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Old 03-25-2016, 10:22 AM
 
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Sending prayers and good wishes for the best possible outcome of this very difficult but very precious time, and for peace for you and your mother.
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Old 03-25-2016, 11:42 AM
 
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Thanks to all for your kind thoughts

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Old 03-25-2016, 12:45 PM
 
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Do you feel a second opinion is in order? For her sake and for yours?
Whatever continues, positive thoughts to you and her and all concerned.
I did ask an oncologist and he confirmed the diagnosis and also told me how short a time she had left. He didn't even think she would make it till now. I had never heard of bile duct cancer. There is no effective treatment to cure it, and treatments to prolong life, i.e. stents, are not really possible at her age.
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Old 03-26-2016, 08:38 AM
 
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I am so sorry to hear about your mother's diagnosis.

You have done a wonderful job helping her through this very difficult transition.

My mother passed not long ago from pancreatic cancer, that they thought at one time was bile duct cancer. There is not much to be done, particularly if you are not able to undergo very aggressive treatments.

Fortunately, if the liver starts to shut down, it is a quiet and peaceful passing. She will not have pain and discomfort. The morphine will also help her relax, sleep and breathe more comfortably.

We're thinking of you, and sending you our strength.
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Old 03-26-2016, 11:19 AM
 
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She is having some pain, but thus far has refused to take morphine. They are giving her Tramadol. I'm not sure why she doesn't want morphine. The nurse said they can't force it on her.
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Old 03-28-2016, 06:45 PM
 
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Morphine used to give my mom hallucinations. Maybe your mom had been given it at an earlier time in her life. The hallucinations are what made my mom refuse it.

My SO, who also has liver cancer, is taking morphine in pill form. Of course, they are different people, but he doesn't have the same side-effects that the injections had on my mom. The pills DO provide him with relief.
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Old 03-28-2016, 10:21 PM
 
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My Mom decided to accept the morphine today. I'm not sure what form it's in and will check next time the nurse calls. Initially at least it helped her a lot.

I have a vague memory of someone I knew having problems with morphine but I can't remember if it was my Mom.
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Old 03-28-2016, 11:27 PM
 
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My Mom decided to accept the morphine today. I'm not sure what form it's in and will check next time the nurse calls. Initially at least it helped her a lot.

I have a vague memory of someone I knew having problems with morphine but I can't remember if it was my Mom.
Hopefully it will help you both rest a little easier. I hope so.
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Old 03-29-2016, 12:20 AM
 
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My Mom recovered pretty much from the dementia or whatever it was, caused by the hospital. We were able to have normal conversations again for a week or two. Today was a confusion day because they came and took her bed and put in a hospital bed. She seemed to think they had moved her to another apartment.
I've never been sure why the dementia symptoms fluctuate so widely from one time to another.

Very sorry you're going through this. We had the same thing with mom. She was in her 90s as well.

Sometimes it gives caregivers comfort to have an answer here and there to a question when an answer can be found. So thought I'd say dementia seems to be, by it's very nature, fluctuating. All the more so when you change the anchors in any way at all. Anchors being the usual surroundings, like the bed. Once the person is used to a new thing, they can drift back.

That said, there is the type of dementia that grows over time,eventually hanging in there. And then there is what your mom may have....stroke induced dementia. That is, the symptoms of dementia that can occur after a stroke, however mild. Those symptoms are more elusive, coming and going at times, moreso regarding certain things and not others, etc.

And that said, the older one gets the more likely it seems a stroke would be hemorrhagic (a bleed) rather than ischemic (clot). In my experience, the hemorrhagic stroke presents itself very differently so that the usual person would not know what was going on with the person having the stroke. Hands above head fine, smile fine, talking fine but not able to move from the waist down can happen instead when less experiences people are looking for the common symptoms of a stroke one sees in the ads.
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Old 03-30-2016, 04:08 PM
 
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I had noticed for quite a while that her mental functioning improved greatly after a meal. It could have been from the food or from taking in needed liquids.
At this point though, she is barely eating.
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