From a Christian point of view would seeking to reduce my libido be disobeying God? (hell, women)
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From a Christian point of view would seeking to reduce my libido be disobeying God?
Hello,
I am normal 22 year old, Catholic man with a decent job, that lives at home, to save money. It is simply more convenient to live with my parents while I continue to save for a place of my own. I am grateful to my parents for having me, yet this arrangement is far from completely harmonious.
My Mother raised me Catholic, while my Dad only goes to Church on Christmas and Easter. I attend Church every Sunday, and on all other required Holy days. I do my very best to live my life as a true believer, and follower of Christ . I am by no means perfect, but try very hard, and have seen my faith grow over the years.
My problem is this: I happen to have a very high libido, yet am very homely looking in the physical sense. I have never had one date, or even one female express the smallest inkling of interest. With my physical deformities it is unlikely that I will ever have a romantic/intimate relationship with a woman.
My Mom and I have talked about this several times. I have told her that I accept it for what it is. For whatever reason this is how God ordained that I look- I must suffer the consequences for life!
However, when I requested relief from the pain of the curse a strong libido, My Mother and I had a huge argument. Certain antidepressants also offer the side-effect of reducing libido- I simply purposed to her that a prescribed antidepressant might offer relief from my intense unrequited romantic desires, therefore allowing me to focus all of my energy on more productive matters.
My mother claims that to attempt to reduce my libido through antidepressants, would be to; "sell my soul"! She says that I would be rejecting the way God intended that I be.
When I attempt to explain that a libido has no purpose for me (other than misery) my Mom refuses to listen and only insists that it will die down, "in a few years"! I am 22, so that "few years" could be as many as 25 years, before I have little to no desire for romantic intimacy!
Further discussion on this subject only leads to more disagreement, and often tears on her part. She has threatened to leave my out of her will due to this! Ultimately, I end up having to placate her by grudgingly agreeing that I will not go through with this. Yet, I often think to myself that the prospect of living another quarter century with a strong unrequited libido that life will only be an insurmountable uphill battle.
I simply want relief, from desiring women who have 0 romantic interest on me. I would think such arrangement would be "win win" for myself, and the women disgusted by the very notion of a guy with my physical features looking at them admiringly. I gave up pursuing women long ago, yet I often find it difficult to resist admiring an attractive women, I may see at the grocery store, on the train, etc. I try hard to be discreet, but I'm sure they often recognize how I feel!
Does anyone have any suggestions? Should I go against my Mother's wishes, and risk being written out of her will? She becomes so distraught when I calmly discuss my feelings with her, I have given up trying to reason with her at all!
My Father is going through some personal troubles of his own and is quite distant right now-so talking to him is really not much of an option.
Thank you for reading all of this. From a Christian point of view would seeking to reduce my libido be disobeying God? I hope that someone can guide me!
Can you stop taking these mind-altering drugs ?
I would make that a goal, unless you truly need them
out of severe insanity, prescribed by a legitimate physician.
Do not subject yourself to pornography. It will only hurt you.
My simple advice is to stop thinking of sex, and start
thinking about love. Love from a woman will make you happy.
Love rooted in friendship, trust and shared goals.
Give your love, have courage ! Take rejection lightly.
For many women, physical comeliness is not nearly as
important as personality. Just look for love, not sex.
Do not subject yourself to pornography.
My simple advice is to stop thinking of sex, and start
thinking about love..
I do not view pornography- I do have enough self-control to avoid that.
Why should I NOT enjoy a sexual relationship with a woman? God created me to desire that, yet you encourage me to smother that desire without medicinal assistance!?
I would LOVE to be able to turn-off my sexual desire using mind trickery. However at age 22, my libido is naturally stronger than it has ever been (or may ever be)! It does seem I will need some medical help to find relief!
Whatever you decide I encourage you to refrain from producing offspring.
Let me correct you on a few things here. How you look has nothing to do with "how god ordained you to look". Your phenotype is determined by your genotype. Period end of discussion on that topic.
Second for your mother to say she is going to cut you out of her will because you have a high libido goes to show she is has no understanding about human physiology.
