Black cat craigslist add (food, bite, medication, female)

[OngletNYC]

Originally Posted by Marylandkitten

Hi, my third job is twice a week, as a rescue coordinator for the ASPCA where I live. I meet & greet, socialize, rehabilitate, and write rescue posts for the dogs that they deem can be adoptable, and say a quiet prayer for the ones that don't pass their behavioral tests. There's not enough time in the day to meet all of them, and there's not enough room in my heart to cry for them either. I can't do it for cats. I've tried. I know my limits. I end up wanting to take them all home! They are always looking for more help, if you're able to write coherently in a way that will grip the reader and tug on their heartstrings. And you can do it while working from home, even - if anyone is interested in more information they can DM me.

I'm constantly involved in the pet sections in the other areas in Maryland to keep feelers out for the foster families and rescue agencies I work with on a weekly basis. The only reason I was looking on them today, was because for the past few months, my mother has begun mentioning that she would like to rescue an older (senior and possibly handicapped) dog.

I'm always on the pets section! So who are you, exactly, to be belittling me for browsing the pet section ... ? I'm doing what I can with the time and energy I have to make things better. I'm allowed to come here to rant when the negative effects of being so closely involved in them get the better of me sometimes, because who better to understand my frustration, then my fellow animal lovers.

The first email I sent was an angry unconstructive rant to the owners of the sad black cat. The second, was to a lady who I know will open her heart and home under the right circumstance, with their information & details to possibly help rehome the kitten that I care, ahem, nothing about.

So sending someone an angry unconstructive rant like you did is making things better? Come on, don't play games. You didn't write that to make things better for that cat, you wrote it for yourself.

And you know I am speaking the truth, hence your mention of a more constructive email you supposedly made to another CL poster. You put that in your response to mitigate your original posted email, which was obviously about you and not the cat.

[sandycat]

We actually had to "send back" our puppy because of our 3 year old. I didn't realize how much over my head I was in and in the end... my child was the one to stay.... To my defense, we knew it wasn't going to work out fairly early on and only had our puppy for 2 weeks. My 3 year old is now 3 1/2 and while it isn't the perfect age to "get a kitten", I felt strongly about our decision and went forward. Does Willow scatter under the couch when he's had enough? Yes. Does my son sometimes not understand that Willow is a living thing and needs to be treated gently? Yes. Does my son go to a timeout when he hasn't listened how not to treat Willow? Yes. So it's working in our house.

So in short, people do come first. And I've seen this so many times, that those without kids (sorry, but that's been my observation), don't really understand how one can rehome their pet because of circumstances beyond their control. I was that way when I was 20, and I'll probably be like that again when my kids leave the house. But for now... My kids come before anything. That's just the way nature made us.

[Tama]

Marylandkitten said Wow guys ... I totally snapped.

I'm posting the link below on an add for a black cat in craigslist that I stumbled upon today. Read it, then read my response, then please, for pete's sake, help me understand why I went completely postal on this add's writer. I usually pass without comment. (and if the picture doesn't show up, it's this teeny black kitten perching on the end of a floral patterned cushion, curiously looking up at the camera.) I didn't say half of what I wanted to, but I surprised even myself, with how far I went. I am very angry today!
2 year old Black Cat (http://annapolis.craigslist.org/pet/1847272471.html - broken link)

Did you send them your response? I hope so. You simply have had it. Not just with this individual but the total conglomerate of irresponsibles who have created the overpopulation and suffering of these poor animals. Good for you. What jerks.

I had an older cat when I had my first baby and he grew up with him because that cat lived forever. That child never touched the cat in any negative fashion or would have had a lesson right there. Instaed of getting rid of the cat, it could be a wonderful way to learn to treat animals properly.

[Miaiam]

Previous poster is absolutely right.

[Marylandkitten]

It's a great point you made, Sandy. (hugs)

The lady who took me under her wing, when little moo went missing, and opened my eyes to the TNR Program for my community, has to be one of the most avid and selfless benefactors to the strays in her areas & mine. And it wasn't until later, after getting to know her on a more personal basis, did she mention that she was unable to conceive children of her own, and in essence, took on mothering the homeless animals to an extreme.

Some people don't learn how to find their balance, until having children of their own. Some people never will. Good for you for making the decision that was best for you, your previous puppy, and your current family's well being. More often than not, people lack the energy needed to expend, to carry out with the "best of intentions", whether in keeping the animal, or taking it upon themselves to find a proper alternative.

