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Old 11-07-2008, 07:15 PM
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So we had a one year old female Manx mix adopted as a kitten from a rescue. Then we brought home a (then also) one year old male cat who needed a home. They had a terrible first meeting with scratching and hissing. It has now been 16 months and the relationship hasn't improved at all. [To be clear, they are both just over 2 years old]. We keep the female in a closed room - it's the master suite so she is quite happy in there - and if she ventures out the male runs after her, hisses, etc., until she goes back under the bed. Oddly enough, the male cat is quite friendly otherwise and really endears himself to visitors and hangs out with the three dogs, seeming to think he is part of their pack. We might like him if not for this extreme meanness to our shy female cat. Is there anything we can possibly do or try? I mean, obviously we could give him away, but that's a given so I'm wondering about behavioral aids. thanks for any help and suggestions!
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Old 11-11-2008, 04:42 AM
Location: Mountain Home, ID
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Might try Feliway. It's expensive, but sometimes helps in these types of situations.

Some cats are just not equipped to deal with other cats around them and prefer to be only cats. I think you need to take it from step 1 on cat introductions. There are some very good articles on introducing cats to one another online:

Introducing Cats
Living Together - Introducing a New Cat

Most of these deal with introducing a new cat into your home, but you can follow the same steps. Since your female cat already lives in a separate room, that's a bonus. Just go slowly and try to build a positive association with meeting the other cat by providing special treats and affection when they have non-violent interaction. Cats are territorial animals and they are creatures of habit. In other words, they don't like change.

Your cats may never be best best friends, but if done right they will probably learn to accept or at least ignore one another.
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Old 11-11-2008, 12:50 PM
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Both my male cats did that to the females. The bully routine. It just kinda died out over time. If one did it, I would really yell at them and tell them to stop, but nothing more. I think with your female away/under the bed or in the other room, it's possibly feeding his "machismo" issues. He gets to think that he is top cat and can prounce around the house, while his poor sister must hide under the bed or separated from him. Maybe putting him in another room if he carries on for an hour or so/time out.Or letting them work it out if no real physical harm could come. Don't know how bad it gets. Hissing, spitting all of it happens and is normal. My male once cornerred my female and she couldn't get to the litter box on time. I think it's just a male macho thing and he has to learn he can't control her or the house.
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