need help for pregnant teen (Arlington Heights, Arlington: travel, work, hospital)

[refade]

Hi, I'm new to this forum, but I read a thread similar to what I'm asking on a thread in Texas. I live in the south suburbs. A mother of three wonderful girls and have been married for almost 20 years. My youngest daughter of 15 told us a few weeks ago that she is pregnant. Since it has been a few weeks now my husband, daughters and I have got angry, cried, felt sorry for ourselves and cried some more. We are now learning to accept it and have tried to do everything we can to work with the situation instead of against it. The father of the baby is a hardworking, productive young man, not a dead beat who sits at home all day playing video games all day and not having a clue. He's got a lot to learn but he's not running and has pledged to not only take care of the baby financially and emotionally - he has a place in my daughter's heart. As a family, despite their bad judgement-we like the guy. My question is -does anyone know of a kind and compassionate OB/GYN that has experience working with pregnant teens? We took her to a doctor recommended by a friend who treated her like a leper. I couldn't go in the room with her while she was being examined for the first time, and after spending a total of 10 minutes with us, she proceeded to turn us into DCFS because the father of the baby is 18 ( he turned 18 about a month after the baby was conceived ). Luckily the accusations were deemed unfounded and no charges were filed. We can now continue to deal with the situation at hand. And help and guide our daughter and her boyfriend to be the best parents they can possibly be - although it won'r be easy.
I've been hunting the internet, trying to find information that will lead to a doctor who can be respectful and give this already scared child the medical treatment she deserves without passing judgement upon her.
I am trying not to think of this as a mistake. Afterall, God doesn't make mistakes, and he gave us this new life for a reason. I'm open to any suggestions or information you may have.

[JerichoHW]

I think the people at, PASS Pregnancy Care Center could help here's the phone (708) 614-9777

[emmie3g]

My husband is an OB-GYN with a wonderful compassionate group in Arlington Heights. Please pm me and I will give you the information.
Emmie

[refade]

Thank you Emmie!

[refade]

Thank you - but People will think what they want to think. I know that this is a trial for my family and I know we will get through it. A baby can only be a blessing and if people want to think otherwise than, well that's sad.
I'm still looking for a good OB/GYN who see's things your way and not theirs. And I can't believe they are that hard to find. I contacted the number given to me by JericoHW and that organization doesn't even recommend doctors. ( but thank you JericoHW for your suggestion. )So how do these kids in this kind of situation find help on there own, much less with the help of family and friends?

[jessiegirl_98]

Originally Posted by refade

Thank you - but People will think what they want to think. I know that this is a trial for my family and I know we will get through it. A baby can only be a blessing and if people want to think otherwise than, well that's sad.
I'm still looking for a good OB/GYN who see's things your way and not theirs. And I can't believe they are that hard to find. I contacted the number given to me by JericoHW and that organization doesn't even recommend doctors. ( but thank you JericoHW for your suggestion. )So how do these kids in this kind of situation find help on there own, much less with the help of family and friends?

Do you or any of your friends have OBGYNs? Do you have a regular doctor you see that you can call for a recommendation? I have a great doctor, but she is in the city at Northwestern. I'd still be happy to pass on her info to you though. I think it's less about finding one that specializes in teen pregnancy and more just about finding a doctor you like. Don't be afraid to just set up a meeting with one before you officially take your daughter in. Teenagers having babies is not that uncommon and the doctor should respect the fact that you are trying to help your child and make the process easier for you, not harder.

[refade]

Thanks. That's exactly what I plan on doing. Northwestern is a wonderful hospital. My middle daughter just had surgery on her nose there. Many of those doctors also have offices in the suburbs. So I'd be interested in the name of your doctor.
Also, for those who have never been through this. Every emotion you can think of goes through your body when you learn your baby is pregnant. I couldn't help but get angry and cry - but after that emotion passed, I realized, "Hey, nobody died! This is baby, a new life. " Yes, it might not be the future I pictured for my daughter, but it's what is here and now, and I can either be angry or not. I chose not. And luckily so did the rest of the family. Now we have to deal with it. And I appreciate those of you who are so willing to share your positive advise. Thank you.

[emmie3g]

I gave you a website link to an entire group of compassionate ob-gyns. Haven't you even called them??? Obstetrics Gynecology Northwest Womens Consultants
Michele

[refade]

I'm sorry Emmie - I did get in touch with them and the director is checking into my situation and will get back to me. Thank you for that information by the way. I think she's trying to help me find someone closer to my home or even in Indiana. Arlington Heights is a bit far to travel. But I haven't completely ruled them out either. I have about 5 weeks before she has to see a doctor again, so I'm researching as much as I can.

[sbd78]

Originally Posted by refade

I'm sorry Emmie - I did get in touch with them and the director is checking into my situation and will get back to me. Thank you for that information by the way. I think she's trying to help me find someone closer to my home or even in Indiana. Arlington Heights is a bit far to travel. But I haven't completely ruled them out either. I have about 5 weeks before she has to see a doctor again, so I'm researching as much as I can.

What area were you hoping to find a doctor? That might help people give recommendations.