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Personally, I would suggest letting the frindship take its course and checking out other possibilities as far as relationships. Friends are good to have.
Personally, I would suggest letting the friendship take its course and checking out other possibilities as far as relationships. Friends are good to have.
I suggested to the OP in the link I posted, which was removed, that she do this, but according to her, there is no guy who is romantically interested in her.
I suggested to the OP in the link I posted, which was removed, that she do this, but according to her, there is no guy who is romantically interested in her.
So? She is going to have to wait amyway, right? work on the friendship while waiting.
The male pays for her dinner at church during one of their functions.
He gets to know her at church during conversations as well as during church activities.
He takes her out to dinner twice and pays for both of them.
The first time it is casual. The two of them sit across from each-other.
The second time he sits next to her and they have a personal one on one conversation.
The female begins to wonder if he is just being a gentleman or does he want to date her.
She finds out from him during one of their conversations after the second time he takes her out to dinner that he considers her only as a friend. He is not ready for any type of dating relationship because he feels that God wants him to work on his relationship with him, but he still wants to get to know her, spend time with her, have dinner with her and so on.
That is the reason for my questions in my post.
Thanks. I would take him at his word. Which means, among other things, that there is no ethical way to manipulate him into wanting something different. If you are the young woman in question, and this is not good enough for you, then do yourselves both a favor and stop seeing him.
And if you are the young woman in question, here's a question for you - do you only see men in connection with your desire to get married? Are they otherwise of no use to you? And if your answer to both questions is yes, then how can you defend this as a moral choice? Aren't you objectivizing men for your own purposes, just as men who only see women as opportunities for sexual adventure do?
Thanks. I would take him at his word. Which means, among other things, that there is no ethical way to manipulate him into wanting something different. If you are the young woman in question, and this is not good enough for you, then do yourselves both a favor and stop seeing him.
And if you are the young woman in question, here's a question for you - do you only see men in connection with your desire to get married? Are they otherwise of no use to you? And if your answer to both questions is yes, then how can you defend this as a moral choice? Aren't you objectifying men for your own purposes, just as men who only see women as opportunities for sexual adventure do?
jacqueg:
Regarding the bolded part in pink...
No, I am not the young woman in question.
I am a married female in her forties who happens to be a member of that particular forum.
Having a male friend is a pretty good idea. They can enjoy each others company and go to dinner and movies and events. Nothing wrong with it. However, friends share the tab.
She is free to date others, and remain friends with this man.
Having a male friend is a pretty good idea. They can enjoy each others company and go to dinner and movies and events. Nothing wrong with it. However, friends share the tab.
She is free to date others, and remain friends with this man.
I would agree, but I don't know the circumstances, and if the young man wants to pick up the tab for things HE wants to do, then let him go.
Without the OP's link, this is an impossible discussion.
Can someone describe the situation that was in the link?
Seems she considers herself UNWORTHY OF HAVING A DATE, been praying for a man, some dude approached her and now is "stalking" her by showing up in all the same groups at church.
How should young Christians of the opposite sex begin to get to know each-other?
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