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Old 03-24-2008, 03:55 PM
 
Location: CLT native
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I'm still waiting for Drew to explain his thinking about how northeasterners "know how to act" with money.
You mean they do not all have this attitude?

http://www.city-data.com/forum/charl...ml#post2119205

Relax, just kidding - it was amusing at the time.



Like any other disorder, overspending is an exercise to escape or mask other, larger problems.
Some people drink too much, some over eat, some people starve themselves, and some people mass consume.

I am not a popular movie fan, but there was a line in Fight Club that sums up the consumerism mantra:
'Most people work jobs they hate, to buy things they cannot afford, to impress people they do not even like' - there is alot of truth in that.

Dwelling on what you do not have is a never ending trail of misery.
The most important things in my life are my family and our combined health, without that everything is for naught.

Collectively we all (forum readers) have it pretty good. Most of us are relatively healthy, pretty intelligent, and through providence are living in the land of unlimited possibility. Sure markets go up and down, and the economy is teetering, but America is still the one place on the globe where one can arrive with nothing but the clothes on their back, and become a millionaire+.

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Old 03-24-2008, 04:12 PM
 
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I worked on the 97th floor of tower 1 and was 3 blocks away when the first plane hit... In the perspective of this thread, I think 9-11 changed things for the better - definitely not saying 9-11 changed most or even many things better.

But many "Jones'" got a wake up call that day as to what is really important.
Mike how scary. I know two people who died that day. My husband was on the 101st floor in 1993 when it was bombed, didn't hear from him for 7 hours. I have been hoping he could find a job outside the city ever since, and I vowed I would never work there again. It is a shame it takes such a tragedy to wake one up.
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Old 03-24-2008, 06:37 PM
 
Location: Some got six month some got one solid. But me and my buddies all got lifetime here
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Money is a convenience, nothing more and nothing less. All it can do, is make your life easier. It can give you a temporary fix of "happiness" or "peace of mind", but real happiness is generated from "within".
Oh the idealism...

Ask anyone who might be on the fringe of losing their house or job about the happiness, or at least peace of mind, that money can bring.

Years ago all I had to my name was $5.08 and had to build my way back up. I slept a lot better at nights knowing there was a growing back account as opposed to wondering how I was going to keep the lights on. Having money afforded me the luxury of finding peace from within as opposed to the dominant worry that accompanies being just about broke.
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Old 03-24-2008, 06:54 PM
 
Location: Union County
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Wow Mike, that's intense. I cannot imagine how terrible that day was for you personally. Hope you AND your wife feel at home here in no time at all
It's not looking good... I just started looking at 1BR rentals since I won't have an option to relocate back for 4-6 months and she swears she's out and "will meet me back up north". ack - imagine going back... I keep hoping she'll see the light! Nothing I am doing is working, so I need to leave it alone and hope she comes around.

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Mike how scary. I know two people who died that day. My husband was on the 101st floor in 1993 when it was bombed, didn't hear from him for 7 hours. I have been hoping he could find a job outside the city ever since, and I vowed I would never work there again. It is a shame it takes such a tragedy to wake one up.
Cantor Fitzgerald was the company above us in tower 1 - they were major news since it nearly wiped out the whole firm. Out of about 300 people in my group, we lost 97 that day... fortunately we're the IT group and the majority never make it into work by 9am. Weird to say fortunate, but if that happened 30-45min later I would have been up there with more than half of the folks who survived. It's a creepy feeling. One you can never quite shake...

The TV images gave it almost a surreal, dramatic, and movie like atmosphere. Being there, it was the sounds and smells that really make me shake my head to this day - it was so crazy. I have very, very tame stories compared to so many others that day. What a couple of my co-workers went through to get out of the building will curl your toes.
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Old 03-24-2008, 07:04 PM
 
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I'm speechless ..... my neighbors moved to Virginia from NY last year to finally break from the 9/11 thing. I guess they just needed to be somewhere else. Anyone who was around that day surely deserves a new start if they need one.
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Old 03-24-2008, 07:20 PM
 
Location: Tampa Bay Area Florida
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it was rough dh was supposed to be in that building for a meeting and for reason decided to work from the NJ office...we had friends in the building..
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Old 03-24-2008, 07:27 PM
 
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This thread is sad
I think the Jones thing works until your about 28 years old and then most people realise there's a person inside them who needs to be real! Then there's other who never seem to grow a little person ...... and I guess we're all very sorry for them because, they don't know who they really are.
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Old 03-24-2008, 07:30 PM
 
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Mikey, I am so sorry that it is not working out for you and your wife. What an incredibly sad chapter in an already sad story. I don' know either of you so I can't make any predictions about what will eventually happen with your relationship, but I hope with all my heart that once back there she realizes that it is your relationship that matters. My thoughts are with you.
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Old 03-24-2008, 07:57 PM
 
Location: State of Being
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It's not looking good... I just started looking at 1BR rentals since I won't have an option to relocate back for 4-6 months and she swears she's out and "will meet me back up north". ack - imagine going back... I keep hoping she'll see the light! Nothing I am doing is working, so I need to leave it alone and hope she comes around.
Is you W still here? I wish she would come meet us at the GNO - make some new friends. So sorry things are not easy right now. And I have a really terrific sister who lives up your way . . . wish we could get your W hooked up w/ some fabulous women to help her feel more at home here.

Whatever happens, Mike . . . stay on a path that feels right for you, whatever that might mean.
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Old 03-24-2008, 08:00 PM
 
Location: State of Being
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Oh the idealism...

Ask anyone who might be on the fringe of losing their house or job about the happiness, or at least peace of mind, that money can bring.

Years ago all I had to my name was $5.08 and had to build my way back up. I slept a lot better at nights knowing there was a growing back account as opposed to wondering how I was going to keep the lights on. Having money afforded me the luxury of finding peace from within as opposed to the dominant worry that accompanies being just about broke.
Having money can alleviate a lot of stress. Not having money to meet your obligations is sheer hell.

I think money can bring a lot of happiness - b/c it brings peace of mind. But we are talking about keeping up w/ the Joneses - wh/ implies - doing whatever to "pretend" one has the resources when one does not!

But anyone who thinks money doesn't make life a lot easier either has never had money - or has never lost what they did have, LOL!!!!
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