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Old 05-06-2013, 10:11 AM
 
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First, if you know what a DINK is, you've come to the right place.

My SO and I are rare Southern anomalies who believe that men and women are placed on this earth to do something other than marry and multiply. We are both approaching 40 and mutually decided that we are perfectly happy "shacking up" and parenting dogs.

Our recent challenge, however, is finding like-minded people in the Bible Belt. Apparently, we have broken some kind of moral code and something is wrong with us for making the conscious decision NOT to breed.

Ever-so-tired of the horrified and/or judgmental reactions "the others", we have embarked upon a journey to find like-minded couples. Surely, we aren't the only ones around these parts that enjoy our child-free life. Any takers...

DISCLAIMER: This is not meant to offend those that have made the choices to marry and have children. It's just not OUR choice...
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Old 05-06-2013, 10:18 AM
 
Location: Charlotte
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Well, I'm 30 and also don't have any desire to have kids (at least for now, it has been that way for a while too and don't really see it changing)
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Old 05-06-2013, 10:45 AM
 
Location: Charlotte, NC
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I am curious of this as well, as we are 33 year old DINKs ... child-free by choice, and no, we will not "change our minds" as everyone seems to assume we will We are used to living in a community where we are the oddballs, so it will be okay if that's what we end up with when we relocate to Charlotte, but it would be nice to find like-minded couples!
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Old 05-06-2013, 11:32 AM
 
Location: Concord, NC
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My wife and I have no plans on having kids. I do not want kids. She has 2 grown kids from a previous marriage. We do have two fur kids. I am in my mid-30's and my wife is around 16 years older than me.
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Old 05-06-2013, 11:35 AM
 
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I do have kids and in no way care if you breed or not. In fact why would people care? This boggles my mind. I live in Charlotte and if you all came here, I would not think you guys are oddballs, nor would I make an asinine comment that you will one day. So come and be welcome. I do meet both families with both just fur babies and/or human babies, don't matter none to me.
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Old 05-06-2013, 11:40 AM
 
Location: Charlotte, NC
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I do have kids and in no way care if you breed or not. In fact why would people care? This boggles my mind. I live in Charlotte and if you all came here, I would not think you guys are oddballs, nor would I make an asinine comment that you will one day. So come and be welcome. I do meet both families with both just fur babies and/or human babies, don't matter none to me.
I wish more people felt like you! You'd be surprised at the responses of some others! My boyfriend's mom called him selfish for not wanting kids!
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Old 05-06-2013, 11:46 AM
 
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First, if you know what a DINK is, you've come to the right place.

My SO and I are rare Southern anomalies who believe that men and women are placed on this earth to do something other than marry and multiply. We are both approaching 40 and mutually decided that we are perfectly happy "shacking up" and parenting dogs.

Our recent challenge, however, is finding like-minded people in the Bible Belt. Apparently, we have broken some kind of moral code and something is wrong with us for making the conscious decision NOT to breed.

Ever-so-tired of the horrified and/or judgmental reactions "the others", we have embarked upon a journey to find like-minded couples. Surely, we aren't the only ones around these parts that enjoy our child-free life. Any takers...

DISCLAIMER: This is not meant to offend those that have made the choices to marry and have children. It's just not OUR choice...

I am in the wrong place because I don't know what a "dink" is so I guess I am not one.

Honestly, most people do not care what you do with your lives and if you choose to "shack up" and "not breed" (which by the way is usually said in reference to animals not humans) it is your choice, your business and you should not care what other's think of you. Also, you are a parent ONLY if you have created and gave birth to a human child. You are a PET OWNER if you have animals in your care.

Of course it is your choice to refer to yourselves as such though.
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Old 05-06-2013, 11:49 AM
 
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DINK = Dual Income No Kids (at least this is what I've thought it has always meant)

I don't think it's that rare in Charlotte.
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Old 05-06-2013, 11:49 AM
 
Location: Charlotte, NC
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I am in the wrong place because I don't know what a "dink" is so I guess I am not one.

Also, you are a parent ONLY if you have created and gave birth to a human child. You are a PET OWNER if you have animals in your care.

Of course it is your choice to refer to yourselves as such though.
DINK = Double Income No Kids

So if I choose to adopt a child does that make me not a parent? To parent is to ACT as a mother or father ... which is exactly what I do with my dog.
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Old 05-06-2013, 12:00 PM
 
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I do have kids and in no way care if you breed or not. In fact why would people care? This boggles my mind. I live in Charlotte and if you all came here, I would not think you guys are oddballs, nor would I make an asinine comment that you will one day. So come and be welcome. I do meet both families with both just fur babies and/or human babies, don't matter none to me.
I agree. I have two kids but I don't care if you have 0, 2 or 20. As long as you are friendly to me and my kids we will get along just fine. One of my good friends is almost 40 and she doesn't have nor does she want kids. I've never asked why and never will.
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