Can a Christian have sex out of wedlock? (contraceptives, women, pray)

[grew-up-3rd-culture]

Yes. Should a Christian have sex out of wedlock? No. Your thoughts.

[dojilynn]

The Bible is very clear that we should not commit adultery. However, we are all sinners, not one of us is perfect. No one is immune to giving into temptation. However, it is something that should not be a habit and it should be confessed/repented of (to God).

[kawgpz550]

No, a Christian shouldn't have sex outside of marriage...However, thank GOD Jesus died for our sins and forgiveness can be achieved as simply as asking for it!

[PhillyChief]

However, thank GOD Jesus died for our sins and forgiveness can be achieved as simply as asking for it!

LOL! That reminds me of an old joke I heard a comedian say....

I used to pray to god for a bike, but I realized god didn't work like that, so I stole a bike and then asked for forgiveness afterwards.

[Magnum Mike]

Originally Posted by grew-up-3rd-culture

Yes. Should a Christian have sex out of wedlock? No. Your thoughts.

Sex outside of marriage is considered fornication, a sin, and when somebody asks for forgiveness by accepting Jesus as their Lord and Savior, they have to be sincere about their repentence of past sins, and forgiveness does not give anyone the right to go back to a sinful lifestyle, then ask for forgiveness again, God doesn't work that way because he knows your motives and how sincere you are.

[kawgpz550]

Originally Posted by Magnum Mike

Sex outside of marriage is considered fornication, a sin, and when somebody asks for forgiveness by accepting Jesus as their Lord and Savior, they have to be sincere about their repentence of past sins, and forgiveness does not give anyone the right to go back to a sinful lifestyle, then ask for forgiveness again, God doesn't work that way because he knows your motives and how sincere you are.

Thank you!

[Huckleberry3911948]

Originally Posted by Magnum Mike

Sex outside of marriage is considered fornication, a sin, and when somebody asks for forgiveness by accepting Jesus as their Lord and Savior, they have to be sincere about their repentence of past sins, and forgiveness does not give anyone the right to go back to a sinful lifestyle, then ask for forgiveness again, God doesn't work that way because he knows your motives and how sincere you are.

at last somebody that knows the law.
i am not a very good christian
but at least i know when i am wrong.
stephen s
san diego ca

[Tricky D]

Without contraceptives I’d agree that one should not have sex outside the marriage. You can’t have your children raised by different women simply because men were so obsessive possessive about their women. Women who gave birth to bastard-children were (often together with their child) blackballed for live. It still goes on in some societies where women who were the victim of a rape were denounced by their own family. They were ostracized simply for being raped. Because being raped suggested that the family could not have protected her from harm, so for the sake of the greater good or the many (=the tribe or the whole family), the raped woman was cast out so she would not bring shame on her family.
It was usually required that the women were virgins so the husband was guaranteed that his wife’s firstborn was his ( which by the way was no real guarantee anyway). Since rape victims cannot claim that they are still virgin they’re often either cast out or treated as ‘damaged’ goods.

Since we live in an ‘enlightened’ society now where we don’t require our women to be virgins when we marry them, I find the notion that having sex when you’re not married a sin outdated. I respect it when people only want to have sex when they’re married, but saying that having sex when you’re not married is a grave sin is absurd.
But hey this is just my opinion.

[june 7th]

Liberal minded June dares not even address this topic!

[115db]

We know whats wrong or whats right, and Im not being biased here, but these days, so many people in the world dont even consider marriage until they've lived together for a year or so. Mostly because, say, what 'if' (for one example) the other person has some sexual disorder, or cant fulfil the other persons needs, or just isnt capable of doing so, youre already married to them and cant go elsewhere without either cheating or divorcing them first...and what do you say on your forms for divorce, that your wife/husband cant fulfill you sexual needs?? Thats a pretty lame reason, even if that is the case. (and I know someone who did divorce his wife after only 3 months because she just couldnt do so, she had never been away from home until she got married at 21) but at least that freed him up to go elsewhere.
Im not commending or condoning it, by any means, we all KNOW whats wrong and right, but its just the way most modern day people are. They live together first, make sure all the ducks are lined up in a row, then decide from there whether its going to work out or not, and if not, either they fix the problem, make it work or they leave, no sheet of paper tells them they have to stay. That 'document' can either make a person to insanity or it can be a blessing, but only that couple can make it work out or not.
Ive known people who have had kids out of wedlock and eventually they do meet someone they marry, and usually the potential 'other half' realizes that its a package deal, either accept the kid or not, but dont expect to be put ahead of the kid at any point. And...if the kid isnt comfortable with the person, try and find out why, sometimes their reasons are legitimate, other times its simply jealousy that they feel they will be put 'on the back burner' which most normal parents would never do that to their kid.