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Old 12-29-2013, 07:04 AM
Location: West Palm Beach, FL
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My cat Patches is 19 years old. She has her share of ailments, diabetic, hyperthyroid and has arthritis. A week ago last Friday I came home and she was fine. She came out to the kitchen while I got her soft food prepared then I went outside with my dogs for about half an hour. Came back in to watch t.v. then she came walking out hold up her paw just crying away. I knew she was in pain so I took her to the e-vet as I didn't want to wait until the next morning until my vet opened. I thought somehow she broke or injured her paw. Xrays confirmed no break. Sent her home with any anti-inflammatory pill and some pain meds. They suspect it was neurological, maybe a clot. I brought her to my vet a couple days later as her paw wasn't getting better and they agreed with what the e-vet said, and said I could take her to a neurologist. I discussed it with my vet. Taking her to a specialist, even if they found out what was wrong with her, there would be probably not too much I could do for her considering her age, and honestly I wouldn't put her through anything extensive anymore at this point in her life. She's been through a lot.

Since her episode a week ago Friday, she has not improved and has lost interest in eating and drinking the last 2 days now. I gave her fluids yesterday and will today. Tomorrow morning I will drop her off at my vets and ask them to double check if there is anything noticable that is wrong with her, and if they cannot find anything I plan on going by on my way home from and having her euthanized. As much as I know she lived a good long life, I still am having a hard time doing it. It sucks. I just needed to get this off my chest as I don't really have anyone to talk to about it. Thanks for listening.
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Old 12-29-2013, 07:28 AM
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Sorry to hear this, having a cat for that many years, a very special bond develops.

They don't live long enough. That is for sure.

It sounds like you are doing the best and providing excellent care to your cat.
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Old 12-29-2013, 07:55 AM
Location: zone 5
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These are such painful times as a pet owner. It sounds like you're doing everything right. I'm so very sorry about your girl.
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Old 12-29-2013, 11:49 AM
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I'm just tossing this out there as an idea. It probably is neurological damage from the diabetes. My Labrador had a neurological disease called degenerative myelopathy. Most only live a few months after diagnosis, but he lived a good quality life for over five years. I know this a cat and a different problem, but I'm sharing this because there are neurological meds that work for cats. Don't assume that surgery is the only treatment. Maybe it is time to PTS, but maybe it's worth asking if there are neurological meds that can help. I had serious pain in my lower left abdomen for 20 years. Everyone told me it was the result of adhesions from multiple abdominal surgeries in my teens and early 20s. Just last year, a gyne specialist diagnosed it as nerve damage from the surgeries. He prescribed a neurological medication and I have been pain free ever since. It's something to consider, but I would totally understand if you decide it is time to say goodbye.
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Old 12-29-2013, 11:56 AM
Location: Southern New Hampshire
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Flkingfan, so sorry you're going through this. When my kitty Satay got sick back in December 2005 (she was 14-1/2 years old and I'd gotten her from the Berkeley Humane Society the day she turned 6 weeks old) I took her to the vet many times, used meds, gave her fluids, etc., etc., all in an effort to keep her in my life just a little while longer. After 14-1/2 years together and 2 long-distance moves (along with her littermate Mabel), we were just so bonded and I was not ready to let her go.

In early January 2006 she stopped eating. I knew it was time to say goodbye, and I knew that if I kept her alive it would be for ME and not her, but still, it was the hardest thing I had ever done in my life. It's been almost 8 years and I am teary writing this.

It is so hard to let them go, but we need to take comfort in knowing that they will no longer be in pain, and after awhile (often a very long while), we will focus more on the wonderful memories we have than the pain of saying goodbye.

hugs to you and Patches,
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Old 12-29-2013, 12:07 PM
Location: NH and lovin' it!
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I'm so sorry to hear you are going through this time in kitty's life. We know it's going to happen but that doesn't help at all.

So many of us humans have lost our little friends and the only positive thing that I can think of that makes it any better is to remember that you gave her the best life you could for as long as you could. It's her normal lifespan and as much as it hurts, accepting that will eventually give you some peace.

You know you are doing what's best for her and it's the right thing to do IMHO.
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Old 12-29-2013, 12:26 PM
Location: FL
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flkingfan, I am so sorry to hear about your kitty and your pain. It is so hard to see someone we love suffer and to deal with end of life issues. And worse to make the decision that 'today' will be the last day of their life. I faced this not long ago with my chocolate lab and know I will face it again in the next few years with my other dog and possibly my two cats. It is a horrible thing to have to decide. Why today and not yesterday, or tomorrow I think. Who am I to make this choice? I can easily make myself crazy and must stop myself or I will be a patient (I work in psych.)

I decide that I must depend on the vet and his objective and compassionate advise. He said as much, he said it is impossible for me to be objective and he's right. I don't want to prolong suffering but how do I know? I don't, I can't know. When the time comes I will be in pain knowing that my beloved fur friend is in pain and sorrow over having to say goodbye. I will do my best to make it as easy for them as possible, I will be with them if I can - if they must go to the vet I will go.

When it happens I will focus on our time together. As I write this I am thinking of all the time we have spent together and now as their time dwindles I make sure I spend time with them and store memories for the day that they will no longer be with me. It is always wise to do that, no matter the age of our beloved friend, human or furred, no one owns tomorrow - we are all subject to the spin of the wheel of fortune. I hope you find some comfort in coming here.
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Old 12-29-2013, 01:14 PM
Location: southern kansas
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So very sorry to hear about Patches, and that you might have to make that decision. I'm sure most of us here have been through this and it's always heartbreaking.
Thoughts & prayers go out to you.
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Old 12-29-2013, 04:05 PM
Location: Northern Illinois
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My heart goes out to you and to Patches - and I know that this will be very hard for you. I like the suggestion that Hopes made - the possibility of some extended time is wonderful to think about - provided it will be quality time and not quantity time. If it is a clot - it's kind of like roulette - they can move at about any time, and either way it is going to be devastating. You know your baby best, and she is telling you as best she can that she is ready. As hard as it is - it may be time, and the most loving thing you can do for her to release her from her pain, and remember her in your heart and soul. I'll be thinking of you both tomorrow - please let us know how it goes if you're up to it.
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Old 12-29-2013, 09:07 PM
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I am so sorry. It doesn't matter how long a pet has lived, that is a very hard decision to make.
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