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Old 06-03-2015, 04:43 PM
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Looking for some advice:

Background: I moved to Chicagoland a little under 2 years ago, and while I love it here, I haven't been able to make any friends here. My job is in the industrial area on the southwest side, and while I knew I wouldn't like the neighborhoods in that area, I decided to live close to there (Bridgeview) because my car and I couldn't handle a long daily commute.

The problems so far: I've been going to meetups, and met some people I liked and would have liked to be friends with, but all of them were men who were only interested in dating (and I wasn't). The women at the meetups are generally shy and quiet, and don't really like to talk. Then there's also the problem of distance... there are lots of activities in the city, but driving an hour to go to them is exhausting, especially multiple times a week, and many of them are expensive (I make a living wage, but not much more).

So my question is, what would you suggest for how to meet people? I'm 30, female, sporty, and I like to go out (but not by myself). Does anyone know of rec-level pickup sports (women's or coed) like volleyball or soccer going on in the near west or southwest suburbs? Or somewhere singles-friendly where it wouldn't be weird for a woman to go out by herself (I'm not looking to get hit on, just to hang out and chat with people)? I know my location doesn't have a lot of transplants, and in the next year there's a good chance I can get transferred to another company location (farther out in the suburbs, but maybe with easier city access), but I'm stuck in place for now, and trying to figure out how to work with it.

Any tips or local info would be much appreciated!
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Old 06-03-2015, 08:23 PM
Location: Chicago area
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I personally like cycling though most cycling groups I cycle with are predominantly men (~85%) and predominantly in the 45-65 age bracket. It doesn't bother me but I would like to see more men and women my age (I'm in my mid 30's).
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