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Old 01-25-2014, 12:44 PM
 
Location: NYC
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I discussed this with a number of people with different views it seems majority believes that you should not expect your children to contribute or take care of you when they grow up.

In the South, many kids worked in farms to help the family get and the kids eventually take over their parents businesses for generations. But in the city it seems most kids don't seem to help out or expected to help out. The parents raise their kids, send them to good schools and hope they get a good paying job and then the retire with their own nest egg.

In other parts of the world, the children learn the parents' professions and take over their business or jobs and they in turn keep the parents in the same roof as opposed to sending them away to adultcare.

What do you expect from your kids?
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Old 01-25-2014, 01:01 PM
 
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To be independent, happy, contributing members of society. I certainly don't expect them to support me in my later years.
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Old 01-25-2014, 01:15 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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To be independent, happy, contributing members of society. I certainly don't expect them to support me in my later years.
Me too. ^^^
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Old 01-25-2014, 01:17 PM
 
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What do you expect from your kids?
I expect the experiences of raising children - both good and bad - to bring me great joy in life.

So far, having kids has been a wonderful investment.
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Old 01-25-2014, 01:26 PM
 
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You can't compare farm families to other American households.
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Old 01-25-2014, 01:55 PM
 
Location: here
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To be independent, happy, contributing members of society. I certainly don't expect them to support me in my later years.
This.

we don't have a family business to pass down. I want my kids to do what makes them happy. I dated a guy once whose parents discouraged him from going to college so he would take over the family business. That is just fundamentally wrong to me.
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Old 01-25-2014, 02:07 PM
 
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me too. ^^^
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Old 01-25-2014, 02:10 PM
 
Location: southwestern PA
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To be independent, happy, contributing members of society. I certainly don't expect them to support me in my later years.
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Count me in with this too!
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Old 01-25-2014, 02:45 PM
 
Location: Finland
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To be independent, happy, contributing members of society. I certainly don't expect them to support me in my later years.
Pretty much this.

I mean sure, I'd like it if they would have me live with them when I get old and decrepit rather than put me in a home but thats not something to expect.
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Old 01-25-2014, 03:39 PM
 
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I won't need my daughter to support me but I fully expect her to take care of me rather than put me in a home if she is able. We have talked about it multiple times when she has seen and helped take care of her own grandparents.

We all take turns taking care of my grandmother, actually all of the grandparents when they were alive. Now they were all very independent so my grandmother was 92 before we started sharing her. She has been spending a month or two with my mother, then my uncles, and so on. I suspect that in the next few months she will likely become totally bed ridden, in which case she will probably stay with my uncle since he has already said he would like her to stay with him longer term when the time comes.

I also plan to stay in my own home, even if that means hiring some help, as along as I am able. But when and if the time comes that I need to stay with a family member for the last bit of my life, why wouldn't I want to be with my family and why wouldn't they want to be with me?
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