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Old 05-13-2010, 10:08 AM
 
Location: Union County
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My coworker is from Long Island is always says "not for nothin'". I have asked him several times just what the hell that is supposed to mean. Drives me up a wall.
Yeah, I was born and raised LI...

It's embedded into our vocabulary for when we say something that could possibly be construed as a dig or veiled insult. It's like saying "I don't mean to insult anyone" - BUT.

There's always going to be a BUT associated with a "not for nuthin'".
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Old 05-13-2010, 12:22 PM
 
Location: The place where the road & the sky collide
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Growing up in Michigan, the older people would us Bless your/his/her heart, in the good way.

In Philadelphia & South Jersey, the way to politely hand out an insult is So. . .(insert comment), that's a shame. For instance when the neighborhood know-it-all come to lodge a complaint, the response could be, So. . . you don't like the color that I painted the house?. .. .That's a shame. That is said instead of telling them to go eat dirt.
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Old 05-13-2010, 01:28 PM
 
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It's used in different contexts because it's seems to be perceived as more "polite" to say BYH,than to say what they're really thinking about someone.

Also takes less time, thought and articulation.

Bit of a cop out really, but may avoid any confrontation if the person on the receiving end isn't sure of the context.
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Old 05-13-2010, 03:11 PM
 
Location: Pixley
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The real low down is that you can say anything about anyone as long as you say bless your heart after it your ok. For instance you can say my neighbor is going through some tough times and cheating on her husband bless her heart Note the dig and then the cover with bless her heart. It's a way to say something about someone and at the same time time cya because you said bless at the end
This is the same premise that Ricky Bobby uses by prefacing his thoughts by saying, “With all due respect…” Anything you say after using this opening line is conveyed with the utmost sincerity of concern and empathy.
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Old 05-13-2010, 03:24 PM
 
Location: Blue Ridge Mountains
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When I am around someone that is bragging and I don't particularly like, and they don't notice the eyes rolling, I usually say, how niiice. Drag the letter i out for a long time in the word nice. They usually don't notice it as an insult and it is my inside joke.
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Old 05-13-2010, 03:32 PM
 
Location: NH and lovin' it!
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Wow, I never had an idea that "bless your heart" could mean so much, as evidenced by the replies here. Twenty-seven years ago when I moved to the south, I learned that it meant, "You are dumb as a rock if you can't figure out how you got into that situation," or something like that. I do believe it means anything the speaker wants it to, though.
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Old 05-13-2010, 04:43 PM
 
Location: The 12th State
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A true Southern gentleman or lady will use it out of sincerity.
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Old 05-13-2010, 05:11 PM
 
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This is the same premise that Ricky Bobby uses by prefacing his thoughts by saying, “With all due respect…” Anything you say after using this opening line is conveyed with the utmost sincerity of concern and empathy.
Now I find it quite amusing when people refer to race or ethnicity in a negative way,and then say -"not that I'm racist of course"...

Our neighbors have a great saying-"we're just trying to be good neighbors"-used when (for eg) we spoke to them when they buried sprinkler heads in our lake access lot without asking us and set them to come on at 5pm each day meaning we couldn't get down to our lakeside patio or dock without getting soaked.Bless their hearts.

I would like to thing that BYH would be used in a sincere way, a bit like we would say God bless or bless you.
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Old 05-13-2010, 05:22 PM
 
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Interesting post...I've NEVER heard "bless your heart" up north (I lived in Pittsburgh, Philly, and a tiny stint in Plainsboro NJ)...and I've ONLY heard it here (Raleigh/Cary) in the sweetest, most sincere situations. e.g. blood-shot eyed checking into the emergency room at 1AM..."how old is your daughter"..."2"..."bless your heart". It has always meant something like, "wow, I'm very sorry, I feel for you, you keep in there" sort of thing. And I believe I generally heard it from older southerners. I remember in the hospital situation it really made me feel nice the way it was said- very sincere. I can't imagine hearing it being said any other way...and I hope I never do!
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Old 05-14-2010, 07:29 AM
 
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There you go hahahaha
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