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One of my boyfriend's aunt who claimed to be a devoted Christian doesn't like me and she makes it a habit out of using my testimony to say that I am claimed by the devil and she doesn't like me or want me in the family.
Just to give you a background about my religious upbringing and the situation: I was raise in a Catholic household but I always struggled with my faith in God. I used think that God chooses who to love and who to protect but I ,along with the millions of innocents who died and suffer, were not good enough to be love by him. But about 2 years ago, at my lowest point, I found my way to God, accepted Jesus as my savior and started rebuilding a relationship with God. At that time, I was with my current boyfriend for two years so to support me he decided to take me to visit his church ( that was also the first time that we truly talked about God so far during that 2 years and also the first time I was going to meet the family, they didn't know about me until then). Unbeknownst to me, even though every one at the church and his family were nice, they didn't like me. And the pastor of the Church wanted my boyfriend to be with his daughter instead. So they started telling him they knew and believed that I wasn't the one for him and that God would punish him if he didn't listened, so inevitably after months of this constant pestering, he believed them and we broke up. Since i didn't know about the true reason we broke up and the church seemed like a welcoming church that i attend regularly, I continued to go.
Six months ago, we had a testimonial weekend and I was invited to testify and tell my story, I accepted. Coincidentally, my ex wasn't there and neither was this particular aunt. But he had another aunt(#2) there and I get along great with her. Anyways, after I testified, the church prayed with me (keep in mind I still didn't know that they didn't like me or was a big part of the reason for my break up) and it was like as if nothing was wrong. But 3 months ago, I stopped going to the church because I became very uncomfortable with the direction of they were going, around that time my boyfriend and I started talking again, just saying hello to each other until we got back together within 2 months. When I finally confronted him about the break up (after we got back together), he told me everything and the light bulb finally lit up. There were so maybe signs that these people hated me but I didn't see it because they were "Christian". But yesterday I found out that the aunt have been using my testimony to bash me to extended family members even though she wasn't there when I testified, she has been treating my boyfriend with the coldest of heart.
The reason she matters is because both of my boyfriend's patents died when he was really young so she took him in.
But is that how christians are suppose to be, their (both the church and his family) biggest reason for hating me is because I'm dating the man (who is 29) they wanted to be married with the pastor's daughter( who is in her mid 30s).
No, these people aren't acting like Christians who follow Christ's teachings should act. I think the best thing you can do is pray to God for answers and ask him to protect you as you deal with the negative attitudes of these people. I believe he led you here to seek support, so continue to trust in him and he'll show you what you need.
I'm curious, though... What kind of church are you attending that has such bitter people? And what was the direction they're going in that you didn't agree with?
I'm curious, though... What kind of church are you attending that has such bitter people? And what was the direction they're going in that you didn't agree with?
I believe that as well.... it is a small protestant church, one of the reason I was uncomfortable is because the pastor of that church and his family would always refer to the church as their church so if you're at their church, you had to do what they say. I didn't feel comfortable with that, I believe that God's church is made up of the people and not necessarily a building. While I do respect a dedicated location design to worship God, I don't believe that you will be save just because you go there every Sunday or whatever day, and certainly relaying on a misguided church will not do you any good with God.
Folks sometimes confuse the poor behavior of others, with Christianity itself... and sometimes, Christians themselves behave poorly. One really can't control or take responsibility for the behavior of others (and religious behavior is no exception).
Are you still perplexed about whether God loves you or whether you are good enough to be saved? The truth is: God loves you, and nobody is 'good enough' to be saved on the basis of their own merit, effort or 'good works'! (If that pervasive question remains in your mind, you may want to revisit just what you have been taught and believed about Jesus Christ).
Your own Christianity hinges only on your love for God and personal belief and trust in Jesus Christ as your Savior and Lord. If that matter is settled, the rest will take care of itself.
One of my boyfriend's aunt who claimed to be a devoted Christian doesn't like me and she makes it a habit out of using my testimony to say that I am claimed by the devil and she doesn't like me or want me in the family.
Just to give you a background about my religious upbringing and the situation: I was raise in a Catholic household but I always struggled with my faith in God. I used think that God chooses who to love and who to protect but I ,along with the millions of innocents who died and suffer, were not good enough to be love by him. But about 2 years ago, at my lowest point, I found my way to God, accepted Jesus as my savior and started rebuilding a relationship with God. At that time, I was with my current boyfriend for two years so to support me he decided to take me to visit his church ( that was also the first time that we truly talked about God so far during that 2 years and also the first time I was going to meet the family, they didn't know about me until then). Unbeknownst to me, even though every one at the church and his family were nice, they didn't like me. And the pastor of the Church wanted my boyfriend to be with his daughter instead. So they started telling him they knew and believed that I wasn't the one for him and that God would punish him if he didn't listened, so inevitably after months of this constant pestering, he believed them and we broke up. Since i didn't know about the true reason we broke up and the church seemed like a welcoming church that i attend regularly, I continued to go.
Six months ago, we had a testimonial weekend and I was invited to testify and tell my story, I accepted. Coincidentally, my ex wasn't there and neither was this particular aunt. But he had another aunt(#2) there and I get along great with her. Anyways, after I testified, the church prayed with me (keep in mind I still didn't know that they didn't like me or was a big part of the reason for my break up) and it was like as if nothing was wrong. But 3 months ago, I stopped going to the church because I became very uncomfortable with the direction of they were going, around that time my boyfriend and I started talking again, just saying hello to each other until we got back together within 2 months. When I finally confronted him about the break up (after we got back together), he told me everything and the light bulb finally lit up. There were so maybe signs that these people hated me but I didn't see it because they were "Christian". But yesterday I found out that the aunt have been using my testimony to bash me to extended family members even though she wasn't there when I testified, she has been treating my boyfriend with the coldest of heart.
The reason she matters is because both of my boyfriend's patents died when he was really young so she took him in.
But is that how christians are suppose to be, their (both the church and his family) biggest reason for hating me is because I'm dating the man (who is 29) they wanted to be married with the pastor's daughter( who is in her mid 30s).
Is that what Christians do?
Christians are not "supposed" to act that way but, sad to say, they often do. That is why there is a thing called grace and the verse which says that "God is dealing graciously with all our offenses." If we didn't offend, there would be no need for Him dealing graciously, right?
But it is rather sad. It seems there was a concerted effort on their part to get your friend hooked up with the pastor's daughter.
But we must always look for what is going on "behind the curtain" so to speak. God is at work in your life and in your boyfriend's life. He is working all together for good. Whether you two get together for good or not is up to His wise counsel. This is why we must trust Him to know what is best.
It might be a good idea, if you two are really bent on making a life together, to move away from that situation and negative influence for a while should you marry. But don't forget to visit now and then and pay respects to the aunt who took him in and cared for him.
Protties aren't Christians
Come back to the Catholic Churh
I was raised Catholic and can tell you Catholics have their issues too. We are all human and prone to err. Ever been to a Catholic church attended by a lot of Italians? I did and I'm not Italian. They can be ruthless if you get on their wrong side.
Actually, christian behavior in the past was more likely to include:
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