One more reason for breast cancer awareness and it's pretty sad. Look at what we women as a whole have done to ourselves (Of course there are always exceptions).
Breast augmentation, boob job (The search for perfect breasts to please men and to please ourselves and even compete with other women or keep up with them) Boob's are a big deal because of the media, men and their fixation.
I have lots of friends and 3/4 of them have had breast augmentation, both my sisters did as well.
We nurse our babies and they become something other than a nice rack. We become a life source to our babies. The last thoughts that went through my mind before they put me under was how sad to lose what was once revered as a very feminine part of my body, I nursed my babies and they were taking everything including the nipples. I managed Victoria's Secret for many years and had such a huge client base of women ranging from teens to post menopausal. VS has the Bombshell bra which makes a women's bust size a size or two larger.
I know, it's sad if you think about it. Women are always trying to boost those girls, enlarge them etc. The men will pay for it because they like it (Again this does not apply to all women and all men) but I know you understand my point.
Boobs became a big deal through the media and so when a woman is threatened with breast cancer it does something to her psyche. Ideally it would be great to say, "well, she should not worry, breasts aren't everything, if a man really loves her it won't matter" We should be thankful to survive!!!
Very idealistic and not very convincing to most women, in fact I have heard other women say to their own friends; "You should just get a boob job" Even women encourage others to do it. I hear women talking bad about their own breasts
(Men never talk out loud negatively about their manhood or any part of their body except joking about their beer belly and then they half the time rub it like they are proud
.
I realize the majority of women that get breast cancer are post menopausal and probably don't find it as important to get reconstruction, they are more sensible and have a better understanding of what matters most. Why risk complications with surgery. Some however still care about their self image and have it plastic surgery and reconstruction, we've seen that in celebrities.
Susan G Komen was diagnosed with breast cancer at the age of 33. At the age of 36 she passed away (1980). Susan's (younger) sister Nancy Goodman Brinker, felt that Susan's outcome would have been better if she knew more about cancer and it's treatment and made a promise to her sister that she would do everything she could to end breast cancer.
That's when she founded the Susan G. Komen Breast Cancer Foundation in her sister's memory. Good intentions, and it soared. Whether or not the integrity of it is in tact as it was in the beginning, that's not the point about this topic here (Sorry, but Enough with "Breast cancer awareness month). We women (generally speaking) all somehow contributed to the importance of Breasts and now people want to SAVE THEM and the lives of these women.
Well look now, people are tired of it and angry because the other cancers don't get much attention. I honestly believe that we all made Breasts a big deal. Blunt I know, but I'm in those shoes and I see many women with breast cancer. I have stories upon stories and you know what, People don't make a big deal about their pancreas (YES IT'S IMPORTANT, my God it most certainly is and every other vital organ
), but our society talks about "Breasts, boobs, tata's, a nice rack, and we even have beauty pagents where they are emphasized, even our young teens in school are obsessed with the shape size and flaws of them
. Breasts are talked about daily regardless of cancer, they get looked at, talked about, criticized about or "wowed" about. So when cancer hits those babies, it is going to make a huge impact because they are a big deal.
You know what the first thing out of a few girlfriends mouths that was said to me (to make me feel better I guess and show support) Don't worry...You'll have a brand knew set after plastic surgery and look better than the rest of us
ARE YOU KIDDING ME LOL!!! It's sad but some people think of that more than the spread of the disease because it's boobs and not a vital organ. I have a cancer blog I wrote It's easy to find if you google shannon knight my victory over cancer, I have a few blogs. One is called my attitude adjustment, I wrote it while fighting the disease.
Some one wrote to me above (With good intentions, kind words and to sort of send me in a better direction by not allowing negative energy in my life while fighting the disease). I must say this. We are all born with an array of emotions. It is okay to express joy, and delight,
and maybe okay to cry and be sad
, but...when it comes to anger or negative feelings
this is where everything gets thrown off balance (We must SUPPRESS?
) This is not healthy and it's like keeping trash stored in your house and never getting rid of it. It has to go somewhere and as long as someone is not being vile and destructive, negativity must flow through and out of us. This I learned the hard way; I stuffed all my pain inside and was miss polite all the time and the negativity stays in you and festers believe me. This is when disease (Dis-ease) blossoms in the body. Let it go, let it flow through, look at it for what it is and don't feel guilty for feeling angry. I believe this fosters the growth of cancer. If we do not allow every emotion it's proper place this is not healthy. I am not talking about being violent, but remaining true to yourself (Your authentic self) My cancer is NOT going away because I am positive or getting worse if I express negativity. I think balance is important. Some amazing positive people get sick and DIE and some cynical negative people live on forever. This is a stigma that has been attached to cancer and it is hurtful to many. When you tell someone that being negative contributes to their disease, think long and hard about what you are saying. (I can handle it) but there are some people that will take it hard upon themselves and blame themselves for the disease over analyzing everything negative they have ever felt.
I got my disease from a vitamin D deficiency I lived in Seattle for ten years and never was in the sun. Let's not add self blame to the victims of cancer and other diseases, it just happens sometimes and some people get hit by a car or get a stroke at age 19 like my son (He had a hole in his heart). We live and then we die and no one is the authority on how it goes for each unique individual.
Have a great week
I hope you enjoy the blogs
Shannon Knight my Victory over Cancer
Shannon Knight My Attitude Adjustment
Peace, Love and Light
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