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Old 10-24-2009, 01:43 PM
 
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Can you talk to the apt manager about changing the locks? Even if you have to pay for it yourself, the next time he leaves/goes to work etc, get them changed, leave his stuff outside.
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Old 10-24-2009, 02:50 PM
 
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Can you talk to the apt manager about changing the locks? Even if you have to pay for it yourself, the next time he leaves/goes to work etc, get them changed, leave his stuff outside.
Don't leave his stuff outside, it would be too obvious where it came from. Take it all to a dumpster far away. Make sure no bills come in his name.

If he wants to fight dirty take it to the next level.
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Old 10-24-2009, 05:24 PM
 
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Very true. He is uninvited. Call the police. He is tresspassing.
Actually, I don't think it's as simple as that. When you "invite" a lover to move in with you, you cannot put them out without sufficient notice. Think of what he gave up to move in. He may have had an apartment of his own. That's why people should be more careful before co habitating before the have a legal agreement...it's called a marriage license.
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Old 10-24-2009, 05:46 PM
 
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North Carolina isn't a common law marriage state though South Carolina is. In SC you better not move in with them unless you are ready to deal with the ramifications of this.
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Old 10-24-2009, 07:38 PM
 
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Tell him that you have a new boyfriend and hes moving in so it looks like he needs to move on with his life and OUT of your apartment. Tell him the new boyfriend is big an has a temper so he can do it the easy way or the hard way..lol
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Old 10-24-2009, 07:47 PM
 
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Restraining orders are fun too, but I think the early suggestions of asking the apartment manager help is the best path forward.

Last edited by MysteryMT; 10-24-2009 at 08:00 PM..
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Old 10-24-2009, 08:15 PM
 
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seems like this very post was on the
wilmington forum in the spring?
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Old 10-26-2009, 11:24 AM
 
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Talk to the apartment manager.

You do not have to have a written lease in order to be evicted. I'd like to know which magistrate said that line of crap.

If it is a violent situation, you need to file for a temporary protective order (restraining order lite) and then go for the real restraining order. The Sheriff will come out and let him move his things out and you can supervise so he doesn't take your stuff, too. Any property that is in dispute stays until the other party goes to court for it (usually doesn't happen unless its of real value).

If this guy has the capability of becoming a stalker, I'd move. Check with the property manager and see if their company has other properties available in a different complex. A lot of rental companies have multiple properties. Moving 2 buildings over won't cut it if you drive the same car and he knows what it is (which I'd bet he does in this case).

At the bare minimum, get the TPO and change the locks. He'll get the message when he's been served with papers and can't get in the apartment.

Whatever you do, DO NOT get mouthy and screw with the guy. It will look very bad for you if you have to go to court.
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Old 10-26-2009, 12:17 PM
 
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A friend of mine was in this same situation. Here's what she did. She rented a storage unit and took all his crap to it while he was at work and had the lock change. When the police was called to the home, she simply told the police that he did not live there and was harrassing her. He claimed he did. She simply said where is your stuff if you live here. Police waited as he opened drawers and closets to show that he lived there. There wasn't anything in the house of his and they asked him to leave. He was shocked, but was escorted out when the police left. She phoned him a couple of days later and told him to check his mail at work. She had FedEx him the key to the storage unit, notifying him that he had 30 days to retrieve his stuff or it would be sold at auction. He left her alone.
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Old 10-26-2009, 05:35 PM
 
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I think alot of the responses are SOOO FUNNNYY, but as long as you have not been with him 7 years (in some states, your "officially" in a common law marriage.) Try giving him a written 30 day notice, with a witnesses present. Have all parties sign they witnessed it. When the 30 days are up, call the police (local number), let them know you have served him, to leave and he wont. They will help you. Just make sure, you dont take him back, cause then your wasting their time and yours. (Dont forget to make copies). P.S.- Me, Myself and I were the only people that lived in my house untill i got married. Seemed to work better that way. Smile and take it easy.
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