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Originally Posted by mom4two
That one has always stumped me, I hate it when I use the word in a sentence as defined in the dictionary (as happy or silly) in the presence of a "gay" person and then feel like I've put my foot in my mouth or something. Why do I feel like I've offended him when I've really said nothing wrong?
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Political correctness. That is my answer. It is a double-edged sword. There are those of us who work hard not to offend anyone - and so we have acquired politically correct language to assist us in that endeavor. We have been taught it is offensive to say "dwarf" so we say "little people." We sincerely do not wish to offend others, especially when it comes to things that supposedly one has no control over, such as physical or mental impairment.
I grew up hearing people with low IQs (under 70 or so) referred to as "retarded" and somewhere along the way, I think when I was in college (in education classes), I was told this was a pejorative term and so I should say "challenged." Today, a derivative of the word "retarded" is in circulation - "tard" - and both "retarded" and "tard" are legally considered "hate speech," when used in a way that is deliberately mean-spirited. Yet, various forms of "tard" circulate in our language, including "celebutard" - referring to celebrities who do stupid or idiotic things.
Words have power and our society recognizes that power. The uninformed may stumble in a conversation into a land mine of politically incorrect speech w/o even realizing it. My generation regularly said such things as "You are so retarded!!!" if someone was acting goofy. Now, that sentence used in the workplace could be considered hate language, if the person hearing it is, indeed, mentally impaired. SIGH. Lawsuit on the horizon - and HR departments scurry to provide "sensitivity training" so that we, the uninformed and unaware, don't engage (even inadvertently) in hate language.
Which brings us to "redneck," a word that has obviously morphed into a very different meaning than its original intent.
To me, what people are referring to as rednecks today includes behavior and lifestyles that would be best described as just plain old "trashy" or even "lower class." But I think it is probably considered elitist to point out anyone's social class these days. So when we encounter someone who lives in a bombed out house, has old cars in the yard, throws beer cans on the driveway and wears Daisy Dukes - we don't say "my neighbors are trashy" or "they are low class slobs" we just call them "rednecks."
In other words, it is politically correct to say someone is a redneck and not PC to call them lower class. Which brings us to the word "gay." It is PC to say "gay." If you say - "so-and-so is upset b/c he is homosexual and he and his partner wish to marry" - you will come across as derisive b/c you said "homosexual" instead of "gay."
My favorite misnomer these days is "illegal alien." Some groups consider this inflammatory (most of whom are here illegally, Hee Hee). Advocacy groups who work w/ providing services and safe havens for people who have crossed the borders illegally say the term "illegal alien" is hate language b/c it denies one's humanity. They are fond of saying "no human being is illegal." Once again - the power of words.
My solution is to simply refer to residents in our country as either "citizens" or "non-citizens." That takes the inflammatory nature out of the discussion. However, any time I have proposed this (in writing or in conversation) people express total disinterest in espousing that term - as they WANT to clearly define that people are here "illegally."
Which makes me ponder: Do we have this innate need to label people? Why do we feel we need to segment society into "us and them?"
And why are Southerners the most maligned of all groups in this country- other than non-citizens from Mexico????