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Old 11-09-2018, 06:48 PM
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I am an officer in my church, serving one one of the churchís governing boards. We officers also are scheduled for various duties on Sunday mornings, and the church uses an online software platform to coordinate everybody. If someone canít make it, s/he can send an announcement out to other officers, using the platform, and can seek a substitute.

Things happen: people get sick and have unexpected business trips. But some people send out announcements of why they canít make it to church and need a substitute:

ďMy baseball team is scheduled for Sunday.Ē
ďIím moving that day to a new apartment.Ē
ďI canít convince my spouse to come.Ē
Etc., etc., etc.

Question: isnít it odd that church officers would not attend for secular reasons like those? And isnít it even odder that theyíd be so brazen about the reasons?
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Old 11-09-2018, 08:02 PM
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Life happens. Things come up. It's ok to have a conflict one can't get out of occasionally, but if that stuff is happening every time? To me, that's a question of commitment. Don't care if it's the church committee or being a member of the local volunteer fire department. If you sign up for it, you should be at the meetings.
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Old 11-10-2018, 05:33 PM
Location: In Sticky San Antonio TX
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“My baseball team is scheduled for Sunday.”
“I’m moving that day to a new apartment.”
“I can’t convince my spouse to come.”
Etc., etc., etc.

I would hope for the baseball team, that the efforts provided there are impeccable, and that the person's presence helped them win. We need to have balanced lives and show our spirituality to those who would not otherwise meet Jesus.
I would anticipate for moving, that you can't put that off, leaving one lease and making another.
Convincing spouse - I think that is a bit brazen, but it has never altered activities for me.

I have a tendency to believe the person's priorities are right with the rest of their life and the rest of their family. I think other commitments should be weighed against what one does in the church. There have been times I've spent 10 hours or more at church (outside the worship service I attend) and it got to be tiresome and somewhat onerous. I serve on several committees and with several groups, and there are times when I believe family time is of a greater benefit than showing up to church to ring a bell, check a box, or hold forth for benevolence. As a way of getting around attendance with some meetings, we may table an issue and check in with one another by e-mail, text, or phone calls.

I am comfortable with this in the church where I am in attendance. I would ask the OP if they thought this was a delay or a non-spiritual gesture, what the OP is doing to correct it, address it, or otherwise ameliorate the distress?
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