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Old 02-04-2016, 03:18 PM
 
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OP, thank you for being so caring and concerned for this lady. Caregivers like you are a blessing.
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Old 02-04-2016, 04:16 PM
 
Location: San Antonio, TX
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When you say you can see the day shift aide on FB all day one -- I take it you mean you strong believe that's what she's doing. But you don't know that for sure.
If someone's posting all day on FB, it can be pretty obvious that they're spending the day doing that. So she could be sure about that.


Honestly though, if the family is fine with it and the patient is not unhappy, then maybe things are fine the way they are.
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Old 02-04-2016, 10:07 PM
 
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Well, I suppose if someone is DUMB enough to POST on FB when they should be working….

But we all know there are some pretty stupid people out there….

As an aide, a butcher, a baker, or a candlestick maker……we all have to decide when to speak up, and when not to.
And if what's going on doesn't' affect YOUR job, make your work harder for you, then….one should be judicious about commenting on certain matters.

So OP, IF the other aides work (or lack there of) doesn't' affect YOU, and doesn't' endanger the client, then -- while you might indeed know of things that could be done better to help the client…but if her family is OK with what's happening, you don't really have any reason or standing to say anything about what happens when you're not there.

Now again, IF -- just for example -- she slept all day (and the family allowed that), and because of THAT she stayed up all night, then you might be able to drop certain hints about that. For example to a family member, "she's been staying up all night. She may not be getting enough activity during the day," or "she was very restless last night, did she go out yesterday perhaps if she went out during the day, he'd sleep better at night."
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Old 02-05-2016, 09:22 AM
 
Location: Tennessee
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So OP, IF the other aides work (or lack there of) doesn't' affect YOU, and doesn't' endanger the client, then -- while you might indeed know of things that could be done better to help the client…but if her family is OK with what's happening, you don't really have any reason or standing to say anything about what happens when you're not there.

Now again, IF -- just for example -- she slept all day (and the family allowed that), and because of THAT she stayed up all night, then you might be able to drop certain hints about that. For example to a family member, "she's been staying up all night. She may not be getting enough activity during the day," or "she was very restless last night, did she go out yesterday perhaps if she went out during the day, he'd sleep better at night."
I think that is exactly what is happening. She is letting her sleep most of the day, therefore she is up all night feeling anxious, worried, perhaps because she has not received enough mental and physical action during the day.
If this continues, I will drop sudden hints to the family.

It very well could be because she has dementia. Good days, bad days.

I am working a dayshift next week. I will try different things with her throughout the day!
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Old 02-05-2016, 04:45 PM
 
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Folding towels (matching the corners together is good for the brain).
Matching and folding socks (it doesn't matter if they were clean in the drawer, it's another good activity)
If she ambulatory, wiping counters, the table, dusting (even if it doesn't need it)
If she can write, dictate a grocery list
Some people with dementia can alphabetize spelling flash cards or do addition and/or subtraction problems
If she is verbal, get some old Dear Abby questions and have a discussion
If she can read, have her read an article from the paper
Jigsaw puzzles?
Decent balance? Clean the spice cabinet. Wash and dry dishes.
Lotion herself. Brush the dog or cat. Let her brush your hair and visa versa.

There are lots of websites with great ideas.
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Old 02-05-2016, 05:18 PM
 
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Find an old iPod or obsolete smartphone and download music to it. HOWEVER, it must be music from her era - from the time she was a teenager until her 30s or so. Put the headphones on her ears, and watch as she responds as if she were a completely different person.

Apparently, music is stored in the brain in a location that deteriorates last. She will remember music long after she has forgotten everything else.
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Old 02-05-2016, 05:29 PM
 
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very simple arts and crafts and simple puzzles. Of course you have to help but it can be rewarding. I also bought my mom a cheap keyboard at a garage sale and she plays it a bit
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Old 02-06-2016, 02:13 AM
 
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All great ideas great ideas….
Just saw part of a documentary on music and Alzheimer's called Alive Inside about music and memory….…fascinating.
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