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Old 09-02-2008, 01:33 PM
 
Location: mooresville
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I really hate to throw swords here, but there are always two sides to every story.Sounds like he has already moved on to another woman with two kids. Is he helping with those bills since they are living together? The courts will not look favorably on this situation. Has he considered how his children feel about their dad living with another woman and her children. It's always the kids who suffer in these circumstances. A custody battle will be terribly expensive. Your brother could use social services if he cannot afford an attorney. Someone needs to step up and do what is best for these kids. Mediation would be the best route to take.Parents spend a lifetime raising children,so I suggest trying whatever it takes to get along. Who wants to waste all that time fighting?
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Old 09-02-2008, 07:51 PM
 
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I think he did hire an attorney at first and it was really expensive and he didn't like him. Also the reason he is moving in with this other girl so soon is b/c his house almost got foreclosed due to his ex wife's inability/refusal to pay for it. His new girlfriends lease just ended so it was more convenient to move in together to save money. She pays for her kids bills along with her ex husband. Also I'm not worried about the kids and this new lady, they love her and the little one calls her mom now much to the dismay of his ex.
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Old 09-03-2008, 08:18 AM
 
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I think he did hire an attorney at first and it was really expensive and he didn't like him. Also the reason he is moving in with this other girl so soon is b/c his house almost got foreclosed due to his ex wife's inability/refusal to pay for it. His new girlfriends lease just ended so it was more convenient to move in together to save money. She pays for her kids bills along with her ex husband. Also I'm not worried about the kids and this new lady, they love her and the little one calls her mom now much to the dismay of his ex.
He should seriously consider marrying his new girlfriend IF he is serious about her. I am all for people living together (did so myself) but when it comes to child custody, a remarried father with a stable homelife looks better than the father living with another woman and her kids.

(And I hope it is a stable homelife. Since the kids are already attached to her, it would be a shame for them to lose another mother figure)

These sad situations are exactly why I don't practice family law - too sad. I'll take corporations duking it out any day of the week.
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Old 09-03-2008, 02:53 PM
 
Location: New Jersey
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I've been to family court in Charlotte too many times to mention and all I've seen is that these judges favor the women and mothers all too often, so your brother needs to really build a good case and get a lawyer. Not all lawyers are expensive and it doesn't take an expensive lawyer to get you what you need.

Also, it's a wonder what you could afford when you reallign your priorities. Does your brother have a nice car, a cell phone, cable TV, etc... I met with a financial advisor not to help me with my bills, but to help me with my priorities. Diffrentiating between a need and a want is essential during this time. Maybe, he can sell some of his things to pay for the attorney. Come on, these are his children we are talking about.... there should be nothing he is not willing to do for them. Money can always be made again, but children will never be raised twice.
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