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Old 07-16-2010, 11:30 AM
 
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What if a wife refuses to obey her husband in important decisions, says she's going to do what she wants, and this is detrimental to the relationship? Would this be grounds for the husband to divorce her? If not, then how can the marriage function properly when one spouse is in constant rebellion?
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Old 07-16-2010, 11:36 AM
 
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obey? What is she, a puppy?

Can you give some examples....
Marriage should be an equal partnership, not a dictatorship.
Both parties should respect each other and talk over differences in opinion and come to agreements, compromises, etc.
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Old 07-16-2010, 11:37 AM
 
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sorry now that I've asked for examples... I gotta run.
Didn't realize the time is getting away from me.
Be back tonight.
peace,
sparrow
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Old 07-16-2010, 11:39 AM
 
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Agree w/.sparrow
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Old 07-16-2010, 11:42 AM
 
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What if a wife refuses to obey her husband in important decisions, says she's going to do what she wants, and this is detrimental to the relationship? Would this be grounds for the husband to divorce her? If not, then how can the marriage function properly when one spouse is in constant rebellion?
No . . . but having a husband with this kind of attitude surely is!!
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Old 07-16-2010, 11:49 AM
 
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Well, we're given the book of Hosea as the prime example of how God loves us unconditionally, and then we're told to love our wives as Christ loves the church...
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Old 07-16-2010, 11:51 AM
 
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What if a wife refuses to obey her husband in important decisions, says she's going to do what she wants, and this is detrimental to the relationship? Would this be grounds for the husband to divorce her? If not, then how can the marriage function properly when one spouse is in constant rebellion?


To generalized to have an opinion for the most part.

My wife don't obey me because I do not feel the need to order her around and neither should any other husband.
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Old 07-16-2010, 12:02 PM
 
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What if a wife refuses to obey her husband in important decisions, says she's going to do what she wants, and this is detrimental to the relationship? Would this be grounds for the husband to divorce her? If not, then how can the marriage function properly when one spouse is in constant rebellion?
I guess my first question would be if YOU, as the head of the house, obey the Lord in all things?
What does the Lord do, when we do not obey Him?
Does he push us away, or does he woo us? Is He patient and long-suffering with us?

Another question: are you looking for grounds for divorce?
If so, there is something also wrong, with the condition of your own heart.
Why do you want to get rid of your wife?
Women today do not understand the Biblical model of marriage, most of them have been brainwashed by society. This is probably what is wrong with your wife.
On the other hand, when you say "obey," what do you mean......do you tell her to do something, just to see if she will do it? Or do you actually mean that you lovingly try to guide her in the right path, which is your role as head of the home?

Where do you fit into this equation?

I ask you, do you obey the Lord at ALL TIMES? If not, then you cannot ask your wife something that you, yourself, will not do.

A lot of clarifying needs to happen here before anyone can truly advise you.

However, if you say that you obey the Lord in all things and you treat your wife respectfully, and she just wants to do her own thing....IMHO, no, that is not grounds for divorce.
I would just do what I needed to do, as head of the home. If she does not follow behind you, and support you, then it's on her.
But I wouldn't be arguing, especially if you have kids.
Please add some more details.
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Old 07-16-2010, 12:05 PM
 
Location: Fort Wayne/Las Vegas/Summit-Argo
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What if a wife refuses to obey her husband in important decisions, says she's going to do what she wants, and this is detrimental to the relationship? Would this be grounds for the husband to divorce her? If not, then how can the marriage function properly when one spouse is in constant rebellion?
"Obey you?"
Are you serious,OP?

You and your SO need immediate marriage counseling to redefine your relationship. If you don't go, then she should alone.
Your relationship is failing.
Unless that's what you desire, then you need counseling right away.
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Old 07-16-2010, 12:13 PM
 
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What if a wife refuses to obey her husband in important decisions, says she's going to do what she wants, and this is detrimental to the relationship? Would this be grounds for the husband to divorce her? If not, then how can the marriage function properly when one spouse is in constant rebellion?
What do we have here, a male chauvinist pig? Marriage is a partnership. If you want to 'act out' master/slave roles in the bedroom, that's one thing, but when it comes down to everything else, it is a partnership.

I know that many so called shallow boys (using the term man is erroneous, as men don't behave in such a manner) use religion as a tool to 'control' the woman, and I have nothing but contempt for the cowards that would do so, and for the women that allow it.

Not to mention the arrogance of the man that some how believes his views on what ever the disagreement is about, is the right decision?
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