Your high libido could last till your 40's. There is no magical number that when you turn X age that your libido just stops.
Perhaps you can help yourself once you understand a bit more about it.
From a Christian point of view would seeking to reduce my libido be disobeying God?
Hello,
I am normal 22 year old, Catholic man with a decent job, that lives at home, to save money. It is simply more convenient to live with my parents while I continue to save for a place of my own. I am grateful to my parents for having me, yet this arrangement is far from completely harmonious.
My Mother raised me Catholic, while my Dad only goes to Church on Christmas and Easter. I attend Church every Sunday, and on all other required Holy days. I do my very best to live my life as a true believer, and follower of Christ . I am by no means perfect, but try very hard, and have seen my faith grow over the years.
My problem is this: I happen to have a very high libido, yet am very homely looking in the physical sense. I have never had one date, or even one female express the smallest inkling of interest. With my physical deformities it is unlikely that I will ever have a romantic/intimate relationship with a woman.
My Mom and I have talked about this several times. I have told her that I accept it for what it is. For whatever reason this is how God ordained that I look- I must suffer the consequences for life!
However, when I requested relief from the pain of the curse a strong libido, My Mother and I had a huge argument. Certain antidepressants also offer the side-effect of reducing libido- I simply purposed to her that a prescribed antidepressant might offer relief from my intense unrequited romantic desires, therefore allowing me to focus all of my energy on more productive matters.
My mother claims that to attempt to reduce my libido through antidepressants, would be to; "sell my soul"! She says that I would be rejecting the way God intended that I be.
When I attempt to explain that a libido has no purpose for me (other than misery) my Mom refuses to listen and only insists that it will die down, "in a few years"! I am 22, so that "few years" could be as many as 25 years, before I have little to no desire for romantic intimacy!
Further discussion on this subject only leads to more disagreement, and often tears on her part. She has threatened to leave my out of her will due to this! Ultimately, I end up having to placate her by grudgingly agreeing that I will not go through with this. Yet, I often think to myself that the prospect of living another quarter century with a strong unrequited libido that life will only be an insurmountable uphill battle.
I simply want relief, from desiring women who have 0 romantic interest on me. I would think such arrangement would be "win win" for myself, and the women disgusted by the very notion of a guy with my physical features looking at them admiringly. I gave up pursuing women long ago, yet I often find it difficult to resist admiring an attractive women, I may see at the grocery store, on the train, etc. I try hard to be discreet, but I'm sure they often recognize how I feel!
Does anyone have any suggestions? Should I go against my Mother's wishes, and risk being written out of her will? She becomes so distraught when I calmly discuss my feelings with her, I have given up trying to reason with her at all!
My Father is going through some personal troubles of his own and is quite distant right now-so talking to him is really not much of an option.
Thank you for reading all of this. From a Christian point of view would seeking to reduce my libido be disobeying God? I hope that someone can guide me!
I am a Catholic so, I do not partake in that. Thanks for your suggestion though!
Also, I feel that sexual activity, should be more than just realeasing fluids. I desire a sexual relationship with a woman where mutual physical attraction exists.
Unfourtunately, due to my physical appearence, that is most likely impossible (no woman has ever expressed ANY interest). Thst is why I am trying to take something to reduce, or turn off my libdio entirely. My Mother, claims that I would be "disobeying God", and committing "mortal sin" by trying to suppress my sexual desires through prescribed medication.
I am a Catholic so, I do not partake in that. Thanks for your suggestion though!
Also, I feel that sexual activity, should be more than just realeasing fluids. I desire a sexual relationship with a woman where mutual physical attraction exists.
Unfourtunately, due to my physical appearence, that is most likely impossible (no woman has ever expressed ANY interest). Thst is why I am trying to take something to reduce, or turn off my libdio entirely. My Mother, claims that I would be "disobeying God", and committing "mortal sin" by trying to suppress my sexual desires through prescribed medication.
Your mother does not understand much about human physiology nor does she know what god thinks.
Perhaps girls are not showing interest for reasons other than your looks...did you ever consider that?
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