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Originally Posted by Ms. Anony Mous
My husband is currently in a semi-coma from kidney failure. He went into ICU on 4/1 and on 4/15 was transferred to a Long Term Acute Care facility about an hour from home. He's on a ventilator and there are no LTAC's close to home that have ventilator units. I don't have any transportation and had to rent a car to go visit him twice since he's been there.
When I visited him, I felt like the facility and staff were adequate, but now I'm having doubts because his daughter who is a CNA is insisting that he's not getting proper care and won't get it unless someone is there at all times as his advocate. I've also read some of the horror stories on this forum and now I'm worried about what type of treatment or lack of he's getting because I'm not there 24/7 to advocate for him.
The doctor and respiratory therapists have said that once he is able to be weaned off the ventilator he can be moved closer to home, but right now his condition hasn't changed much since he went into the ICU. Everyone seems to think I'm not doing enough and I should be there so I can advocate for him and report how he's doing. I don't know. I'm so tired right now I can't even think straight.
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First, who is everyone? Why don't they help? I've worked in ICU, I've worked in, long term ventilator care, I've worked in medical care for over 20 years. Let me tell you the nurses do everything they can to help your husband. They are monitoring him and treating him then monitoring him and treating, recovery is not an overnight thing. Also know that they know that the best thing for him is to get him off the ventilator as soon as he is able to breath sufficiently on his own. But they won't wean him completely until it's time. The last thing they want is for him to become vent dependent.
Your daughter, this is her father and naturally she wants someone there at all times. But remember, she does not have the knowledge of a nurse of a respiratory therapist. If she feels that someone has to be there at all times then she needs to contribute.
This reminds me of a time when a girl who worked at mcDonald tried telling me how to do my job. I'm not saying you're daughter doesn't know a lot more than a McD worker but ...
I will admit that the nurse to patient ratio has changed since Hillarycare though so I have mixed feelings, t's not the good ole days anymore. Just be there as much as you can at the same time, you need rest, other family members are welcome to sit but don't get in the way. This is a very stressful time.