Inter-racial relationships in Chicago? (schools, cities, dating)

[desperad0stl]

I am loving this topic right now As a half black half mexican male from St. Louis I found myself hating my hometown...I've had girlfriends that told me what people in their neighborhoods have said about us etc... I am loooooving Chicago! I guess a well rounded educated brown man in Chicago is a rarity and from what I've seen the white girls are loving it! Back at home if you're not a white guy in the county, or a black or wannabe ghetto white guy in the city then you're S.O.L... In Chicago it seems that the females do not have all of the hang ups people back at home did and I am just enjoying life. So yes the white girls and I are having a great time together, latinas are kinda thrown off by me but they end up diggin it in the end, black girls are hands down aok with me and asian girls... I love the asian women I did study abroad in Beijing and speak a bit of mandarin...but when I do hang out with the asian girls I've never seen our hanging out frowned upon. It seems though when most east asian, middle eastern, and Indian women step outside the box they really prefer the white meat. Thats OK. But overall I think interracial couples in Chicago are just fine!

[mrtzhenrriquez]

I personally have no problem with inter-racial dating or marriage and clearly do not understand why anyone would. Its your prerogative if you want to date whom ever you'd like. I am a latin-american women and have I dated men from different cultures however it just never clicked for me so I stick to my latin men. I guess because I am very in tuned with my culture and I love to dance my music and speak my language and I would love for my partner to understand where I come from.

Anyway, I have asked people why they get upset when they see an inter-racial couple and they basically say that they get upset because there is a shortage of good men/women in thier race and they feel that all the good ones go elsewhere. Not sure if that makes any sense. I say live and let live!

[KevK]

Originally Posted by BigTed

Yep, you can get a severe beating if you're a white guy who is seen with a black or Hispanic woman in one of those neighborhoods. But it's funny how black and Hispanic guys can be seen with white women in predominantly white neighborhoods and white men don't do anything to them except for maybe call the white woman a sellout. That should tell you who is more racist and against interracial relationships despite a lot of liberals and jews saying that it's white men.

Not true. In Bridgeport, Canareyville and parts of Berwyn, a black guy with a white gal??? That would be a danger to life and limb!

[KevK]

Originally Posted by Jeff Jarrett

Ever since the end of Jim Crow Laws in the United States, a Black man has to travel all the way to Russia or some other Eastern European country in order to get a severe beat down by a group of White guys for holding hands with a White woman because he is not going to encounter that anymore here in the States.

Of course you are joking, right?

[KevK]

Originally Posted by mel2000

That is pure nonsense and you obviously know little about the racial climate of those neighborhoods. Yes, one can be subjected to a beating in those areas but not likely due to something as mundane as an interracial relationship. People in those neighborhoods have more serious issues to worry about.

I used to live in Roseland and occasionally saw white men on weekends seeking the services of black crackhead prostitutes. Why not just post what you know?

I know everything simply because, dating and marrying a woman who appears to be an attractive black woman (she is actually West Indian but you would not know that at first glance) - and living in that city for 14 years, you quickly get aquainted with where you are cool and where you are not. And I well spent LOTS of time on the south side- I was one of a few white members of the Apostolic Church of God for many years. And I can tell you this- Morgan Park which is mostly black is perfectly fine with white men and black women but on the other side of Halsted St- where Morgan Park ends and Roseland begins, attitudes change. Not everybody- I knew many a wonderful Christian person in Roseland- but enough that I am not gonna walk down the street hand in hand with a sistah there!

[skatebaby]

Hello all, I am a 20-something years young chicagoan who grew up between evanston and rogers pk. I have noticed that although i see interracial couples in chi, why is it still so taboo? When I go to the clubs i notice that people stick to their own with little intermingling and I find it very strange since other cities have almost completely jumped the race hurdel alltogether. Since iv'e been back here ive noticed that i'm too "white" for the black women maybe the piercings and tatts.. but then im too "black" for others, or so the stereotype goes. I have also spoken up about it around town and have found that (while it's not true for all) there is a huge amount of acceptance in certain communities for a sub-par caucasian guy who gets with a latin girl (for example), but me being a black guy is completely out of the question. now im not a rascist at all but when i see a white thug get accptenece from other races but i, ( mister go to school,work full time, never joined a gang guy) dont have a chance in hell to get a good lookin girl outside of black, makes me wonder if there are any areas of the city or clubs where true mingling goes on ?

[JDubsMom]

Originally Posted by skatebaby

Hello all, I am a 20-something years young chicagoan who grew up between evanston and rogers pk. I have noticed that although i see interracial couples in chi, why is it still so taboo? When I go to the clubs i notice that people stick to their own with little intermingling and I find it very strange since other cities have almost completely jumped the race hurdel alltogether. Since iv'e been back here ive noticed that i'm too "white" for the black women maybe the piercings and tatts.. but then im too "black" for others, or so the stereotype goes. I have also spoken up about it around town and have found that (while it's not true for all) there is a huge amount of acceptance in certain communities for a sub-par caucasian guy who gets with a latin girl (for example), but me being a black guy is completely out of the question. now im not a rascist at all but when i see a white thug get accptenece from other races but i, ( mister go to school,work full time, never joined a gang guy) dont have a chance in hell to get a good lookin girl outside of black, makes me wonder if there are any areas of the city or clubs where true mingling goes on ?

If you think it's bad now you should have grown up here in the 60's and 70's. At least blacks and whites are allowed to speak to one another now. Chicago has always been and to date remains one of the most racist, ethnocentric enclaves in the US.

It has gotten somewhat better but only on the surface. If you pose this question 2 decades from now and look up racist, enclaves and polarization in the dictionary it will say: See Chicago.

Sadly, It's always been that way. Generational racism and political corruption are family traditions in Chicago past and present. I have no doubt that it will never change.

[Intergalactic]

It depends on what high school people attended. If the high school is integrated, the alums will be open to interracial relationships for the rest of their lives.

[Irishtom29]

Originally Posted by skatebaby

Hello all, I am a 20-something years young chicagoan who grew up between evanston and rogers pk. I have noticed that although i see interracial couples in chi, why is it still so taboo? When I go to the clubs i notice that people stick to their own with little intermingling and I find it very strange since other cities have almost completely jumped the race hurdel alltogether. Since iv'e been back here ive noticed that i'm too "white" for the black women maybe the piercings and tatts.. but then im too "black" for others, or so the stereotype goes. I have also spoken up about it around town and have found that (while it's not true for all) there is a huge amount of acceptance in certain communities for a sub-par caucasian guy who gets with a latin girl (for example), but me being a black guy is completely out of the question. now im not a rascist at all but when i see a white thug get accptenece from other races but i, ( mister go to school,work full time, never joined a gang guy) dont have a chance in hell to get a good lookin girl outside of black, makes me wonder if there are any areas of the city or clubs where true mingling goes on ?

White girls like guys who know how to capitalize.

[tb4000]

Haven't we heard this song before?

I'll level with you, it depends greatly. Like I said, you go down to the loop you see IR couples constantly. I'm black, and my current girlfriend is Korean. I live in Hammond in the NWI area but commute up to the city for my career, she lives there already. To be blunt, as far as dating other races, if you're a white guy you pretty much will be accepted across the board unless they just harbor some kind of grudge, but that's how it is unfortunately.