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I am sitting here at work looking out over NY Harbor, and it just hit me like a ton of bricks. Do I really want to move?
I am supposed to be leaving in 7 more weeks, but I guess the fear of the unknown is creeping up on me, as I am leaving a good job, a nice apartment with a gorgeous city view, and a great soon-to-be ex-girlfriend (she refuses to move because she is television and NYC is where it's at for her).
Being I am only 29 years old, I am starting to feel that I made the mistake of my life by deciding to move to a city where activities are geared towards families.
I am sitting here at work looking out over NY Harbor, and it just hit me like a ton of bricks. Do I really want to move?
I am supposed to be leaving in 7 more weeks, but I guess the fear of the unknown is creeping up on me, as I am leaving a good job, a nice apartment with a gorgeous city view, and a great soon-to-be ex-girlfriend (she refuses to move because she is television and NYC is where it's at for her).
Being I am only 29 years old, I am starting to feel that I made the mistake of my life by deciding to move to a city where activities are geared towards families.
Is this normal to have second thoughts?
It's normal I have those thoughts every day. Not when I was leaving NY though.
I am sitting here at work looking out over NY Harbor, and it just hit me like a ton of bricks. Do I really want to move?
I am supposed to be leaving in 7 more weeks, but I guess the fear of the unknown is creeping up on me, as I am leaving a good job, a nice apartment with a gorgeous city view, and a great soon-to-be ex-girlfriend (she refuses to move because she is television and NYC is where it's at for her).
Being I am only 29 years old, I am starting to feel that I made the mistake of my life by deciding to move to a city where activities are geared towards families.
Is this normal to have second thoughts?
Hoboken, what was your original motivation for making this move?
I am sitting here at work looking out over NY Harbor, and it just hit me like a ton of bricks. Do I really want to move?
I am supposed to be leaving in 7 more weeks, but I guess the fear of the unknown is creeping up on me, as I am leaving a good job, a nice apartment with a gorgeous city view, and a great soon-to-be ex-girlfriend (she refuses to move because she is television and NYC is where it's at for her).
Being I am only 29 years old, I am starting to feel that I made the mistake of my life by deciding to move to a city where activities are geared towards families.
Is this normal to have second thoughts?
yes it is normal, but you sound like you are leaving alot behind that you love, maybe it is trying to tell you something.
Trust your instincts. Listen to that inner voice that's telling you not to go. Those are more than second thoughts, IMO. I wish we'd trusted/ listened to ours. We made a huge mistake by moving to N.C. The grass isn't always greener on the other side.
Regards,
Cassie
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Originally Posted by HobokenGuy
I am sitting here at work looking out over NY Harbor, and it just hit me like a ton of bricks. Do I really want to move?
I am supposed to be leaving in 7 more weeks, but I guess the fear of the unknown is creeping up on me, as I am leaving a good job, a nice apartment with a gorgeous city view, and a great soon-to-be ex-girlfriend (she refuses to move because she is television and NYC is where it's at for her).
Being I am only 29 years old, I am starting to feel that I made the mistake of my life by deciding to move to a city where activities are geared towards families.
I decided to leave because all my family left the NYC area years ago, and I am the last one left, so I guess you can say my motivation is being closer to my family which has settled in Charlotte, and Greenville, SC.
I think the cost of living also played a huge factor in my decision.
I have to tell you, I really love Charlotte. But, I'm also 40 with 3 young children. I lived in Hoboken when I was just around your age. Forget comparing it to NYC-even Hoboken has much more to offer young singles. I'm sure you already know that, since you have family here.
Like Cassie said, trust your instincts!
You have a beautiful view of the city from a great town, and a "great" girlfriend-what's the rush?
I decided to leave because all my family left the NYC area years ago, and I am the last one left, so I guess you can say my motivation is being closer to my family which has settled in Charlotte, and Greenville, SC.
I think the cost of living also played a huge factor in my decision.
This is on my nerves...ugh.
Okay, try not to panic. You need to maybe take a sheet of paper with a line drawn down the middle so that you can list the pros of moving on one side and the cons on the other. List them in order of importance. Search your heart to do that. What is your #1 reason to go and what would be your #1 reason to stay? Once you have it all down on paper you might be better able to clarify what you want.
Just my humble opinion here, but, if this girlfriend you are leaving behind wouldn't come with you maybe she's not "the one" after all. Because I can promise you this, I don't care where my husband went (even Russia or Bagdad) there would be nothing more important to me than being whereever he is. No career, job, amount of money, whatever would be more important to me than him.
Trust your instincts. Listen to that inner voice that's telling you not to go. Those are more than second thoughts, IMO. I wish we'd trusted/ listened to ours. We made a huge mistake by moving to N.C. The grass isn't always greener on the other side.
Okay, try not to panic. You need to maybe take a sheet of paper with a line drawn down the middle so that you can list the pros of moving on one side and the cons on the other. List them in order of importance. Search your heart to do that. What is your #1 reason to go and what would be your #1 reason to stay? Once you have it all down on paper you might be better able to clarify what you want.
Just my humble opinion here, but, if this girlfriend you are leaving behind wouldn't come with you maybe she's not "the one" after all. Because I can promise you this, I don't care where my husband went (even Russia or Bagdad) there would be nothing more important to me than being whereever he is. No career, job, amount of money, whatever would be more important to me than him.
same goes for him as well, shouldnt be all on her , he could stay for her. I lived in NC for two years, and I wish I had listened to my inner voice and not moved there. we left and we are much happier, you really need to think long and hard on this one, there is more to life than a lower cost of living. ( even though it is still high there)
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