Nice! The window in the kitchen isn't in the ALFs around here. It gives it a more homey condo feel.
Same with the door. The access is from the courtyard/outside? That's nice, too!
If they have a call button pendent type of thing make sure you emphasize that from the time they walk in the place day one. When you walk in casually say "OK are you wearing your pendant?" Even if you SEE they are - ask anyway.. THEN, For example if they have a call button on the wall in the bathroom you can say "OK so here's the call button on the wall just like the one you are wearing." So it imprints that they should be wearing it. Instead of throwing it in a kitchen drawer
. My dementia client used to carefully put hers in her jewelry box with her jewelry. Very methodically LOL. When you go OUT still, remind them to put the call button pendent on. No, they won't use it but it has to become a habit that they feel it on their neck.
THEN, you can say "Ok lets try this thing out". And USE IT to call the staff. Of course tell them in advance you're doing that. Then when the aide comes in the room hopefully all cheery - they'll remember that and not be hesitant. I just told my client they wouldn't have jobs if she didn't call them LOL. Of course some people go crazy calling them all the time for nothing. So you have to know your people.
But plenty of times I found my client stuck half in and half out of the bed. God only knows how long she was there AND laughing about it though. So I'd put pillows around her and say "Go slide to the floor then we'll call the girls". Because I am not a trained caregiver in old bones and I wanted her to IMPRINT to use the button. (she never did, though)
Sometimes there's a bracelet type on the wrist which is better.
I assume they'll be sending Occupational/Physical Therapy home health for awhile. It would be good to attend the first session to learn the tips. I learned alot watching my client when I was there doing her dog walks. Just like in rehab - learning how far the walker should be from them, or to grip the counter when bending over to reach something. Or how to sit upright in the recliner not slouching to the side. Or how to get out of bed with stability. Stuff like that.
BUT - Don't interfere or even try to "help" when the staff is there. Just WATCH from afar. They MUST develop a trust and relationship with the people and alot of times the family interjects their personal opinions that are counterproductive.
For example, when the aide give the resident their shoes, the friends or family RUSHES to explain "why" it's hard to put them on themselves.
LET the aides build the relationship that the people will need in those ways AND have the people do as many things as possible for themselves. Especially if the things take some effort.
Use it or lose it.
Or the resident says "I can't take my meds without breakfast" then the family starts arguing with the nurse about it thinking the nurse is a dope. LOL
I don't know your parents' story but I DO KNOW that many people in a room at once (especially TALKING) can cause confusion and anxiety.
So if you have anything to discuss, it would be better to do it outside of the room.
Also I wouldn't make a big deal out of leaving after a visit. "I'll see ya later mom, gotta get to the grocery store" type of thing is sufficient.
Obviously you don't want to nag about the stuff they may do wrong, say something like "Wait mom, your walker is a little far from you..." instead of "Remember the OT person TOLD YOU to keep the walker close by".
I even had the experience that the OT would make her walker a different height than the PT. It was really annoying LOL. So there's some of that to adjust to with various personnel who'll be interacting with your parents. And your parents may respond better with certain people they hit it off with. That's not unusual.
Sometimes an adjustment is in the details and dependent on the FAMILY not to make things a bigger deal than they need to be because of the anxiety. Anxiety gets passed around in families.
Also make sure you don't "add to" the set up of the rooms IE don't put throw rugs around even in the bathroom! The room is supposed to be a little basic for a reason especially for people with physical problems.
My downstairs neighbor is a caregiver for a lady in her house with the lady's family. She's told them for MONTHS to GET THE BATHROOM RUG OUT. But they won't. The lady, age 92, has fallen several times in the past two weeks and twice because of the rug. (she probably has a UTI, but still....you can't use a walker with a bathroom throw rug!).
Speaking of which....it's IMPORTANT for your parents to drink enough WATER. Not soda, coffee, tea, juice. WATER. To keep from dehydration and UTI especially your mom. They need TWICE the volume of those other drinks or more compared to water just for starters.
So please don't go stocking the fridge with their favorite "drinks". When you're there, fill up a 16 oz plastic see through "glass" with WATER and serve it. Make it a habit. With gentle reminders. If that's too heavy go to 12 oz. or 8.
The ONLY time I interfered with the staff at my dementia client's AFL was to point out that the 3 oz cup of water for MEDS was NOT helping because she'd drink a FULL glass of water if you gave it with meds. ONE PILL AT A TIME. But see, it's QUICKER for them to give 3 pills at once and a SMALL cup of water. Then complain when the patient is dehydrated.
So that's why I kept a FULL 16 oz glass of water by her recliner at all times. And yes, as someone else posted, my dog walks co-incided with her medication administration times.
Unless medically directed, STRAWS are bad. They choke more and I saw on Bar Rescue (LOL) that people drink less. So I threw all the straws OUT at my client's and it was true. She drank MORE and BETTER.
Every time I saw them "leave" the pills for her to take and chart them....(ILLEGAL) if she wasn't in the mood to take them right away, I took them right back up to the nurse and said nicely "you forgot these but I'll try and get her to take them". Just to let her know I was tracking things. Because yeah, my client WAS a PITA about it and she technically belonged in Memory Care so I didn't want to rock the boat too much for the family who was still in denial and procrastinating.
Last thing, get them OUT right away enjoying the facility. Like, to the hairdresser if your mom is that type. Or to whatever things they're having for the evening/afternoon. Sometimes they'll go if they think they're doing YOU a favor by agreeing to go make "valentines day candy" because YOU "want to go" LOL.
I just got a new client in an ALF and 4 residents come out on the porch after dinner because they know I'll be walking the dog at that time. And the dog completely IGNORES them! But they still get a kick out of seeing him.