from a Southeastern city. As I continue to assimilate into LA life, I notice that stuff falling away. It's really freeing.

Back to the OT, honestly, I do not perceive this LA rudeness. However, I don't go some of the places where it is pervasive. My husband has seen quite a bit of it in Koreatown, for example. In my daily life, I see mostly all-happy, though. Part of that difference is the different jobs we have, and the different parts of town we spend our days in. And another part is - how you approach people.

You all do know it's a big city and contains both rude AND kind people, right?
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