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Old 10-10-2013, 09:51 AM
 
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I do believe one should talk with their Pastor/overseer on this issue. I agree with the one poster that it sounds like this has been on her mind for a while and there is probably no turning back. She's probably already made arrangements elsewhere having another guy lined up. It is a heavy thing to deal with. Something somewhat similar happened to me, but I was not married, saved, or had any children.. I can't imagine what it's like being married for 18 years with children.. This man must really be struggling right now and needs prayer. I know I felt about at the bottom.. it's low times when the person you care about does not feel the same for you..

imagine how God feels when we turn our back on Him.. There are numerous analogies in the Scriptures to the marriage and our relationship with Him in Christ.

God says He hates divorce... It is a dark time when two that have made this vow have decided to part ways.
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Old 10-10-2013, 11:22 AM
 
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I was just reading Joel Osteen's book and he talks about a man that was getting through a divorce and job loss. He told him to speak life over his marriage and job because the man was speaking negative things over his life making them worse. Well, the Bible says the power of life and death are in the tongue. So if your friend is going through this, he needs to speak blessings and positive things over his marriage. Personally, I don't know if I would deal with that. If your wife stops loving you out of the blue, she is an unstable person and doesn't deserve you. I've never understood how one partner can be totally dedicated while the other isn't and falls out of love.
You mean his book Every Day's a Friday? That would be horrible, wouldn't it? I'd rather every day be a Saturday.
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Old 10-10-2013, 02:43 PM
 
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it is not the job of your spouse to make you happy. Hopefully, you are happy on your own.
You are absolutely, positively, 100% correct!!!

Every female should read your post. Too many of them think it is a man's duty to make them happy.
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Old 10-10-2013, 02:48 PM
 
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I would expect any couple that are involved in the same things and have the same desire for things to be happy. in the theist sense that would be God.
I doubt all Theists have the same idea of how to deal with their god. If they take this god stuff too seriously, that leads to difficulties in their marriage. That's why there are more divorces among Theists.
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Old 10-10-2013, 03:11 PM
 
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Because Theists live in a dream world.

They think there is more to life than what we experience in our everyday existence. They think there is some 'higher calling' in life and always wonder if they are missing the boat, so to speak.

We Atheists accept our life as it is and try to make the best of it. If we find we are happy in our mariage, we stick with it. If not, we get out. Simple as that.



And this is why there are so many divorces. It's the feel good world. Marriage is hard work but so worth it when we do the work. In the bible it says a spouse leaves their mother, father and home to cling to their spouse and the two become one. If we first think of our spouse and their happiness than our happiness comes with it, many forget that and are selfish putting ourselves first. Jesus never did that.
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Old 10-10-2013, 04:23 PM
 
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Marriage is hard work
Not from my 42+ years of experience.

Sure, you have to understand yourself and your spouse, but that gets easier as time goes by.
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Old 10-10-2013, 04:29 PM
 
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Contentment is the secret.
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Old 10-10-2013, 04:41 PM
 
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Christians get divorced every day. I would guess that your friend's wife has been stewing for awhile to come to this. If he were my friend, I would tell him to ask his wife to get counseling from a licensed psychologist, not their pastor, unless he is a licensed psychologist. It is only fair that she works her way out of the marriage.
Then you should butt out.
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Old 10-10-2013, 11:02 PM
 
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Christians get divorced every day. I would guess that your friend's wife has been stewing for awhile to come to this. If he were my friend, I would tell him to ask his wife to get counseling from a licensed psychologist, not their pastor, unless he is a licensed psychologist. It is only fair that she works her way out of the marriage.
Then you should butt out.
I would hope she gets a Christian counselor. So many secular counselors advise divorce too quickly.
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Old 10-11-2013, 07:50 AM
 
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I would hope she gets a Christian counselor. So many secular counselors advise divorce too quickly.
I could not agree with more! I think often the real problem is not seeking Christian counsel before marriage.
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