Marry your baby daddy day.... (living in, money, teacher)

[CharlotteGal]

Originally Posted by bs13690

Some areas of town could start with KNOW Your Baby Daddy Day.

ANY area of town could. You think only certain areas have exclusive rights to promiscuity, and unintended pregnancy?

[Wanderer - Not Lost]

Originally Posted by bs13690

She has it narrowed down to Leroy, Anton, Trey or Darnell.

I am definitely offended by this one. Black people haven't cornered the market on having children out of wedlock or even pre-marital relations. I would suggest the vast majority of married people slept with their spouse and probably a few others before they were married. Having a child because of the pre-marital relations doesn't make someone more of a sinner.

I would suggest all of you living in the glass house of pre-marital promiscuity stop throwing stones before you start breaking your own windows.

I agree that the tone of this whole thing is ugly and I hope that this post gets closed soon.

[vindaloo]

Originally Posted by Chromekitty

I am speechless on this one.....only in Charlotte I guess.


Welcome!

The first time I ever heard the idiotic term "baby daddy" was when Michelle Obama introduced her husband, as "her baby daddy". Tells me quite a bit about her. I would guess that the success will be as great as the million man march. What ever happened to encouraging people to speak proper English?

[SunnyKayak]

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[JanuaryGirl]

Okay, so I was ready to say that maybe that is a cute, constructive idea to help people get married.... but after reading the description of the book on the website, I have mixed feelings. Not saying marriage is a bad thing (I am happily married), or that it can't help people..... but a book about three women that have to marry their "baby daddies" whether they want to or not in order to share in their inheritance?

Giovanna, a successful lawyer and a proudly independent woman, has no desire to marry Douglas—even if he is a wonderful dad to their daughter and makes her breath catch when he walks in the room.

...so the point isn't to have a happy family, or a good father for your kid, or to have the type of family you are comfortable with, the point is to get married regardless. How exactly is this a positive message for women or their children? Another story of women trying to convince men to marry them, since of course that is the only way they will ever be happy, stable, and fulfilled. I mean, the program itself sounds alright, but the book just seems like typical chick-lit drivel.... if the book is what this is based on, it makes me suspicious of the whole thing. More power to the couples though, I do hope it works out for them and they enjoy their weddings! It certainly isn't cheap to have even a small wedding, so I'm sure they're grateful!

[BrianH1970]

Originally Posted by JanuaryGirl

Okay, so I was ready to say that maybe that is a cute, constructive idea to help people get married.... but after reading the description of the book on the website, I have mixed feelings. Not saying marriage is a bad thing (I am happily married), or that it can't help people..... but a book about three women that have to marry their "baby daddies" whether they want to or not in order to share in their inheritance?

Giovanna, a successful lawyer and a proudly independent woman, has no desire to marry Douglas—even if he is a wonderful dad to their daughter and makes her breath catch when he walks in the room.

...so the point isn't to have a happy family, or a good father for your kid, or to have the type of family you are comfortable with, the point is to get married regardless. How exactly is this a positive message for women or their children? Another story of women trying to convince men to marry them, since of course that is the only way they will ever be happy, stable, and fulfilled. I mean, the program itself sounds alright, but the book just seems like typical chick-lit drivel.... if the book is what this is based on, it makes me suspicious of the whole thing. More power to the couples though, I do hope it works out for them and they enjoy their weddings! It certainly isn't cheap to have even a small wedding, so I'm sure they're grateful!

They've become marriages based out of some mutated form of necessity due to a sexual encounter. Maybe a few have seen the light because of it. Maybe. But for the most part they're disasters waiting to happen.

I'll even put it another way. Take everyone you've had sex with. If you had either gotten them pregnant or became pregnant with them, would every single one of those people be marriage, "I'll spend the rest of my life with you" worthy? Somehow I doubt it. Would you ever be able to be encouraged or coerced to marry them? I doubt that too.

Not every marriage performed in this country is based on love the same way too many sexual encounters are based solely on lust. Essentially encouraging people to mix the two, even if the child came before the marriage...not good. Especially for the child.

[anifani821]

Well, maybe it is simply a marketing ploy . . . and all the sponsors donating freebie services will get publicity . . . and it appears to me we just helped with the marketing effort . . . cause we are posting info about the "movement" . . .

I'll be glad to put in my request for a freebie "renew your vows" ceremony. Anyone wanna ante up for the flowers and cake?

[vindaloo]

Originally Posted by susan42

Yeah,but it's alright to have sex outside marriage ,but whoa betide if you end up pregnant

The issue is that billions of tax dollars are being spent on illigitimate child birth in this country. In most cases, the father left without any intention of having a lasting relationship. The issue isn't about morals as you seem to contend. It is about responsibility. It is a fact that an overwhelmingly large percent of crime is commited by youth where the father is absent. In my humble opinion, a female can have all the kids she wants if she can support them. I personally think that the "Baby Daddy" thing has good intentions but will end up a fruitless waste of time. If the fathers wanted to get married, they would have married. They don't want that responsibility or commitment.

[Haiden's_mommy]

not all the time is marrying your baby daddy a good thing...mine is all into drugs and stealing, and lying and cheating...would you really want your baby to grow up with that all their life so maybe not getting married to your baby daddy/momma is a good thing sometimes!!!!!!

[eek]

the planets have aligned. i agree with vindaloo. wow. gee wilikers. gosh. shucks.

with that said, the person that coined the term "baby daddy" should be castrated.

i cannot, i repeat, i cannot stand the following:

"i was at tina house"
"they child was in the store with them"
"her baby daddy said so"
"thats her mama cake on the table"
etc.

it makes me want to van gogh both of my ears.