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Old 01-29-2018, 08:23 PM
Status: "World Cup Fever taking over!" (set 14 days ago)
 
Location: Manila
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It was a bad date, nothing more. She's a coward for hiding behind an anonymous name then damaging his reputation. Of course if she revealed herself other men would avoid her like the plague. I agree with Ashleigh Banfield HLN.
I agree with you regarding Ashleigh Banfield! But I do think people who make false accusations should be as heavily shamed as much as real, proven predators! Cuz they make it more difficult for real victims to come forward, plus they also ruin the life of someone who did not do the thing they are accusing them of. Besides, if Aziz were truly a predator, would he have let her go and got her a cab to send her home with, and texted her the next day to apologise for his missteps the night before? I doubt it! Wanna know how a true predator behaves? Just look at Weinstein!
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Old 01-30-2018, 06:32 PM
 
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I really don't know for sure, but what happened didn't sound like sexual assault. It sounded like a combination of miscommunication and a really bad match. It sounded like he's kind of boorish and she was inexperienced and didn't realize that she was going to get into a situation wherein she would feel uncomfortable firmly saying "no" and leaving. He sounded like he didn't care too much for her feelings, but that's not criminal. (Of course I'm basing this on her account--I have no idea what his is).

I think that it's valuable insofar as it can start conversations about how we communicate with each other in these kinds of situations, how some women don't feel comfortable saying "no," and start to question themselves in the moment. I don't want to make generalizations about gender, though--there are probably aspects of intimacy that we all have trouble with in our youth for different reasons. And sex ed is still nonexistent in some places. BUT, all of that said, she could have started the conversations I'm alluding to by writing an anonymous article and keeping his identity to herself. Instead, it feels to me like she dragged his name through the mud for no real reason.
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Old 01-30-2018, 06:37 PM
 
Location: USA
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wouldn't it be something if her real name/identity would somehow get "leaked"?

Instead of bad dates, she'd have no dates.
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Old 01-30-2018, 10:29 PM
 
Location: 10110001010110100
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A woman has a date with a nobody that she regrets, no one other than her friends will know, if that.
A woman has a date with a rich and famous person that she regrets, everyone might know about it.

Why is that?
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Old 02-01-2018, 10:14 AM
Status: "Crooked Trump is a LYING Scumbag!" (set 9 days ago)
 
Location: Texas
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I think it's odd that I had never heard of this guy until this story came out.
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Old 02-01-2018, 01:36 PM
 
Location: Texas
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I think it's odd that I had never heard of this guy until this story came out.
I had never heard of him, either. Ever.
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Old 02-05-2018, 09:04 AM
 
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I had never heard of him, either. Ever.
He starred on an NBC show, Parks and Rec, until 2015. Now stars in a Netflix show, Master of None. Can't say that I've seen either, but heard people raving about how funny he is.
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Old 02-05-2018, 01:53 PM
 
Location: USA
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He starred on an NBC show, Parks and Rec, until 2015. Now stars in a Netflix show, Master of None. Can't say that I've seen either, but heard people raving about how funny he is.
Aziz is very funny on the late night talk shows.
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Old 02-12-2018, 10:07 PM
 
Location: Rivendell
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i think (going by that article, i have not heard or read anything else about this situation) that the woman in this case is being ridiculous to even bring this out in the open potentially ruining things for aziz.

i think most women can state a time where they were involved with some sexual activity that they were not 100% comfortable with but consented to nonetheless sometime in their life. this is not sexual assault. if you are forced to do something, that is wrong. but to consent, go along with it but then regret it because you weren't completely comfortable with what you did? well, that's on you. she should have said no and meant it if she didn't want to do it. it doesn't sound like he made or forced her do anything.
Yeah. It's messed up that SO MANY women have been coerced and pushed into having sex when they did not want to and it's messed up how SO MANY women feel they can't say NO. I have been in this position as well with a guy I was dating when I was 21 and who really pushed me to do stuff I didn't want to do. I even told him to stop and he said he wouldn't! That's a guy for you. At some point we as women have to speak up loud and clear and kick anyone to the curb who doesn't respect our choices. It's no good to allow these "relationships" to linger and linger when it's clear that the two people involved can't communicate and respect each other.

I do not feel I was raped or anything like that but I DO regret lots of stuff because I felt pressured and it wasn't organically something I thought up and eagerly wanted to do. I do get tired of women having to act like their pleasure is irrelevant.
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Old 02-13-2018, 12:00 AM
 
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Yeah. It's messed up that SO MANY women have been coerced and pushed into having sex when they did not want to and it's messed up how SO MANY women feel they can't say NO. I have been in this position as well with a guy I was dating when I was 21 and who really pushed me to do stuff I didn't want to do. I even told him to stop and he said he wouldn't! That's a guy for you. At some point we as women have to speak up loud and clear and kick anyone to the curb who doesn't respect our choices. It's no good to allow these "relationships" to linger and linger when it's clear that the two people involved can't communicate and respect each other.

I do not feel I was raped or anything like that but I DO regret lots of stuff because I felt pressured and it wasn't organically something I thought up and eagerly wanted to do. I do get tired of women having to act like their pleasure is irrelevant.

So if it's obvious about "what he's after" on the first date, dump him before there's a second. DON'T end up in a casual relationship with him where he bullies you to give in. Be up front about your standards, "No sex without marriage or at least exclusive long term commitment". And be careful what you do to lead up to it.

There ARE guys out there who respect this. I've been married to one for 37 years.

And until you're sure, don't make yourself vulnerable...i.e. parked cars, alone in a house/apartment.
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