Interracial dating in chicago? i know this has been talke about a lot (Lincoln: transplants, live in)

[quigboto]

Originally Posted by djay135

hey so to make it short i am a 25 blk male in Atlanta. Who is deciding to move to chicago in a year and a half or elsewhere. I will date any female who peaks my interests but I have a high attraction to white girls. to be honest I have bad luck with dating white girls in Atlanta but I always see interracial couples here but for me they dont give me a chance. i am not the stereotypical black guy I like indie music and some ppl call me a hipster (ugh) but I am looking into neighborhoods like logan square and or hyde park. Would i have tough time looking for interracial dating in chicago?

I know/see a fair number of black men in Logan Square who would probably be considered part of the "hipster*" set. In my experience, it is not unusual at all to see them out with women of a different race, so maybe that locale/social scene would be a good fit for you. Wicker Park and Ukrainian Village foster the same kind of "hipster" scene, so I imagine they would also be a good fit for you.

*(Apologies to Atrill for using this already overused term in the interest of brevity, I fully agree that it is completely misapplied in most cases, to the point of meaninglessness)

[Lorielicious]

Ugh, this post gave me cancer.

[marothisu]

To be honest, the most black male/white female couples I see in Chicago are when the guy is fairly fashionable or hipster as is the female. . I find the women who would be attracted to you more open minded when it comes to this stuff than your typical person who lives in areas like Lakeview or Lincoln Park. if I were you and you DO move to Chicago, I'd move to an area like Logan Square, Ukrainian Village, Wicker Park, or some of the downtown areas like River North, Gold Coast, etc if you can afford it and want that kind of downtown high rise atmosphere. If not then the other neighborhoods. The non downtown neighborhoods would be a better fit for you though.

I don't know whether you'd have luck at all, but your chances may be slightly higher based on what I've seen in that subset of couples as I've been around.

[CCrest182]

Originally Posted by djay135

hey so to make it short i am a 25 blk male in Atlanta. Who is deciding to move to chicago in a year and a half or elsewhere. I will date any female who peaks my interests but I have a high attraction to white girls. to be honest I have bad luck with dating white girls in Atlanta but I always see interracial couples here but for me they dont give me a chance. i am not the stereotypical black guy I like indie music and some ppl call me a hipster (ugh) but I am looking into neighborhoods like logan square and or hyde park. Would i have tough time looking for interracial dating in chicago?

This is a very weird question, IMO. I don't think, for the most part, there is any difference with the women here in Chicago and the women in Atlanta and their preferences of dating black men. Some white women like black men, some don't. That's just how it is, everywhere. I know there are white women out there who want you and would love to be with you, but maybe the ones you tried to get with just weren't the ones. I (as a 100% Caucasian male) personally LOVE latina and East Asian women. I find them very easy to have conversations with, and just love how they look. White women have played hard-to-get for me, and really set up all these obstacles instead of being terse like foreign born or 2nd gen Hispanic and Asian chicks (at least in my experiences).

That said, there are a lot of whites with other whites in Lincoln Park, Wrigleyville, and that general area, so I'd generally avoid those areas. I'd imagine a place with more diversity has more interracial couples, so West Town and Logan Square couldn't hurt.

[chicagobear]

Yes, definitely Wicker Park and Logan Square instead of Lincoln Park and Lakeview. I think some white women will date black men on a short-term basis but marriage is still pretty rare in my observation at least among the professional set.

[marothisu]

Originally Posted by chicagobear

Yes, definitely Wicker Park and Logan Square instead of Lincoln Park and Lakeview. I think some white women will date black men on a short-term basis but marriage is still pretty rare in my observation at least among the professional set.

It basically depends on what type of family they come from. What their relationship is with them (how close they are), how open minded, etc. Unfortunately even some of the open minded ones who come from small towns across the US (not just the midwest) may date but not marry someone outside of their race. I was once with a girl who told me she could never get married to me because I'm not Italian and her dad would probably try and kill me or something because of it (no joke).

[quigboto]

Originally Posted by marothisu

It basically depends on what type of family they come from. What their relationship is with them (how close they are), how open minded, etc. Unfortunately even some of the open minded ones who come from small towns across the US (not just the midwest) may date but not marry someone outside of their race. I was once with a girl who told me she could never get married to me because I'm not Italian and her dad would probably try and kill me or something because of it (no joke).

This happened to me too! Fortunately for me I didn't want to get married anyways and this kept it from becoming an issue.

[rzzzz]

I lived in Atlanta for six months and I am just going to guess that Chicago is about the same for interracial relationships.

[treemoni]

Originally Posted by marothisu

It basically depends on what type of family they come from. What their relationship is with them (how close they are), how open minded, etc. Unfortunately even some of the open minded ones who come from small towns across the US (not just the midwest) may date but not marry someone outside of their race. I was once with a girl who told me she could never get married to me because I'm not Italian and her dad would probably try and kill me or something because of it (no joke).

I agree. And the history of Chicago dictates that there aren't a lot of open-minded people when it comes to race relations.

[ChicagoMeO]

Originally Posted by NealIRC

Good luck with that. You'll have to find White women whom actually have a preference for Black males.

I'm a half White half Chinese male, but I look like a Hispanic and I can't get conversations with White girls.

I've mostly lived in dangerous Hispanic gang neighborhoods, and, Hispanic and Black girls are by far, more talkative and easier to approach.

But the kind of Hispanic girls I talk to are the ones who have boyfriends that are in gangs and felons, as they are the easiest to talk to. (But I'm also street smart and can talk like a Hispanic person when I'm with Hispanic people, talk like a White person when I'm around White people.).

As an example, consider the following:

On the public trains and buses, and out on the street, I often hand out pamphlets on anti-Zionism/atheism. With Hispanic girls, 90% of the time they take it. With White women, 90% of the time they reject it.

Why White women are like this I don't know, but most of them are cowards and the ones that are easier to talk to are ones who either went to the Chicago Public Schools, or live in or grew up in Hispanic and Black neighborhoods.

What you said would not be attractive to me at all. Words like your affiliation with gangs and handing out those pamphlets and your calling people who are not attracted to you cowards.