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we talked at first it was rough and ended poorly but later tonight we talked again and she said she understood as she had taken care of her mother and three other family members while pregnent, I swore I wasent abandoning her but for both of our health. it was best if I wasent her primary caretaker anymore and that she should find someone more qualified to be a pca. and she agreed. the plan is for when my sister comes home that she helps me right a resume, and then I go job searching once I find a full time job then I would retire from being a pca.
thanks for your support, the stress was getting so bad that I'm starting to have stomech problems and was finding myself to become increasingly overreact. hopefully things will now start getting better
It sounds like you have done a WONDERFUL job taking care of your mom. It also sounds like her needs are increasing. THis is not unusual, and sounds like a good time to transition. I"m sure your sister will understand if you explain that mom seems to be needing more professional help. You definitely need to find another caregiver, even if it is just part time, so you can focus on school work and have some time to yourself.
Best of luck to you in finding a new job!!!!! You might be surprised when you find yourself applying some of the skills you have practiced while caring for your mom. Caregiving is hard work, and you have done well.
If you're going to school, there should be free services for resume-writing and job counseling. Writing the resume yourself will make it much easier for you to field questions about it during the interview. Frankly, I think you should probably see your course advisor since your personal situation negatively affected your grades. Maybe you can retake some of the courses.
So sorry to hear this, you deserve better. Hang in there
This is an almost 24/7 situation so she'd be making about $9-$10 per hr if she worked away from home
My guess is she makes not nearly that but is programmed to think she has it good by her Lawyer Sibling
Make the lawyer help pay for a caregiver at least half the time, that is still a HUGE burden on you but
that's a start.
Also look into In Home Support Services which is probably who pays you anyhow but you may want to
look into how to qualify if not. Blessings to you, I will add you to my prayers
Your Mom must have a case manager if she is an amputee. Call her/him and tell them you are stressed and need help and do not want to be the paid care giver any longer. DO that paperwork so you do not get into any trouble down the road with the Govt.
Get rid of all the dogs and keep a cat (ONE) as they can go in a litter box. Find a rescue that will take them and there ARE some usually but you don't just call and they come get them...you have to find them. If your Mom cannot walk them then it is not fair to have them and expect them not to SOIL IN THE HOUSE til a walker comes and goes. They DO have to go out every 3 hrs or so.
Get your drivers license, get back in school and stop feeling bad. The case manager person can fit your Mom with the appropriate people to come in and take care of her. She should not have expected a 20-something child to do that long term.
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