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Old 07-30-2011, 08:19 PM
 
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Ok... where to start...

I'm in a really sticky situation, I have been dating and living with someone for 5 years and he just recently split up with me. My ex-partner owns a very successful company in Ottawa, I was able to stay home and take care of my 10 year old daughter but would gain pocket money by doing residential cleaning during my free time.

I have nothing other than my car and $1000.00 in my bank account. I don't know what to do or where to go but what I do know is that I want to get out of Ottawa. I have lived here my whole life but have nothing holding me back.

My plan is to drive somewhere, park, live in my car, find a job and a home.
Do any of you have any suggestions on where to go? What should I do?
I would like to stick in Ontario...

Please help!!
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Old 07-30-2011, 09:09 PM
 
Location: Victoria TX
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Alberta. Anybody can get a job in Alberta, for pretty good pay. If you're even slightly acquainted with anyone who lives there, contact them and ask if they can help you in some way. Become, temporarily, a demanding pain in the ass and take advantage of people who don't have the heart to say no. You can pay it back then the karma wheel turns around your way.

It's a long way and it'll take most of your money to get there, but then you can sleep in your car and find a job.
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Old 07-30-2011, 09:51 PM
 
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If residential cleaning is your skill set, then you'll find more opportunity around larger metro areas like the GTA.


And we'll assume you'll be providing a safe housing alternative for your 10-year-old while you're living out of your car.
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Old 07-30-2011, 09:54 PM
 
Location: Beautiful Niagara Falls ON.
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Drive to Niagara and throw yourself on the mercy of the Niagara social services department. It's a beautiful place to live and there are excellent supports for single moms. There are always jobs to be had in the hospitality sector in Niagara Falls. If you are trained in some other field well then something will turn up eventually. I would advise you not to live in your car. Don't start on down the road to homelessness. My wife and I have many clients who are single working and nonworking moms. Play your cards correctly and you will be able to have a very good life here in Niagara regardless of you income or lack of income. WE have subsidized housing, coop housing and a large rental pool of fairly low cost places. When I say play your cards right, what I mean is go to social services, get familiar with their programmes and services. Use those programmes to get solidly on your feet. Don't feel guilty for taking advantage of what is available to help those in need of help. Realize that you are as valuable a member of our society as anyone else.
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Old 07-30-2011, 10:00 PM
 
Location: Sunshine Coast, BC
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Isn't "living with someone for 5 years" a de-facto or common-law marriage? I would think that would not allow your partner to just toss you out on the street with a child, practically destitute. Or at least you should be eligible for some sort of government assistance?
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Old 07-30-2011, 10:02 PM
 
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Drive to Niagara and throw yourself on the mercy of the Niagara social services department. It's a beautiful place to live and there are excellent supports for single moms. There are always jobs to be had in the hospitality sector in Niagara Falls. If you are trained in some other field well then something will turn up eventually. I would advise you not to live in your car. Don't start on down the road to homelessness. My wife and I have many clients who are single working and nonworking moms. Play your cards correctly and you will be able to have a very good life here in Niagara regardless of you income or lack of income. WE have subsidized housing, coop housing and a large rental pool of fairly low cost places. When I say play your cards right, what I mean is go to social services, get familiar with their programmes and services. Use those programmes to get solidly on your feet. Don't feel guilty for taking advantage of what is available to help those in need of help. Realize that you are as valuable a member of our society as anyone else.
Thank you Lucknow. I have actually thought of the Niagara region, we visited two years ago and my daughter absolutely loved it! I worked for three Senior Financial Advisors as an Administrative Assistant for two years, quit to help the ex with the administrative part of his successful company and also did residential cleaning part time. I am a professional and do posess wonderful qualities and ambition.

At 30 years of age, I do not know who I am at this point and am desperate need of a change. I feel horrible if I have to go to social services, I also know that it might be necessary, do you have an idea of how much I might receive for myself and a dependent?

What is the average cost of a one bedroom apartment in Niagara?

Thanks for all your help!
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Old 07-30-2011, 10:05 PM
 
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Isn't "living with someone for 5 years" a de-facto or common-law marriage? I would think that would not allow your partner to just toss you out on the street with a child, practically destitute. Or at least you should be eligible for some sort of government assistance?
It is Vichel however I do not want to start any trouble for example, court proceedings to obtain half of anything he owns. It is not my style, I just want to move on and be happy
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Old 07-30-2011, 10:10 PM
 
Location: Sunshine Coast, BC
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It is Vichel however I do not want to start any trouble for example, court proceedings to obtain half of anything he owns. It is not my style, I just want to move on and be happy
I understand, but he still would have some sort of responsibility, I would think? Or hope! Never mind court - have you talked with him? I think some financial support would not be unreasonable. Monthly, at least til you get on your feet.

And don't feel horrible about using social services - that's what they are there for and what taxpayers expect their money to go to: to help those in need.
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Old 07-30-2011, 10:12 PM
 
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If residential cleaning is your skill set, then you'll find more opportunity around larger metro areas like the GTA.


And we'll assume you'll be providing a safe housing alternative for your 10-year-old while you're living out of your car.
Cornerguy,

I would rather look into a smaller city as I am very accustomed to a big city such as Ottawa and would like a change.

As for my daughter, I have her best interest in mind, she will be taken care of until I figure out our future. Thanks for your concern.
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Old 07-31-2011, 05:01 AM
 
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Your plan to just hit the road in a car sounds like a plan thats irresponsible and doomed to failure and really isnt in the best interests of the kid.Look for a job in Ottawa and leave the place when you can afford to. in the mean time a lot of people slam Canada as being too socialist,well now its time to take advantage of that fact and you should get on welfare, if you dont like the concept then do it for the kid..

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PS. Has the father or any of his or your family not offered to help out? if possible moving back in with Mom&Dad might be your best option in the short term..
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