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Old 08-02-2009, 02:46 PM
 
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It has been 9 months now that the mother been hissing these 3 cats, her own children. She took care of them and love them ALOT until after 6 month, she started to treat them with disgust. The mother got really irritated when she see them around me, so she just ran away after that and only come back for food. Whenever she comes back or i go out to find her, i would pick her up and hug her and kiss her and be very friendly with her, she seen to enjoy it too as she didnt resist, this will only last for 15 seconds, after that she starts hissing at me, and if her children is around she will hiss more agressively. She was a stray when i adopted her and give birth to this 3 babies, so now i let her continue being stray doing what she likes. I am upset that i dont have the opportunity to love her more, and i see that my relationship with her babies has caused distance between us. I would like to ask,

1. Why is she acting that way?
2. What can i do to change this?
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Old 08-02-2009, 04:35 PM
 
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I will give a short answer as I am very tired at the moment.
The babies are now full grown and no longer her babies. Cats are territorial too and that might be why.

I hope you neutered and spayed them all?
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Old 08-02-2009, 06:15 PM
 
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I will give a short answer as I am very tired at the moment.
The babies are now full grown and no longer her babies. Cats are territorial too and that might be why.

I hope you neutered and spayed them all?
Exactly--she no longer considers them "her children". It is perfectly natural.
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Old 08-02-2009, 08:00 PM
 
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For her it's like having a bunch of teenagers in the house .
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Old 08-02-2009, 08:09 PM
 
Location: SW Missouri
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It has been 9 months now that the mother been hissing these 3 cats, her own children. She took care of them and love them ALOT until after 6 month, she started to treat them with disgust. The mother got really irritated when she see them around me, so she just ran away after that and only come back for food. Whenever she comes back or i go out to find her, i would pick her up and hug her and kiss her and be very friendly with her, she seen to enjoy it too as she didnt resist, this will only last for 15 seconds, after that she starts hissing at me, and if her children is around she will hiss more agressively. She was a stray when i adopted her and give birth to this 3 babies, so now i let her continue being stray doing what she likes. I am upset that i dont have the opportunity to love her more, and i see that my relationship with her babies has caused distance between us. I would like to ask,

1. Why is she acting that way?
2. What can i do to change this?
She is telling them that it is time for them to go out into the world and make their own lives/families. She no longer has any responsibility toward them for their care. This is a natural thing. She is not being mean. She is being a good cat mommy. Even if she was being mean to them, as you thought, why would that impact your relationship with your cat. Isn't that her decision to make. Do you judge everyone as harshly as you do your pets? What possible difference could it make to you how your cat chooses to raise her offspring? Does she tell you when to call your mother? No! Does she tell you to send a card to your sister for her birthday? No! So what's your deal?

Moderator cut: A little rude , don't you think ? Obviously this person is unfamiliar with cat behavior. That's why she asked.

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Old 08-02-2009, 11:39 PM
 
Location: Norway
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She was a stray when i adopted her and give birth to this 3 babies, so now i let her continue being stray doing what she likes. I am upset that i dont have the opportunity to love her more, and i see that my relationship with her babies has caused distance between us.
One more thing, I noticed today.
Why don't you keep her? It seems brutal to kick her out after 6+9 months? 15 months? She's used to being fed and taken care of. Why can't you take care of her all the sudden? What about her offspring?
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Old 08-02-2009, 11:47 PM
 
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It has been 9 months now that the mother been hissing these 3 cats, her own children. She took care of them and love them ALOT until after 6 month, she started to treat them with disgust. The mother got really irritated when she see them around me, so she just ran away after that and only come back for food. Whenever she comes back or i go out to find her, i would pick her up and hug her and kiss her and be very friendly with her, she seen to enjoy it too as she didnt resist, this will only last for 15 seconds, after that she starts hissing at me, and if her children is around she will hiss more agressively. She was a stray when i adopted her and give birth to this 3 babies, so now i let her continue being stray doing what she likes. I am upset that i dont have the opportunity to love her more, and i see that my relationship with her babies has caused distance between us. I would like to ask,

1. Why is she acting that way?
2. What can i do to change this?
In the cat world, when they're through nursing them, they're through with them. Its not like humans that have a bond for life. This is normal behavior, you can't change it.
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Old 08-02-2009, 11:49 PM
 
Location: Norway
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In the cat world, when they're through nursing them, they're through with them. Its not like humans that have a bond for life. This is normal behavior, you can't change it.
They're not entirely through with them after nursing them though, as they still need to be taught a few things. Like how to behave. They wont need their mother anymore after 12 weeks of age, preferably. All though many kittens are given away earlier, because they look so cute.
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Old 08-03-2009, 07:09 AM
 
Location: St. Louis, Missouri
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She is telling them that it is time for them to go out into the world and make their own lives/families. She no longer has any responsibility toward them for their care. This is a natural thing. She is not being mean. She is being a good cat mommy. Even if she was being mean to them, as you thought, why would that impact your relationship with your cat. Isn't that her decision to make. Do you judge everyone as harshly as you do your pets? What possible difference could it make to you how your cat chooses to raise her offspring? Does she tell you when to call your mother? No! Does she tell you to send a card to your sister for her birthday? No! So what's your deal?



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One more thing, I noticed today.
Why don't you keep her? It seems brutal to kick her out after 6+9 months? 15 months? She's used to being fed and taken care of. Why can't you take care of her all the sudden? What about her offspring?
i'm guessing that mama-kitty was not kicked out so much as allowed to roam as had been her habit before the op found her.......

and really ..... the op was just asking for advice about typical kitty behavior, apparently not familiar with it........

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Old 08-03-2009, 07:35 AM
 
Location: California
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Your trying to put human behavior on a cat. In the cat world, once Mama is done nursing, and teaching them her idea of survival skills, she's done. And she is on to the next litter. There is no real attachment....best they can be is buddies, but not a real mother/kitten relationship as you perceive.
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