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Old 01-11-2011, 10:58 PM
 
Location: Bedford, NH
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My family just recently moved here about 6 mos ago. This morning, my husband informs me thru text that he is leaving me. He insists on leaving the house with his three kids, headed to Atlanta to stay with his ex wife... leaving me here with my three kids (we have 6 all together). I asked for some financial help since I have been a full time mom for the last 5 years and do not have a job... he refused to help with anything, in fact even threatened to disconnect my cell phone, leaving me with a truck that needs 600.00 in repairs, a huge house that cost 1700/mo to rent... he said he will not help.
He's been texting me all day with what I feel is abusive words and then threatens to post the text messages to Face Book.. even mentioning that he knows his daughter has an account... well, my son and daughter have accounts as well... they would all see this if he did it. He's mentally manipulating and abusive and has been physically abusive towards me as well as towards one of his kids.

I'm scared because I've heard that he's coming back at the end of the week. I'm not scared of him, but scared that I might do or not do something that could help me in getting a divorce from him. I have been putting my best front up so that my children have a feeling of security and don't worry about what happens to us next.... but I'm not sure what to do, where to start, if there is any help for me and my 3 kids.

I have no income... and I don't know what to do

If anyone can help me and my children with any information... I cannot tell you how much I would appreciate that... I would forever be grateful
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Old 01-12-2011, 02:26 AM
 
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This one is easy. Courthouse + child support = you being ok.
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Old 01-12-2011, 02:29 AM
 
Location: Huntersville,N.C.
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What type of help are you looking for on this forum?I believe you need help sweetheart, but not on here for your situation. My advice to you is to speak with a family member or a friend who can help you,you may find the wrong kind of help from this computer . perhaps a preditor, who is seeking out your vulnerable side on here.
Best of luck, stay strong for your children, and as everything, this to sahll pass.
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Old 01-12-2011, 03:25 AM
 
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I'm very sorry to hear you are going through this situation. I have been in your situation and I know how painful this is. Do you attend a church? If so, perhaps your pastor or other church members may be able to offer some help and good advice. Or do you have any family members nearby who you can go to? Or have you considered contacting a local family shelter? I hear Charlotte has a program called "Crisis" I hear they have assisted low income people with paying utility bills, donating used furniture, etc. Have you also considered going to Social Services for food stamps? Stay in constant prayer during this painful and difficult time in your life and you will see great changes in your life.
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Old 01-12-2011, 03:32 AM
 
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After I posted my previous reply, I see your location is not in Charlotte. Call your local social service agency and check out local charities like The Salvation Army as an example. You will get through this rough time. Please keep us informed of your progress. Best Wishes
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Old 01-12-2011, 03:33 AM
 
Location: On the brink of WWIII
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One call does it all-- LAWYER...
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Old 01-12-2011, 06:39 AM
 
Location: Matthews, NC
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Save all your text messages so you have them as evidence.
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Old 01-12-2011, 07:07 AM
 
Location: Charlotte, NC
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One call does it all-- LAWYER...
no money=no lawyer
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Old 01-12-2011, 07:08 AM
 
Location: Charlotte, NC
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call the police!! They will assist you in issuing a protective order. From there, they can recommend what social services to contact. good luck! Let us know how you are doing!
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Old 01-12-2011, 07:13 AM
 
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Sounds like you need to be talking with your family and friends. Do you have family you could stay with? You need a lawyer but that is a little hard to do without money.

I say talk with your family for help and go find a job.
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