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Just talked with Mom. She had a visitor from her former neighborhood come by this morning and she was on Cloud 9. I think she even sort of coordinated this! So I am very happy for her. She talked and talked about that. She also wanted to be sure we were going to church Sunday (yes) - though she was unclear as usual about exactly when Sunday IS. But she was in a chipper mood. I told her that I was going to drop by before then and would call first, and (ever the suspicious person) she said, "And what exactly would be your reason for doing so?" I said, "Well, just to see you. But I don't have to do that if you'd rather I didn't." "Oh, no, that sounds great," Mom said, "I always love seeing you!" OK.
I also talked with my brother and my SIL this morning. My brother is so determined not to be dependent on others, it's crazy. Last night he was in the ER with kidney failure and his electrolytes and blood work all out of whack, throwing up and so weak he could barely walk. They gave him two big doses of morphine and two bags of fluids and electrolytes and minerals - and because he's going to the specialist out of state this week, they didn't admit him (afraid that would mess up his travel to and admittance by the specialist) because though he's in bad shape, his kidneys did start working again and the fluids helped him a lot.
So when I talked to him this morning, he was still definitely loopy but in a much better state of mind than yesterday. I found out that after I talked with him, he went outside in the rain and worked on my SIL's car for a bit.
He sounded really, really excited about us coming up there in a few weeks. I think it's important to have something to look forward to when you're so sick and prone to depression after dealing with pain and discomfort and fear for so long.
When I talked to Mom, I just told her that my brother is still struggling with intestinal issues, but he apparently doesn't have cancer and they are getting to the bottom of it, but that he's uncomfortable so till he is symptom free, he doesn't want to travel. She keeps forgetting this and talking about when he comes for a visit. I wrote his home number down on the dry erase board in her apartment, and I've been encouraging her to call him. This is a change that I've noticed - though she does call me, I don't think she's calling anyone else. This is definitely different from a few months ago and a year ago - really her whole lifetime up till now. It's more difficult for her to talk on the phone than it used to be and I think she's self conscious about it.
Wait - your brother's kidneys failed and they didn't admit him? What? That sounds odd.
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Wait - your brother's kidneys failed and they didn't admit him? What? That sounds odd.
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they didn't admit him (afraid that would mess up his travel to and admittance by the specialist) because though he's in bad shape, his kidneys did start working again and the fluids helped him a lot.
Not really. I would think if someone's kidneys failed completely they would at least require observation. A bit cavalier - "oh look some fluids and they restarted, off you go" - no?
Wow, it seems like a lot of people have their panties in a wad all of a sudden.
Again, nobody is forced to read this thread or any other. So what if it is in your face at the top of the page. I see all kinds of threads on other CD forums that I think are freaking ridiculous and pretty repetitive. I just ignore them and any posters that I find irritating.
Complain all you want -- it's no skin off my nose. It's just kind of moronic to constantly subject yourself to something that disturbs you.
Wow, it seems like a lot of people have their panties in a wad all of a sudden.
Again, nobody is forced to read this thread or any other. So what if it is in your face at the top of the page. I see all kinds of threads on other CD forums that I think are freaking ridiculous and pretty repetitive. I just ignore them and any posters that I find irritating.
Complain all you want -- it's no skin off my nose. It's just kind of moronic to constantly subject yourself to something that disturbs you.
Have a beautiful day!
It doesn't matter whether it's skin off your nose, the forum doesn't belong to you. And of course no one's forced to read it. Obviously.
I find it fascinating, and sometimes I comment. Which is the purpose of a forum. I usually comment when I find something so off putting I feel I need to do so. Said post is inevitably followed by a lecture on why people who have a negative view shouldn't post, should ignore thread, etc etc. Unlike the rest of CD, where people seem to understand it's a forum, not your forum.
It seems to be okay for some.
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Surely you're not just looking for agreement. You posted your personal opinions on a forum. People are likely to respond, and likely to even disagree. Hell, they are likely to argue with you in fact! As long as people remain civil and don't begin insulting each other, and as long as they adhere to the TOS, I don't see a problem. Do you? KA
I assume that you are referring to Kathryn's daughter, SonIL and their four children and what they will do at Christmas.
Well, Grandma could invite them over on Christmas Eve, instead of Christmas Day or invite them over a completely different day.
OR the six member family could celebrate Christmas at their house and maybe invite others to their house. I know many families with children who make a very special point of staying in their own home and celebrating in their own home at Christmas time. They can always invite other people to join them.
OR the family could visit her husband's parents, or her husband's Grandparents, or her husband's aunts/uncles/cousins.
OR the family could get together with co-workers or friends of the husband.
OR the family could celebrate with other parents who homeschool, or with fellow church members, or with neighbors, or with neighborhood friends, or friends from the military.
OR the family could go on a trip.
Just because the daughter & her family are not invited to her mother's house on Christmas Day it does not mean that their only alternative to sit in their dark, empty, undecorated house crying in hunger and despair. Sheesh! She is grown woman with a husband and four children. Surely they can make alternative plans?
I was only asking about the Mom having visitors - how that helps with the daughter and her hubby and 4 kids at Christmas. I thought cramming into an apartment would be hard and I think they have to travel to do so. I didn't ask all the various things the daughter and fam could do or suggest they'd be alone crying.
Once again a simple question answered with a dissertation. Was my question seen as hostile? Wasn't meant to be.
It doesn't matter whether it's skin off your nose, the forum doesn't belong to you. And of course no one's forced to read it. Obviously.
I find it fascinating, and sometimes I comment. Which is the purpose of a forum. I usually comment when I find something so off putting I feel I need to do so. Said post is inevitably followed by a lecture on why people who have a negative view shouldn't post, should ignore thread, etc etc. Unlike the rest of CD, where people seem to understand it's a forum, not your forum.
I was only asking about the Mom having visitors - how that helps with the daughter and her hubby and 4 kids at Christmas. I thought cramming into an apartment would be hard and I think they have to travel to do so. I didn't ask all the various things the daughter and fam could do or suggest they'd be alone crying.
Once again a simple question answered with a dissertation. Was my question seen as hostile? Wasn't meant to be.
I think Mom has some places at the facility where she could entertain visitors, like a common lounge. Most such facilities do. Doesn't have to be everyone crammed into an apt.
I think Mom has some places at the facility where she could entertain visitors, like a common lounge. Most such facilities do. Doesn't have to be everyone crammed into an apt.
The facility does have such spaces, but I will be picking my mom up each day and then taking her back home when she's tired. She lives close by.
So it's a non issue.
Of course my daughter and her kids will want to visit my mom at her apartment too. No worries, between her living room and the other entertaining spaces at the facility, there's plenty of room!
By the way, my mom has plenty of room to entertain several visitors at a time - like cousins, former neighbors, new friends in the facility, her sisters, etc. Those are the visitors I am encouraging her to invite and entertain on her own. And she's actually done this a few times lately and she's seemed to really enjoy it.
She also wants to bake a dessert for Christmas and I think that's cute. I'll definitely get the stuff she needs and encourage her to do this the week before Christmas, at my house.
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