[luvmycat]

All I can say is that I thank my lucky stars for the irresponsible jerks who abandoned the beautiful animals I have in my life right now...they are loved, spoiled, and happy...if the previous owners hadn't dumped them, I wouldn't have the joy of their presence in my life. In the end, we must believe that things happen for a reason...there is a better place for the lil black kitty, with someone who will appreciate her and love her for the rest of her life. That being said, I do understand the frustration of not being able to take any more creatures on at the moment...I can foster only one at a time now, but it's better than nothing...as long as we continue to do what we can, it IS making a difference, one life at a time...

[STLCardsBlues1989]

marylandkitten - I understand your frustration with irresponsible people. At the same time, we have to try to give people the benefit of the doubt. Lashing out at them does not help the situation. We have to try to be understanding with people, especially when we don't know all the circumstances. I understand your anger, and a lot of times it is probably justified, but we can't paint every person who gives up a pet with the same brush.

Sometimes a person decides to give up a pet because they cannot find a solution to the problem. A new home may be the best solution for the pet. There are many worse things than giving up a pet.

I would email the ad poster back and apologize and maybe explain why you snapped. We all do that at times.

[ouijeewoman]

Originally Posted by mishigas73

Yeah, well, I agree with your frustration in not being able to take in another one. '

But, honestly, from a small blurb, we do not know exactly what the circumstances are in that house, and what they have tried to do to make things work. I know it's hard, but IMO sometimes we really do have to give people the benefit of the doubt in cases like this.

Originally Posted by OngletNYC

So let me see if I understand this. The OP does not have room to bring anymore pets into her life, yet still browses around pet ads. Why?

Seems to me she's looking for an excuse to write an angry rant to a stranger. This is about her ego and not about the actual kitten. If she cared about the cat, she would have written a productive message. This might have led to clarifying the situation and helping ensure the cat get placed in the right home, or perhaps the OP could have used her own extensive cat knowledge to make suggestions on how the family's toddler and cat might be able to co-exist. But no, she didn't do any of these things because it isn't about the cat, its about her ego. She fired off the rant and came here to brag about it in order to feed her own self-righteousness.

First off, I think that "little blurb" says more than enough. I feel the same way MK feels about it. And second, I browse the pet ads too and I am beyond my limit of kitties in the house. I see nothing wrong with looking at these ads and have noticed a constant theme of people giving away their pets because of children in the house. That excuse just doesn't fly with me. It sounds like lazy parenting to be honest. There are plenty of homes that have children and pets co-exist peacefully. And while I'm at it I may as well jump into the flames with the other excuse of allergies. I'm allergic to cats and I have 6 of them! I'm not saying that there aren't some people who are deathly allergic to cats but I would venture a guess that it is a very small percentage just like the peanut allergy which affects 1% of the population.

Mk, I don't think you did anything wrong.

[mishigas73]

Originally Posted by ouijeewoman

And while I'm at it I may as well jump into the flames with the other excuse of allergies. I'm allergic to cats and I have 6 of them!

And, I'll jump in too and say that if you're fine with dealing with it, or taking meds for it, that's terrific. The thing that I have an issue with are people who think that people SHOULD take meds to deal with allergies so they can keep cats (or any other animals). I have severe seasonal allergies, and so far, I'm not affected by animals. But, I tell you what...if I had the same symptoms to animals that I have to pine pollen and grass pollen, I'd have to give my pets up. That's GREAT that you have 6 cats. That's your choice. But, who are YOU to judge someone who wouldn't want to deal with allergies to animals?

[Miaiam]

All I am going to say, before someone says I am not even entitled to have my own opinion, is please, please think and consider extremely carefully before you get a pet.

If you are the kind of person who will give a pet away when the smallest issue comes up, please do not get one in the first place. Some people are just not fit for owning a pet, and that is ok.

Pets get attached to humans and, as opposed to some of them, have a very, very difficult time adapting to another "good family" or even making it and simply do not contemplate the idea of being left for any reason since they would never leave their owners.
But then again, they have pets' hearts... only someone who has had a pet for years truly knows what this means, I don't expect everyone to understand it, and that is ok.

So unless you are in a position/have the will to hold on to your pet as if it were your family, just don't get one.

Honestly speaking, throughout my life I have met very few people who were giving away their pets for a justifiable reason. Most of them just did not bother, had no interest, were too tired, had a vacation, or other minor issues that made it very convenient for them to leave their pets.
I try to understand the ones who have serious reasons, but again, other than a medical condition (a very serious one), I disagree with the ones who make this decision.