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Update. September 14, 2018.
I has been over two months since my last update. I want to thank everyone for their on-going support.
Unfortunately, I still haven't found the energy & motivation & time to file the formal complaint against my husband's last facility. As you may recall they made numerous feeding and medication errors causing my husband to be hospitalized three times (for multiple days each) in the three weeks that he lived in that facility. While I can not prove that these errors actually caused my husband's death, they definitely significantly hastened his very unexpected death. My goal is to finish writing and submit the complaint next week, as it will be the first week that I have only one doctor's appointment and not multiple appointments/tests/procedures/etc. as in the previous weeks/months.
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Update, November 26, 2018
Well, another two months have passed. I have finally filed an official complaint
verbally against my late husband's last facility. I intend to finish writing the details sometime soon and turn them into the supervisor. Unfortunately, because Hubby is not still living in that facility (duh, because he died), and because of the laws & regulations regarding that type of facility (a two resident adult group home) there is really nothing that a complaint will accomplish. There will
not be a public record of a complaint as one and two resident facilities in Wisconsin are not
licensed by the state they are only
certified by the county agencies that place residents into those facilities. And, nothing can really been done about the people who made the mistakes because my husband does not live there anymore.
As you may recall I did contact an elder care abuse attorney a few weeks after my husband died and she said that normally very little can be done with nursing home abuse & neglect cases, even in very serious, very obvious, very egregious situations. She recommended that I file the appropriate complaints with the state and then contact her again (which I will do).
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Originally Posted by germaine2626
Nope, not one picture/photograph on the wall since I moved into my apartment 13 months ago and not one more unpacked box since the few I unpacked before my son's visit in July.
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Nope, still not even one photograph on the wall. However, I have sorted through a few more boxes. My daughter has finished her 27 month commitment to the Peace Corps, in Africa, and has returned home for a few weeks before she moves to Paris for a new job and I did some sorting & organizing before her return. It is great having her home and we both traveled to California to see the rest of the family (my son, DIL and grandchildren) for Thanksgiving.
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The good news is that my cancer is still in remission. My main oncology surgeon came as close as possible to saying that my survival from cancer was a miracle without using the actual word (miracle). However, he was extremely concerned about my upcoming hernia surgery and felt that the surgeon (an excellent top ranked surgeon who had done two previous surgeries on me) was not taking my cancer and other issues as seriously as he should be so my oncology surgeon referred me to a hernia repair surgery specialist (supposedly one of the best hernia repair specialist surgeons in the US).
And, while the first surgeon did tell me that it would be a difficult, major surgery (not laparoscopic) this specialist felt that this was even more complicated than the first surgeon realized. After additional diagnostic tests, the surgeon found even more complications. While none of them are life-threatening in and of themselves, when you add everything up I will probably be in the hospital for six or seven days (or more) for this surgery. As everyone knows hospitals kick out people so very fast that any surgery that is actually planned for a six to seven day (or more) hospital stay must be pretty major.
The surgery is scheduled for January, 2019. That will allow me to be in the best health possible after my chemotherapy (which ended in July 2017), the death of my husband (December 2017) and my various other health issues (including numerous arthritis flare-ups from August 2017 to spring 2018).
Again, thank you everyone for your support over the past years. I wish everyone the best in their caregiving situations.
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My cancer is still in remission, but I have developed several more health issues. While none of them of super serious by themselves together they have been effecting my health. I wonder if I wouldn't have been a caregiver spending so much time and energy on my husband's care and health issues for these past years I would have been more vigilant about checking them out when I first noticed minor symptoms. The new issues may, or may not, effect my upcoming surgery scheduled for January.
Again, thank you everyone for your support over the past years. I wish everyone the best in their caregiving situations
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Update November 26, 2018
