Single Black women of Chicago- What's the dating scene like? (Vermont: vs., buses)
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I am not terribly good a describing colors except to say some of the nicest, kindest black women I ever met were very dark, had natural hair and flawless skin. They could wear the African prints or the big hats and look like they walked out of a magazine. These were average women; they were not skinny-minny models. I cannot imagine any black woman who would not want those same qualities.
As a BM I would say that dating for BW are tough anywhere,because of the socio-economic disenfraschisment of BM and BM incarceration rates also blk people are stereotyped as agressive,a BM can overcome this but a woman cant because in most american mens mind woman are suppose to be docile and submissive., in fact my sociology teacher theorized to me that the reason why AF/WM relationships were on the rise because white woman have become more indpendent since the 1980's and asian females are stereotyped as being submissive.
I think the best place for Blk females in the U.S are westcoast states where there
are not as many blk people thus people have less tension or sterotypes of blks,and they will come
off as more exotic. Chicago has to many defined racial barriers.
To the OP, It's all about how you feel about yourself. If you're confident and secure, you don't have to worry about where the guys are, how to find them etc. As the saying goes, "when you're not looking, the right one will pop up". However, I think you're putting too much emphasis on finding a man, you're young and beautiful, if you go looking you'll find trouble. Let them find you.
I agree. I think Kelly Rowland is possibly sexier than Beyonce. Go figure.
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Beyounce and Rihanna are very average looking bw to me. I have seen some black women (that were not of mixed heritage) that were 500 times sexier. Light skin does not = fine. Some of the black women that were models for the Ohio Players albums were FINE!!
I agree. I think Kelly Rowland is possibly sexier than Beyonce. Go figure.
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I find her more attractive than Beyounce.
I'm know, right? Even when Kelly Rowland was going through that weird MegaMan helmet hair stage, I thought she was the prettiest member of Destiny's Child, albeit in dire need of a new stylist.
I really don't understand how someone cannot think Kelly, who is absolutely gorge, isn't more attractive than Beyonce. Come on, kids! Beyonce is cute and everything, but I'm honestly convinced that someone who thinks she's prettier than K-Ro (I call her that now) just doesn't like dark skinned women. To me, it's crystal clear who is more attractive physically.
Anyway! So this thread is about a zillion years old, and the OP appears to be long gone, but I'll play along anyway. I'm a black woman, and in many ways stray from the stereotype, and in other ways do not. Isn't that true of everyone, though? That we're just like everyone else, that is, in many ways very typical and in others not so much? In any event, finding dates hasn't been hard for me, but finding dates with black men has been! I haven't dated a single black guy since I've been here, and not for lack of trying, which just boggles my mind considering Chicago's large black population. My theory is it has something to do with the hard-core, unrelenting segregation thing we have going on here. Hey y'all -- if you know any hilarious black guys on the North side, give him my number. When I'm not being snarky, I'm rather charming.
No, seriously now, here are some facts: For the most part, any woman who is kind and attractive will be able to find dates, regardless of the city and regardless of her race. Another fact is some cities have more of what you're "into" than others. (Please forgive me for using quotation marks for emphasis.) So depending on what you're "into" (I did it again -- sorry!), Chicago may be dating Mecca, or not so much. You will find guys who like you if you're cute and nice. Will you like them? Different story entirely. If you're open, perhaps, but if you have ridiculously narrow criteria such as, oh I dunno, attractive, smart, of the same race and socioeconomic class, sh*t might get tricky.
Those are my very humble $0.02. Happy New Year, everybody.
I'm know, right? Even when Kelly Rowland was going through that weird MegaMan helmet hair stage, I thought she was the prettiest member of Destiny's Child, albeit in dire need of a new stylist.
I really don't understand how someone cannot think Kelly, who is absolutely gorge, isn't more attractive than Beyonce. Come on, kids! Beyonce is cute and everything, but I'm honestly convinced that someone who thinks she's prettier than K-Ro (I call her that now) just doesn't like dark skinned women. To me, it's crystal clear who is more attractive physically.
Anyway! So this thread is about a zillion years old, and the OP appears to be long gone, but I'll play along anyway. I'm a black woman, and in many ways stray from the stereotype, and in other ways do not. Isn't that true of everyone, though? That we're just like everyone else, that is, in many ways very typical and in others not so much? In any event, finding dates hasn't been hard for me, but finding dates with black men has been! I haven't dated a single black guy since I've been here, and not for lack of trying, which just boggles my mind considering Chicago's large black population. My theory is it has something to do with the hard-core, unrelenting segregation thing we have going on here. Hey y'all -- if you know any hilarious black guys on the North side, give him my number. When I'm not being snarky, I'm rather charming.
No, seriously now, here are some facts: For the most part, any woman who is kind and attractive will be able to find dates, regardless of the city and regardless of her race. Another fact is some cities have more of what you're "into" than others. (Please forgive me for using quotation marks for emphasis.) So depending on what you're "into" (I did it again -- sorry!), Chicago may be dating Mecca, or not so much. You will find guys who like you if you're cute and nice. Will you like them? Different story entirely. If you're open, perhaps, but if you have ridiculously narrow criteria such as, oh I dunno, attractive, smart, of the same race and socioeconomic class, sh*t might get tricky.
Those are my very humble $0.02. Happy New Year, everybody.
Where do you meet non-Black men? Do you happen to live around them?
Where do you meet non-Black men? Do you happen to live around them?
Um, everywhere? I don't think there are any black people in my neighborhood at all, except that one guy who lives next door to me.
In Chicago, there's a pretty clear racial split between who lives where, and I happen to live where everyone is white. I went to a party last night with my gal pal, and remarked to her at one point, "Holy sh*t. I think we can count the non-white people here on one hand." And so we counted, and we could. This was in Wicker Park, for what it's worth. The point being if you come here and want to move to one of the "cool" neighborhoods that are recommended here ad nauseum, I hope you're game for interracial dating, because that's how it's going to be.
I don't know what happens on the South side, and tricks may be different there. My opinions are those of an exclusive North sider, so feel free to disregard.
I'm know, right? Even when Kelly Rowland was going through that weird MegaMan helmet hair stage, I thought she was the prettiest member of Destiny's Child, albeit in dire need of a new stylist.
I really don't understand how someone cannot think Kelly, who is absolutely gorge, isn't more attractive than Beyonce. Come on, kids! Beyonce is cute and everything, but I'm honestly convinced that someone who thinks she's prettier than K-Ro (I call her that now) just doesn't like dark skinned women. To me, it's crystal clear who is more attractive physically.
Why does it have to be an "either-or" situation? Both are attractive, and I cannot spend any time trying to "rate" which is more attractive than the other, given that any professional picture I see will be photoshopped/retouched, whatever, to remove any flaws they may have.
By the way, part of what drives the Beyonce madness is her big legs/thighs, which Kelly doesn't have. If your type tends towards longer, leaner women, then Kelly may be more to your liking. Beyonce will appeal more to those who like their women with more curves. Neither is right or wrong.
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