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Old 02-03-2016, 09:57 PM
 
Location: san gabriel valley
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1 day before my mom passed away from cancer she stopped taking her pills and eating..she locked her jaw and wouldn't open her mouth like she knew it was almost time..:-( but I don't think every elderly person is trying to die if they don't eat much....some older people just don't have big appetites. But I would say to just keep watching her if it gets worse then obviously something's wrong...
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Old 02-08-2016, 08:50 AM
 
Location: northern Alabama
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Thanks for the advice. Now Mom is craving salt. One thing after another!
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Old 02-08-2016, 10:10 AM
 
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Hyponatremia (low salt) is a "thing" with the elderly; it can have catastrophic effects if left unchecked. In short, eliminate every possible physical explanation before defaulting to the "she must want to die" narrative, although the current trend in medicine is the opposite.
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Old 02-08-2016, 10:46 AM
 
Location: Colorado
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My mother died at 90 but had been eating less and less for several years, near the end she only wanted candy,
didn't even want to drink Ensure...my brothers and I didn't know it was natural, we were upset that she wouldn't
eat, she was in the hospital near the end and wouldn't eat, the nurses just smiled. I would have appreciated the
truth but I guess they have to be careful. She was old and just shutting down, here I thought if she would get some
nourishment in her she would stay alive, and she was refusing. I didn't understand, I should have.
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Old 02-12-2016, 09:21 AM
 
Location: northern Alabama
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Had a heart to heart with a friend who is a doctor. She said there is no way I can force Mom to eat if she doesn't want to. She said 'Some people get sick and die; some are killed in accidents; and some just wear out'. She told me to keep her as happy as possible and enjoy the time with her.


Mom still eats a variety of food, she just doesn't eat much of anything.
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Old 02-12-2016, 10:09 AM
 
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Have you asked her if she wants to die? If not, there are measures that can be taken. Ultimately, it's her life; not yours or the nurse's. If she's ready to go, then that's up to her. But it's up to her, alone.
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Old 02-12-2016, 08:02 PM
 
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Hello -- I am in the same situation with my mother. She has practically stopped eating; my daughter got her to eat some avocado. She does drink some. She does sleep most of the day. I hope when my mom goes, and yours too, that it will be peaceful. I wish for strength for you and your family. Sending a gentle hug.
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Old 02-13-2016, 09:22 AM
 
Location: northern Alabama
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Thanks Hollyhockgarden. I spoke to Mom about dying. She said she is ready when God is.
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