Did anyone feel guilty about relocating to Charlotte? (showing, trip)

[DiamondGirl]

My family is scheduled to move to Charlotte in early June 08. We have been planning this move seriously for the last year. But now that we've set a concrete date, my family and some friends we are starting to feel resistance.
My immediate family in West Palm Beach, includes my husband, kids & my mother. My sister moved to Atlanta 3 years, but she is moving back next week. When I spoke about my excitement about moving to Charlotte to my mother, she just changed the subject. I was hurt that she didn't think what I had to say was that important, but then again I can relate. Because I have an almost 19 yr old son, who has moved with my mother, but has decided he will not be moving with us.
Since my mother who is divorced; I feel sort of guilty about moving away. I told her that it's only 10hrs away, so I can still visit a few times a year.
Now that my sister is moving back, I guess it'll be a little easier to move, BUT I was hoping either my "only" sister would either stay in Atlanta, or move with me to Charlotte. I think that Charlotte is a good move for my husband and kids, but I feel bad about leaving my mom and son behind. Am I the only one who felt this way?

[BigJon3475]

I moved an hour and a half from my parents. I got the same "blow it off" results from her at first....I didn't really expect any different my mom would still have me living at home if possible...lol

[Contreras-21]

I'm moving next week from Ca to Charlotte after over a year preparing my family.
My parents are ok; my Dad checks the weather on the computer everyday and tells me what's going on in the news there and my Mom finally get's it that we aren't moving to be closer to NASCAR.
I have one sister with 8 children who range from ages 17 all the way down to 2; she is excited to visit and so are the kids. Hopefully she will follow.
My other sister on the other hand, hasn't spoke to me in like two months.
I guess she kind of thinks that if she ignores it, it will go away. It's not, WE are and she missed the whole summer she could have spent with my 4 year old daugther who is her God Child.
Apparently she feels I'm taking "our little girl away".
I feel sorry for her since she was never blessed with children and my daughter is her pride and joy, but she has had a funny way of showing that in the last few months.
It wasn't an easy decision to make by no means to move away from our families, but we know it is the best thing for us and our daughter.
Follow your heart and you will know when you have made the right decision
Good luck!

[Portuguese girl]

It is not ewasy to move away from your family and friends it is a big adjustment . Me and my family did it 6months ago and so far we love it . It us just hard to adjust when you talk to the family back home . If it best for your family that is what you need to do . You need to live for your family and hopefully your family will back you up and if you dont like it nothing is ever permanent. I would not go back but some have
It does take some getting use to especially with jobs they dont pay what they did in RI and there are more people than jobs

[LKNHomePro]

We felt quilty at first, feeling that we were taking the family experience away from our children (big Christmas,big italian family) But we had to realize that we needed to do what was best and if someone else in the family had the same opportunity they would take it too. After all that most of my wifes family has moved here or plans to. It isnt hard to want to when you visit.

[HGONZ001]

I do feel guilty too after I left my mother behind. But she is with my sister and two grandchildren. I sometimes feel I am a bad son, but I had to move to better my life and my partner's. I know she is sad because I am not 10 minutes away, but rather 10 hours away, but she is also happy that I made the change if I think is for better. I am lucky that I have their moral support and maybe my sister and mother will join us soon in NC.

[DiamondGirl]

Thank you guys, I really appreciate your honesty. This truly makes me feel a little better.

[flyingscotsman]

Sorry I have to say this, you have to live your life, there are times it will hurt to do this, too many people will play the guilt trip because they are selfish and do not actually care about you.

I knew when we moved that my wife would miss her family & friends in Miami, she went back down on her own a couple of months after getting here.

Moving forward a year her sister is our neighbour accross the street, father is 15 miles away and mother should be moving end of the year, two of her really good friends no longer live in Miami.

My wife still misses Miami, but she loves living here, and don't have any guilt trips any more.

[moremoremore]

Yes...horribly guilty bc right after we decided to move, my mom was diagnosed with Stage IIIb breast cancer. My sister lives in Wisconsin and my father is not attentive. I have yet to tell her and we are moving in 2 months. I never expected her cancer to be so advanced and am waiting for her to finish her radiation for me to tell her. So yeah, big time guilt.

[faye_dway]

Yes. My family is very tight-knit and it was tough...especially with some of those who are very important to me getting older. We still live close enough to visit frequently and I speak to almost everyone on the phone daily....that helps a lot.